Me and My sons father can't agree on getting my sons hair cut.

Mandy - posted on 05/25/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )




I don't want to cut his hair and he wants to buzz it all off.


Amanda - posted on 06/05/2010




You need to pick your battles....Hair grows back and if you cannot compromise, then one of you should just give. I wasn't thrilled at first at the proposition to (not complete, but to) buzz my 14 yr old girls hair, but I let it go. Actually I quite prefer it now on her.


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Colleen - posted on 06/10/2010




My son is going to be one this month, and a few weeks ago I found my husband in the bathroom using the clippers on my son. He buzzed it into a classic Marine (High and Tight). I could not even speak when I saw this. It is not that he looks bad, it's very cute, but now my little baby boy looks like a little kid... I was not emotionally ready for it. I have now accepted it, because he lets me have my way with all things for my daughter. So much for the one year pictures though....guys just don't get that you don't alter appearances before the one year old picture.

Cinda - posted on 06/08/2010




How old is your son? Maybe you could set a 'date' to cut your son's just after he turns 2 or 2 1/2 or 3 (depending on his age now). I know that a more traditional Jewish custom is to not cut a child's hair until after their 3rd birthday. Even when it comes time for the hair cut, maybe you could compromise & just have short cut instead of a buzz cut. Maybe by then, your son will have an opinion about how he wants his hair cut.

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You don't say how old your son is but if he is old enough to say if he wants his hair short or not ask him. If not think of it this is only hair and it will grow back. You also didn't mention why your son's father wants to buzz his hair all off either as that would have helped us understand this better. I say either compromise and cut it short but not buzzed or go ahead and get it buzzed this once and then let it grow back out.

Nicola - posted on 06/07/2010




You could go half way and give him a bowel cut or a scruffy bowl cut (edges not straight) look great on our son and its not so long he looks like a girl, thankfully my husband thinks our son would look bad with a number 1 but my husbands hair is about 1 1/2 - 2 inches long. Also honestly cutting a childs hair when there only little is hard enough as it is with scissors, I don't think our son would even let one of us close to him with clippers plus they can be quite dangerous when cutting low if he wriggles maybe mention it to your hubby.

Elly - posted on 06/05/2010




I started buzzing my sons hair with his first hair cut. It was much easier to take care of, it was cooler on his head and it looked nicer. My SIL let her sons hair grow out and he has the same type as my sons, a middle brown and stringy, and it looks like it is always dirty, it had gotten long enough that now and again people ask my SIL what her daughters name was.

I think hair length all matters to the parent and you may have to find a middle ground that makes you both happy.

My son is old enough now that we let him sort of make decisions about his hair length, it will never be touching his collar while he lives with us, but he is able to not it is a clean buzz.
Good Luck

Angela - posted on 05/29/2010




I'm a hairstylist and I don't think you should buzz it either. It's summer time and you really have to be careful about burning their scalp. A nice trim around the ears and taper the neckline. Trim the bangs so they can see, and leave a couple inches on the top. If they have colicks make sure to leave them longer or else they grow out kinda funny. If they have colicks and you buzz them, they are just going to grow out and want to stick out all over. That's my suggestion.

Pam - posted on 05/29/2010




why not give a try --- you may like it!!!! Then again, maybe hubby won't -- at any rate it will grow back. Plus its not a bad idea with summer coming --- temp and bugs and all........

Marylou - posted on 05/28/2010




Cooler for the summer is great, it will grow out in time for pics in the Fall. It is only hair & will grow back. Stressing out about hair is a little thing and just not worth you time, let it go and concentrate on the bigger things. Playing with your child is a whole lot more important than a hair cut. Good luck, Grandma Marylou

Queenie - posted on 05/28/2010




me too... we had a problem w/ that before.. I have 5 kids - 4 girls and ony 1 noy. I want my boy to have a long hair coz its cool.. there was a time that my hubby shaved my boy's haor and I was so mad. now his hair is already shoulder length and my huby wants to shave it again since its summer. i told my hubby if he will go to school they will require our son a short and clean cut so let that long hair first not until the school starts, and my hubby agreed.. you have to meet half way.

Julie - posted on 05/26/2010




How old is your son? Does he care if it's buzzed? Maybe let your husband have his way. It may bring joy to your heart. If the child really doesn't want it, maybe he can voice his opinion. Good luck!

Jocelyn - posted on 05/25/2010




You sound just like my hubby and I! I love it when my son's hair is long-ish, a little shaggy. He likes super short. I let him shave his head once and only once. I hated it!!! So now I have just put down my foot and told him there is no way in hell we are ever shaving his head again. Once my son can work the clippers all on his own, then he can do it, and only then. So from now on we have a bit of a compromise. We cut it pretty short, about half and inch, and then we let it grow out until it gets too long/unruly and then we trim it again. It's working so far lol.

Kayla - posted on 05/25/2010




Why don't you go halfway? Get it cut but not buzzed all the way; just shorter :)

We got my son's hair cut (not buzzed) for the summer because too many things get into his hair normally let alone during the summer when he's outside lol.

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