Expressive Language Delay

Rachel - posted on 02/20/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )




Hi everyone,
My name is Rachel and I have a 3 1/2 year old daughter with an expressive language delay. She was diagnosed last Nov '07 at 30 months and has been in twice weekly private speech sessions since. She has made significant improvement - at the time she was diagnosed she had the expressive language of an 18 month old and within 4 months of speech therapy she had already gained 10 months of language! Her receptive language and comprehension are all at age level or above. She is quite verbal for an expressive language delay child so it often takes people by surprise that she has a language delay. My husband and I struggled with our fears for at least a year that took a devastating toll on us! My mother-in-law tried to find a reason why our daughter had this delay- things like "oh maybe she has this problem because you read too much to her as a baby and carried her in a sling so much" (?!?) So, needless to say, sometimes it is quite tough to handle all of the outside criticism and unwanted advice! :)

Things are much better now as she has made such progress in a year -- it is thrilling to know that speech therapy is helping her tremendously. The first year of therapy really focused on her expressing her wants/needs and this second year is really about expanding her conversational skills. She is very shy around other children because she lacks a lot of the social give and take that language provides. She is in a preschool program within our school system so she also receives an additional hour per week of a small group speech therapy class that we are so happy with. She likes to be around children but she still isn't too vocal with them without us prompting her. Our speech teacher says this is normal for speech and language kids - do any of your children struggle with this? Anyway, I just wanted to introduce myself to the group and say hello!


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Coreen - posted on 03/17/2009




My son is the same as well. Only recently has he started t o interact with other children on his own. Although he loves to be with them. 

And I hear you on unwanted advice and criticism. Someone actually had the nerve to say to me that my son cannot speak because I let his hair grow long and I was a detriment to my child. Needless to say we do not visit that person anymore! LOL!

People can be ignorant especially if they do not understand it. I always try to educate them on language delay. But honestly the woman that said that to me I didn't I just walked out!!

Julie - posted on 02/21/2009




Hi Rachel,

My son did the same thing and sometimes still struggles with joining the class. But as they get comfortable with the kids and environment, they seem to open up more has been my experience. Good Luck!


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