Should I put myself thru it again????

Jennifer - posted on 08/28/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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It was a very long process to get my son. I had to have surgery to have my tubes blown out that were 100% blocked and then due to my husband having issues we had to use fertility treatment, IUI, to conceive. It took 6 tries and having to go through a miscarriage before finally conceiving and having my son. My question is, should I do the process again? I know in my heart I want my son to have a sibling, I have 2 sisters and my husband is an identical triplet (scary with fertility). We wouldn't trade our siblings for anything and we don't know what we would do without them. I don't want to miss out on my son having that same experience.

The problem is, I'm scared. I am 35 years old, my husband 37, and I am afraid of going through the process and it not working or something go wrong due to dealing with science and our age. I was scared til the day I had my c-section, until I heard my son cry. If you were in my shoes and had my issues, would you try again? I feel that from being told in 2009 that there was no chance we could get pregnant on our own that we have our miracle and that I am being greedy. We were told that we have less then a 1% chance of conceiving on our own :( IUI would be the only way...

I'm so torn.....

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User - posted on 08/03/2014

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Hi, Jennifer. I'm sorry for your condition. People might have been wondering about the effects of age to fertility, and while it’s true the fertility period may decrease along with age, but there are still chances to get pregnant for those who wanting to do so. See the chances of pregnancy for 35 – 40 years old women, and the helpful methods to raise up the possibility here: http://aboutgettingpregnant.com .

Shannon - posted on 10/16/2012

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I wish you the best of luck!! Keep me posted!! We delivered our little guy problem free on the 8th and I had my tubes tied on the 9th because I am officially done with the entire conception/fertility world!! :)

Jennifer - posted on 10/08/2012

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Thank you so much for that!! I love hearing about people overcoming the lovely percentages that Dr.s give us! My husband and I have decided to try on our own for a little one. We feel if we are meant to have another then he will bless us with another, :) This month is our first official month of trying with tracking my ovulation and best days to try to conceive. I hope to give you some good news! I am so happy for you being blessed with your second! I wish you the best and Hope to hear how everything goes :)

Shannon - posted on 09/29/2012

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As having to go through fertility treatments myself I understand completely on the whole trying again aspect! My husband and I fought for 3 years to get pregnant (I don't ovulate on my own) and after that time, a miscarriage and a round of Follistim and AI we conceived our daughter. I told myself over and over that we had our baby and I'd be happy with one and then everyone around me started expanding their families and I was no longer so happy with just her. I also felt greedy because I'd think of all the women out there that can never conceive and I'm unhappy because I only have one, but I couldn't bear the thought of Hazel being an only child! We decided last year to try another round of fertility treatments and I got pregnant with twins, but something was not right with the pregnancy so my fertility doc decided to end it. The last time I left the office I asked my doc what was the chances of me ever conceiving on my own and I also got the "less than 1%" answer. My husband and I talked seriously about me just getting a tubal and being done with the whole thing because emotionally and financially we had, had enough. I have to take medicine to shed my lining every 6 weeks or so since I don't cycle and after the failed pregnancy last year I took the home pregnancy test so I could take the meds and the test was positive. I'm to be induced in a couple weeks. This was a total grace of God miracle as we did absolutely NO fertility treatments what-so-ever! That's my not so fun filled story but to answer your question, only you and your hubby can decide what's right for you guys. I got to the point where the money we were spending didn't seem worth it when we could have been putting that money towards our daughter. She'd get excited every time we started driving the 2 hours to the fertility clinic because she thought we were going to pick up her baby brother or sister. I couldn't let her down anymore and I was tired of myself being let down. Sit down and have a heart to heart with your husband and you two can make a decision and whatever that is be positive and keep telling yourself deep down that it's the right one! Who knows, God may decide that you are ready for another baby in His time and show those doctors what "less than 1%" really means!! Good luck and God bless!!

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