Is it normal for my 3 year old to be super protective of her new baby brother?

Heather - posted on 01/25/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




She is so protective that she freaks if anyone but me is taking care of him and holding him even her dad. We have had many talks about how it is ok for other people to help mom take care of him and it has gotten alot better. But she even freaked out at the doctors? Is this normal?


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Ashley - posted on 01/26/2010




my 3 year old daughter is protective of her sister. when ppl say oh im gonna take her home with me she starts crying n says no you cant take my sister. my daughter also really likes to hold her sister. so we have a special spot on the couch with a pillow where she can hold her. a big thing is to make sure you and her have some time together each day with out the baby. this has really helped my daughter no freak out soooo much about the baby. i notice on days i forget or cant have our time together she is much more difficult to deal with.

Melissa - posted on 01/25/2010




I think it can be to an extent. She is learning. and being a lil girl she wants to play mommy whenever possible and right now the only way she can is by being protective. I have a 3 year old boy and he is protective of his baby brother. Altho he is more apt to be the one who polices, like telling people to wash their hands and other kids not to get too close. It is endearing I think. It wont last forever, she will get over it. Just keep talking to her. One thing that works really well is giving her different words other than the ones she is using in those situations. Also, keep her involved. let her throw the diapers away and let her help feed him or rock him or bathe him. Let her pick out clothes and read books to him. Or show him how to roll over or hold a toy. You know he may be too little for that stuff but she doesnt. Good Luck. Im here if you have anymore questions.

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