Nobody's taking my pregnancy well.

Sara - posted on 04/06/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Hi, I'm Sara. I have a not-quite toddler (9 months) and I just found out I'm pregnant again. So far, everyone I've told has offered their sympathies and condolences. Not one person, including my mother, was at all happy to hear the news. Even my husband isn't too enthusiastic, and that really hurts. I'm glad I'm having my second child soon, so that they will be close enough in age to play together. I'm not planning on having more children after this, so getting it done now seems the best option. Still, nobody seems happy about it. I'm confused.

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Nicole - posted on 04/07/2010

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I got a similar reaction when I said that I was pregnant with a second. My husband and I got married at 18 and got pregnant right off the bat with my daughter. When she was 6 months old I got pregnant again, but unfortunately miscarried. I got pregnant again when my daughter was 8 1/2 months (right after i lost the other) and the pregnancy wasn't recieved with love at all. It was a sigh and an Im sorry. I didn't actually find out I was pregnant again until I was almost 15 weeks because with this pregnancy I didn have any warning signs that I was, and after the miscarriage they said it could take a while for my cycle to start again. My husband was actually in Basic Military Training when i found out, and he was the only one giving me any support. The biggest thing to know is that you are capable of handling it, you should be happy with the little blessing, and that your children will love each other so much. I know it can be hard when others disapprove, but when the baby gets here they will forget about it and support you.

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Shola - posted on 04/08/2010

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Babies are a gift, and if no one else is happy for you than know that we (your COM community) are supporting you. Being a mom is the BEST achievement of my life, so congratulations to you hun. enjoy your pregnancy.

Brandy - posted on 04/08/2010

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WELL LET ME BE THE 1ST TO SAY SON GRADULATIONS THEN DNT LET ANYBODY TAKE UR PRIDE AWAY FROM YOU HELL, I JUS TURNED 23 LAST MONTH ON THE 21ST, I HAVE A LIL GIRL WHO WILLB 3 IN JULY, I HAVE A SON WHO JUST TURNED 1 MARCH 29TH AND IM 8 MONTHS PREGNANT NOW HAVING A LITTLE GIRL MAY 22ND. NOBODY IS HAPPY AND I COULD CARE LESS, CAUSE I LOOK AT IT AS, THEIR MY KIDS, I HAVE TO TAKE CARE OF THEM NOT THEM AND THEY ALL CALL ME STUPID AND THIS THAT AND THE OTHER AN I JUST SIMPLY IGNORE THEM CAUSE I REFUSE TO LET ANYBODY BRING ME DOWN BECAUSE THEY DNT APPROVE OF IT OR WHATEVA THE CASE IS. THEY'RE MY PRIDE AND JOY AND I CHERISH THEM EVERYDAY IT MAY BE HARD TAKING CARE OF THREE KIDS ESPECIALLY WHEN THEY ALL IN DIAPERS AND PULL-UPS LOL DNT LET THEM SPOIL UR HAPPINESS.

Liz - posted on 04/07/2010

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I know the feeling. With our first pregnancy with our twins no one was really happy about it, but gradually accepted it, especally after they were born. With my current pregnancy, it was a big surprise for my husband and I because we had just moved into our own place and I was on the pill when we had concieved. No one was too thrilled, but my husband once he got over the shock became excited about it. I still don't think some people are that thrilled, but we're excited, and I really think that's all that matters. Our b/g twins will be two June 8th, and our little boy will be born July 13th

Jessi - posted on 04/07/2010

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people could just be giving you the reaction they think you want? I got pregnant at about the same time as you. I found out when my first was about 10 months old so I was already at least 1 month along. I found out early that if i told people and sounded as happy as i was about it then often they would congratulate me etc, but if i sounded sad or anything (usually because i was shy and scared of being judged for being preggers so soon) people would have more of a "oh that’s unfortunate" attitude. (If all that makes since) also… when i first got pregnant i thought it was very uncommon to have kids so close together but the further into my pregnancy i got the more people i met that had kids even closer than the 17 1/2 mine ended up being. Lots of people have theirs a year apart and love every minute of it. Anyway… what matters most is what you and your husband think and feel. its probly normal for it to come as a shock to your husband but give him a little time to come around, maybe you two just need to have a bit of a talk or something? IMO you two are the ones who matter first and foremost and once everyone sees how excited you are they will soon show their excitement too. and it is a little bit harder (not nearly as hard as a lot of ppl who haven’t experienced having two close together make it out to be) but its also a lot better in so many ways, your still in baby mode and probly have a lot of your baby stuff! I had to deal with peoples comments like "your sure going to have your hands full!" etc but its all worth it!!
congrats!! :-D

Coleena - posted on 04/07/2010

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dont feel bad about your husband when i told mine we were expecting again he looked at me and said you got to be f***ing kidding me told me he needed a beer and was gone for hours. Im suppose to be induced today and he's still a lil yeah about it. the reason why everyones not so excited about it could be because you havent given ur self enough time to heal. This could really be a very long and hard pregnanace. there could be complications and it could be a lil scary for them. my sister's son was only 8 months when she found out she was knocked up again and this time it was twins she was put on bed rest at 6 months cause she had gone into labor twice already she spotted the whole time and they didnt think the twins were gonna make it. they are over a year old and she is still healing. She has to go to the doctor's every month and she may not be able to have anymore children since she had them so close together. It's always nice to have them close together my son was 19 months when I found out and I had just started a new job. Im happy for you just take it easy and give your family time to adjust to it. once you get farther and they see that your gonna be aright they will come around.

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