my relationship is suffering after having a miscarriage

Sharday - posted on 03/25/2013 ( 18 moms have responded )

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Hi I'm 26 yrs old and recently just had an miscarriage it is the worst thing that has ever happened to me not a day goes by that I don't. Think of the son that I lost my relationship with the father of my child is going down tremendously we've been together for 4 yrs and to be honest this tragedy is tearing us apart more so for me then him I'm taking the loss of my child extremely hard and I feel he does not care at all he didn't grieve how I had expected him too it was like he just went on with everyday life after learning our baby was no longer alive when I had my D&E he was not there for me how I needed and I really hate him for that while at the hospital he was busy playing with his cell phone and even went to sleep I'm still very upset and I just want out I can't stand to be around him anymore I have let go but he won't we talked about having another child in the near future but I don't want to with him I just feel like were done and I really don't care that the relationship is going south I felt that he didn't even care that my precious angel was no longer with us and for that I really can't stand him I have to see him with his son that he has from a previous relationship and my baby son is gone I just want him to get out out my life

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Sarah - posted on 04/08/2013

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About my husband sometime i feel that I am not fair to him because i am inside my sadness but I am trying to explain what I feel to him so he can share my feelings and feel what i feel without being angry or feels that i don't care about him.. I really don't mean to not care about him that is why i am trying to express my feeling to him try that with your partner he will understand ..

Sharday - posted on 04/03/2013

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Sarah this has been very painful for me and I'm sure for u as well I'm very upset about my little baby that didn't make it but I'm really looking forward to the future and trying for another baby cause I really really want one and I pray u get that happy healthy baby u deserve

Sarah - posted on 04/03/2013

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I had the same thing, I can understand how that is so painful.. I had miscarriage 4 month ago and can't get over it...
But I am hoping another baby we keep trying .
I am trying not to be upset and to trust in God that he will give me an amazing and healthy baby .. And u too , God bless u and gives u all what's in your heart.

Lana - posted on 04/02/2013

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what I say is if he cant be there for the worst times in your life why should he be there for the best times:) good luck to you!!

Lana - posted on 03/28/2013

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I am sorry for your loss and that you have to go through one heartache after another. I hope that life will get better for you and that you will find peace!
Also your hormones are very crazy right now (trust me I know) and don't take the little things to heart. You need to sit down and have a serious conversation about having more children and acknowledging the passing of your baby. you two are still grieving in different ways... Men and women grieve in different ways... Women want to hold on tight to what they have and talk about it and cry all the time where men try to block it out of their mind because they feel that is the best way for them to cope because they cannot handle the reality of it all!

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Sarah - posted on 05/17/2013

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Hey Sharday I hope you are doing good and got pregnant or very soon.
I have great news I AM PREGNANT finallyyyyyyyyyy i just got a positive test today, after 5 months of the miscarriage it was very hard time.

Last month was a nightmare my period was late 13 days before it came i was going nuts but thanks God

Pray for me plzzzz.

Sarah - posted on 04/08/2013

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When I knew that I was pregnant I WAS OVER THE MOON but before i know maybe yes i was little nerveous specially because i did the test after 15 days missed period

Sharday - posted on 04/08/2013

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I know what u mean stressing is not the way though trust me I stressed during my pregnancy and after the miscarriage and its not healthy I want to do things right this time around for myself and the baby I hope to be carrying soon did u stress while u were pregnant?

Sarah - posted on 04/08/2013

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I totally understand each word... I am trying o have another one but i have problems i don't know is that because i am super stressful or what this month i missed my period 8 days ago but -ve test which drive me crazy and crying all the time about my baby lost and about that stress tht is caused by my period it is hard really but i am still have a big hope in God..
I am sharing my experience in a post i hope we can help each other
http://www.circleofmoms.com/welcome-to-c...

About mary she might want to help you but the words doesn't help her don't be angry try to relax :)

Sharday - posted on 04/08/2013

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I absolutely agree sarah that's what I was saying its about the baby that I want back so badly and I plan to try again soon I wish u nothing but the best sarah cause it sounds like u experienced losing a baby as well and its very hard to get thru and when I wrote this post I was saying how losing my baby has had a impact on my relationship with the father mary doesn't know how the struggle it has been I know everyone is different but mary wasn't there when I lost my son and she wasn't there in the hospital with me holding my baby looking at him inside of a basket instead of being wrapped in my arms

Sarah - posted on 04/08/2013

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It's really not about anything except the unborn son :( i totally understand but to be honest not too many people understand that because they don't see this unborn baby as we see, they just see him as a something doesn't complete which i don't belive but i also belive that God who gave me that baby and took him he can give me another healthy one and the same to you. I wish all the happiness to your and my heart with a beautiful healthy baby.

Sharday - posted on 04/08/2013

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And its not all about ME ME ME IT HAS EVERYTHING TO DO WITH THE DEATH OF MY UNBORN SON AND TRYING TO PICK UP THE PIECES AFTER LOSING HIM

Sharday - posted on 04/08/2013

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First offf thanks but no thanks for your comment u don't know me u don't know anything about me my miscarriage nor my relationship I thought this was a site to express feelings and what's going on in our lives and for u to comment negatively on a situation that's waying hard on my life ritenow has me a little at odds I would of rather u not say anything or comment on my post u could have kept that I DO NOT HAVE TIME FOR STUPIDITY SO IF I WRITE SOME THAT DOESN'T SUIT U THEN PLEASE DON'T RESPOND TO NOTHING I SAY THANKS #MARY

Mary - posted on 04/08/2013

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Don't take this the wrong way, but WOW. It sounds all you, you, you. You do realize that you are two different people and two different genders. People are all different and all act differently to the same stimulus. If someone's love can be turned off or on like a switch.. i don't believe that is love..try talking, it actually works if both parties are receptive..

Great luck

Sharday - posted on 03/28/2013

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Thank u lana lele that was very helpful but I'm sad to say we are past the point of talking I'm just so angry I'm angry that my baby is gone I'm angry at him for so many things I just need that break

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