We have a 3 year old boy and our next baby is due in a week. I'm nervous that my toddler will start


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Louise - posted on 08/26/2009




I can only say what others already have. I have a 3 year old daughter and an 11 week old baby. My daughter is fantastic with the baby but her behavour has become a slight issue at the moment. She helps with the nappy changes and sits with me on the floor talking to the baby. I try and make time for her on her own which is pretty hard work with a baby but reassurance works wonders and praise for all her help makes her happy. Hope this helps. Try not to worry and just enjoy the time as they grow up so quickly x

Nikki - posted on 08/25/2009




My daughter was a year and 10 months older than my second daughter. Surprisingly enough she took right to her, and she was always trying to be a little mommy. I also tried to keep repeating the fact that she was such a big girl and how well she was helping, and she would say Im a big girl momma, I help you with the baby. She took her role as big sister seriously and it was just amazing to watch. The age difference is perfect, and you may be surprised by how well he takes it. Good luck, and congrats on the new baby.

Rachel - posted on 08/17/2009




3 year olds demand losts of attention, be sure to set aside time for mommy and daddy time with him. Try signing him up for a class that only daddy takes him to, awsome bonding time for them and nice bonding time for mom and baby too. Then swap! Yes SWAP! Set up a special time of day when daddy takes baby and mommy and son get to do something special - just the two of you!

Also, try having a gift from the baby to its new big brother! Try to get something that has meaning and value - like a cool new toy rather than a T-shirt that he will outgrow in a month! Then be sure to ask Big bro to show how much he likes his new gift from the baby by playing with it while you nurse, rock, or bath baby.*Be sure that you pretend talk and have the new baby watch big bro play for a minute or two so that he buys into it.

Also,if you can afford it, try getting him in daycare or school - then you will get a break, he will learn independance, and you can get some quality time in with baby without feeling guilty - even if it is only 1/2 days 3 days a week!

Cinzia - posted on 08/16/2009




I have a son in his terrible 2's & is expecting other son in a matter of days!!! He loves to help me & is becoming more independant by the day my only fear is when the baby comes he won't act like the big boy he's been he will want to go back into baby mode!!!!

Louise - posted on 08/15/2009




i had our second son in march this year, our eldest wasn't even 2.. the best advice i was given was to make sure that he feels involved.. make him your helper, getting you nappies. our eldest helps us bath our youngest, he sits with me and helps hold the bottle when i'm feeding him. also as hard as it is with a new born try to make time for just you and your son. even if its watching a film he likes or reading a book. just try to make one on one time with him. hope this helps

Sandra - posted on 08/14/2009




My girls are 3 1/2 years apart. I was worried also. Turns out my oldest loves being a big sis. She wants to help all the time. We made a point to give her some time just with her and mommy...or her and daddy...that way she doesn't feel like the baby is taking over...8 weeks so far and were doing good! Best of luck.

Shana - posted on 08/13/2009




We just had number two with my oldest being 23 months old. She is helping get stuff for the baby and keeping her independence. She has not regressed like I thought she might. In fact, she has become more determined to be a big girl and do more things independently. I am still able to spend time with her when the baby is sleeping or when I put her to bed. The hardest part has been juggling and meeting the needs of two kids simultaneously. Good luck.

Kerri - posted on 08/13/2009




When we had our second baby our eldest son was just over 3 and we tried to include him with helping with the baby (eg getting a nappy, helping to give baby a wash down in the bath etc) I also tried to make sure that i had one on one time with my 3 year old when bub was sleeping even if it was only for half an hour. Don't worry too much your 3 year old will adjust and it won't take long for your new bub to be up and playing with your 3 year old. Good luck

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