Placental Abruption at 36 weeks

Michelle - posted on 09/23/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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My Story

In the year 2004 I gave birth to Rhys James. After visiting the obstetrician 2 days prior to the event and feeling very unwell, he placed the doppler on my stomach, told me the baby was fine and sent me home (telling me I was being over anxious and to take myself to the beach for a swim - it was in the high 30's).

Hence, trusting your doctor, I took myself home and felt worse as each moment passed. I called the doctor the next day and once again he told me I was 'over anxious'.

Upon waking the next morning I new something was seriously wrong. I called my special angel who took me straight to the hospital. The whole drive we discussed how everything was going to be okay and I would come and stay with her for the night. Things just never turn out how you imagine.

Before we knew it the midwife was unable to find the baby's heartbeat. They then sent me for an ultrasound whereby the sonographer confirmed my little boy had passed. I was absolutely numb, thanked the sonographer and was then taken upstairs to a bed whilst waiting to give birth to my little boy.

I gave birth to my beautiful little boy. Due to the placental abruption I heomerraged severley and had a 6.5 units of blood transfusion.

What I have learned from this experience is to always trust your instincts. There will always be the whatif's and the why me, but I do believe things happen for a reason and I truly believe Rhys was an angel lent to me and it was his time to go back. His work was done.

I went on to have another little boy Jared. Believe me, the whole 9 months was a ball of anxiety. The excitement of pregnancy was lost forever. The private hospital where I had Jared had a revolving door. I couldn't count the number of times I took myself there in the middle of the night for the littlest things. A hard kick would send my anxiety sky high and off to the hospital I would go.

I am blessed to have two beautiful children and even though I always wanted three children, I do have three, just one is with me in spirit only. My children and I have our own special angel.

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Paula - posted on 10/05/2014

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My daughter is going through this right now she lost Blane to a placenta abuprtion at 36 weeks . she had also been to the Dr and er the same week and was sent home and v when she got back to er there was no heartbeat . they took her in for a c section but she is devastated this was her first born and wanted him so bad . she is scared to have another or get pregnant but wants to be a mom so bad and would be a great one (may I add). But I found you story and told her it was possible to go on and have another baby.even after a nurse at the hospital told her no. But we did find a Dr a specialist at Vanderbilt that said this should not happen again. But thank you for a true story of someone going through the same thing

Michelle - posted on 10/18/2009

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Quoting Debbie:

I love the song by Christian Artists Watermark "Glory Baby" It helps me get through the sadness of Maverick. I have a bit of a different story as I was told prior to his birth that he would never live. He had kidney failure between 24-28weeks and depleted all amniotic fluid. I delivered at week 35 and he was so bloated. He lived for 2 days on life support until we decided to let him go be with his heavenly father. In the meantime unknowing I had dissected my aorta. 2 days before his funeral I was Care Flighted for emergency surgery. My Maverick actually broke my heart with his passing. I miss him everyday but know that I will get to hold him again another day. After we disconnected him we took him out to the courtyard where he passed and took lots of pictures. We tried to do everything we wanted with him so we didn't have any regrets. This has helped too.


Hi Debbie



 



Thank you so much for sharing your special moments.  A very close friend of mine went through a similar situation and it is a heartbreaking experience to have such a harsh decision to make.  She personally had mostly positive people around her, but there was the small minority that looked down upon her for choosing to turn of the life support.



It really is the most courageous thing a person can do as well as the most loving for the little child.

Michelle - posted on 10/18/2009

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Quoting Anna :

Lisa and Brooke, I am so sorry for your unfortunate circumstances and thank you for sharing as well. It is encouraging to hear you both had another precious little one after your tragedy...as I truely hope to as well!!


Hi Anna



I am sure you will have another precious little one to have and hold very soon.

Michelle - posted on 10/18/2009

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Quoting Heather:

Thank you for sharing. I had a full term stillborn boy this May.


Hi Heather,



I am sorry to hear about your little boy this May.  Things must be still ever so raw for you.  As hard as it was, my saviour was attending meetings at Bonnie Babes.



Please feel free to contact me should you ever feel the need to chat.



Love and heartfelt wishes to you and your family.

Leeinda - posted on 09/28/2009

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My daughter was born at 28 weeks sue to placental abruption. She was only 2lbs but put up a strong fight. She is now 7 years old, but after her I had 4 miscarriages and was convinced I'd never have another baby. It took a long time but I did. thank you for sharing your stories.

Debbie - posted on 09/27/2009

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I love the song by Christian Artists Watermark "Glory Baby" It helps me get through the sadness of Maverick. I have a bit of a different story as I was told prior to his birth that he would never live. He had kidney failure between 24-28weeks and depleted all amniotic fluid. I delivered at week 35 and he was so bloated. He lived for 2 days on life support until we decided to let him go be with his heavenly father. In the meantime unknowing I had dissected my aorta. 2 days before his funeral I was Care Flighted for emergency surgery. My Maverick actually broke my heart with his passing. I miss him everyday but know that I will get to hold him again another day. After we disconnected him we took him out to the courtyard where he passed and took lots of pictures. We tried to do everything we wanted with him so we didn't have any regrets. This has helped too.

