Worried about not being ready the baby #2. Any advise?

Minerva - posted on 08/28/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )




I have a 4 year old girl & in January Im having a little boy. My daughter is used to children around because I have a nephew thats 2 1/2 & a step-son that 6. I explained to her she's going to be a big sister & she's ecstatic. She seems to understand it well & I gave her a baby doll & her & her step-brother say they are "practicing" for the baby's arrival. The only issue is I feel completely overwhelmed and like if I'm not going to be ready at all. This pregnancy I find out I have a bi-conarate uterus (like a heart shaped uterus) & that the only problem with this is if the baby is on the opposite side of where my daughter was I could not last all 40 weeks so they would have to monitor me. The biggest issue is I didn't know I had this with my first daughter & so we don't know what side is the "good" side. So I keep worrying the baby is going to come early & catch me off guard. & to make things a little worse I feel like its been so long I don't remember how to prepare for a baby. I can't relax at all. I feel like I need to have the baby shower planned & start buying baby stuff or at least dressers to put away the stuff I am going to get at the baby shower. & the problem is I feel like I still haven't done enough & I am not prepared. Any advise?


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Sarah - posted on 10/10/2012




I am also expecting a little boy in January...and I say since it is bothering you so, get started! Start with necessities. Set up the crib/bassinet..wash a single load of laundry, onsies, afew rompers in the smallest size you have, socks, recieving blankets...and certainly put them in a dresser if you have one. If not folded neatly in a laundry basket will do for now. Buy a pack of diapers and wipes and cream. Baby bath, fever med, gas med, thermometer. (you know, the stuff you want on hand so you aren't running out in the middle of the night) A car seat is another must have to even leave the hospital. January is still quite a way off, in many ways, but it can't hurt to have these things ready. I think it will relieve some of your stress and put your mind at ease to have the basics on hand. Certainly plan the shower a little early if you like and if it will relieve your mind. The other baby "essentials", strollers, funiture, changing pads, decorations can all in a pinch be procured after delivery if necessary, or at the shower. Try not to worry and be happy, delivery day has a way of sneaking up on us all and wether we are ready or not. So be as ready as you are comfortable with, for me, action really helps. Start simple and you can flush out supplies and wardrobe as your due date approaches. I can understand your worries that this one will come early so accept monitoring, follow drs advice and rest up as much as possible I'm afraid you can't controll that so take care of what you can! I am wishing you a safe and happy delivery day. Blessings to you and yours. A new baby is just so much fun!

Laura - posted on 09/07/2012




I had my 3rd child when my 2nd was 4, I was worried about forgetting what to do witha new born but as soon as he's born your motherly instincts will kick in and it'll all come back to you. I know it's hard but try not to worry about the birth. I had my 4th @33 wks because I had placental abruption and although he was in intensive care and special care (2weeks in total) he's now a healthy 10mth old. Oh he also weighted 5lbs when born so a good weight for nearly 2mths early.

Good luck with everything.

Jessica - posted on 09/01/2012




calm down and breath. i dont care how many babies a woman has experience with, i think ur still gonna feel overwhelmed and as if you're never gonna be prepared. its only been 2 1/2 years since my first and i cant stop making lists cuz i just know im going to forget something. if the baby comes early, your whole family will more than likely pitch in as much as possible, to keep you from stressing. but let me tell ya, lists are my best friend these days lol. good luck with the new little one.

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