Anna - posted on 09/26/2009

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Lisa and Brooke, I am so sorry for your unfortunate circumstances and thank you for sharing as well. It is encouraging to hear you both had another precious little one after your tragedy...as I truely hope to as well!!

Anna - posted on 09/26/2009

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Michelle, Thankyou so very much for sharing. Thankyou for telling us how you have been able to let go and accept that your little boy was a loan. I have been trying to keep that in the forefront of my mind...but sometimes its hard.
I had a stillborn daughter at 33 weeks. I tell myself she was a trooper because I had a sort of abruption that we now think was chorionic bleeding..bleeding from the chorion layer of the bag, which I guess is pretty rare. It started at 23 weeks. Anyway, she hung on for 10 weeks....and I am thankful for every moment I had with her. It might seem wierd, but I am thankful that everything worked out as well as i t did. I Know God was looking out for me.
And I pray I am able to make it through next time without too much fear...I am already checking on the children we have during the night....I am going to try to use EFT (emofree.com) to help me with this as EFT has really helped me as I have processed my grief an other emotions from our daughters passing.

Brooke - posted on 09/25/2009

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I was 34weeks when i had my daughter Novalee due to a placenta ebruption. I had a Dr. appt that day. She said i was measuring at 26 weeks and i should've been measureing at 34. She said she was going to call another hospital to get me a better ultra sound. So, she never did the ultra sound that day. I started bleeding 2 hours after my Dr. appt at home. My husband rushed me to the ER. When i walked in the door, the nurse walked me (still bleeding) to the admitting room. I had lost 800ml of blood before delivering my daughter. When i got into the room they told me they were preparing for life flight to another hospital. Then they said it was too severe, they didn't have time to prepare life flight. I'm not sure if any of you moms felt this way..but i could literally feel my daughter and myself dying. The Dr.s kept yelling at me, asking me questions to keep me awake...but i knew something was terribly wrong.
They called me OB and then decided to do an Emergency C-section. 3 hours later (If it took them 3 hours to deliver my daughter, they had plenty of time to life flight me) During delivery i lost another 1,000ml of blood and they lost my heartbeat. They pushed the code blue button and told my husband he couldnt come in the room. Because of that, my daughter lost blood and oxygen to her brain. Novalee was born. November 14, 2007 a stillbirth. They revived her 3 times and finally got a heartbeat. Because of the blood loss and oxygen, she had brain damage.
She was rushed to a Childrens hospital on life support. She had a trach, a g-tube, ventilator, pulse-ox, seizures. We lived 19 months in and out of the hospital. On June 14,2009 my daughter passed away in her sleep.
When i was pregnant with my son, Chaysen i was scared about everything. My Dr. did an ultrasound every week. I went to a specialist one week and my ob the next. i had to be put on a heparin pump to thin my blood and i went to the hospital on top of everything to get my blood checked every other week.
My son was born very healthy, by scheduled c-section. I cant say i enjoyed the pregnancy, but i would love to try again.
Chaysen is my 5 child. (my only living child) I had a stillbirth in 2006, Rylee. So, Novalee was burried next to her. I take Chaysen to see them every chance i get. He's only 7 months old (4 months when Novalee passed), so i'm not sure he understands. But he will.
I'm just not sure if maybe God is giving me a sign to STOP trying. Maybe he gave me Chaysen to let me have that chance at being a mother. I'm not sure if trying to have another one is pushing my limits.

Lisa - posted on 09/24/2009

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I had placental abruption at 36 weeks, On Septmeber 21, 2007 I lost my son. He would have been two years this september. I was loosing blood at home before I had to went to the hospital. I started bleeding on Sept. 20. I was admitted to hospital was not looked at from a doctor for two hours. Everytime my husband and I asked we were basically ignored. wehad tow wait for my doctor apparently we could not see a doctore that was on call at the hospital. SO by the time my doctor got to the hospital the baby had died. I had to wait until he got there when ultrasound was done. But it was two late the baby died. In April we had a little girl. I was at the hospital for everything. I was very nervous about having another baby. I went there for every pain and ache. I was extra cautious. Even with loads of tests. blood tests. stress tests. ultasounds. It still was not detected that the baby had the cord around her neck. I had my water broke. had there not been a complication at that time, we would not have had a c-section and the baby would not have made it, i was scheduled natural delivery. But by the grace of god we had a c-section and the cord was wraped around her throught. I was never so happy to have had a c-section in my life. I am very blessed to have this beautiful baby girl..I miss my little boy every day. I feel greatful for my children. I have four total ihave a 18 yr old, 3yrold 5 m onth old and our little boy we lost. I feel happy to have such a wonderful family many dont get that other chance to have anotherone after loss such as this.. Thankyou lord.

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