My Mom passed away before I even became pregnant.

Keishauna - posted on 02/16/2010 ( 12 moms have responded )




My Mom passed away shortly before I became pregnant. I had to experience my first pregnancy without her, I felt lost, and still do at times. Is there anyone who can relate?


User - posted on 05/13/2012




Yes, I can relate. I will be visiting my mom today in her grave for MOTHERS DAY with My brother and My older sister. I was so lost, confused, and hurt the only way to get away from the pain is to play virtual games, to escape the reality. So many tears i cried, how could she leave me so soon, when i never even had a chance to say good bye. It took me by surprise. I never got married yet or have any kids. if i get married, my kids will not know who grandma is. It is so hard i tell you, that, the only way to get away from the pain is to talk on the computer with friends, and try to at least escape reality. It was devestating, I don't think anything in this world can hurt as much as that. I dropped everthything i was doing, my hopes, and dreams to sit down and cry; but now i can say i am a stronger person I lifted up my head and said to myself it's time to go on I am sure my mom wanted me to. It has been three years now. The pain is still there. My mom was killed in the hospital,by neglecting doctors I will go on now and coninue with my life left alone to survive on my own.

Stacey - posted on 02/24/2010




Yes I can! It stinks! My mom passed a year before I became pregnant, and I have never felt more lost in my life! I feel lost, cheated, alone, ect. I think the thing I long for most is just to hear her say, your doing a good job; your a good mom. I hate that my little girl will never know her or my dad. They were wonderful people and would have loved her sooo much...I just keep thinking, how do I ever get her to really understand that? I just know that my mom is looking down on us and I couldn't ask for a better angel for my daughter than her and my dad. Bless you Keishauna, I know how bad it can hurt.


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Jennifer - posted on 09/02/2011




Totally, Iost both my parents within seven months of each other. I became pregnant two months after my dad passed.

Cherish - posted on 03/05/2011




I understand completely. My mom was in a nursing home in pa while I was in VA. My mom passed away when my daughter was a year old. MY mother never got to meet my beautiful daughter. I know she would of loved her It makes me sad knowing they ll never meet.

Jennifer - posted on 08/26/2010




My mom passed away on my daughters first birthday and just days before her first grandson was born. my daughter is now 2 1/2 and my son is 1 1/2. not a day goes buy that i dont want to call her, ask her questions, and talk to her about relationship problems. i can relate. yes my mom was there for the first year but we were not talking for 6 of those months, we had just started to make up, when her life got riped away. if you have any questions feel free to email me

Merry - posted on 05/30/2010




I was 15 when my mom died. She missed so much, my first job, my drivers license, my first date, my first boyfriend, my first love, my engagement, my wedding, my pregnancy, my first apartment, my sons birth, my sons whole life...... It sucks. I am glad I have my husband and son, but I miss her and it's so hard to remember her. She was sick since I was 12 and it all is jumbled up memories in my mind. My dad hates me so I can't even ask him about her. She never had any talks with me about her hopes for me. She never said what would make her proud of me. I hope she would be happy with me

Shannon - posted on 04/17/2010




Yep, you are definately not alone. I too miss my mom, she passed away in 2003 from cancer (she was only 53) and it has been hard especially because we were very close. I know she is my guardian angel and she watches over my son and me but I still wish he had the chance to know his grandmother and for her to know him. I am a single mom and it would be so nice to have her still with us. The one thing I remind myself of is if I wouldn't have lost my mom I probably wouldn't have my beautiful son. I went back to school after she passed away and met my sons father. If she were still with me I never would have gone back to school when I did and never would have met him. Every thing really does happen for a reason! Good luck to all others dealing with these feelings!

Michelle - posted on 02/28/2010




My mom passed away in 2006... Im 18 and my mother had no grand shildren when she passed now she has 3...1 from each kid.. I miss her so much.. could also really use her help and advice.

Tiffany - posted on 02/24/2010




My mom passed away 13 years ago and I had to experience a number of milestones without her: graduating university, getting my first job, moving, getting married, moving again, getting pregnant and having my first child. It's tough and I do feel lost often, wishing I had her here to give me advice. What I found was that there are other people who were willing to be "mom" for me and support me in raising my son. Let other people help you and be willing to let them in. You are going to feel lost and alone at times, but remember that you are a strong woman who was raised by a very loving and caring mother. Do her proud and find that inner strength that you learned from watching her raise you. It's not easy, but it does get better. I've been surprised at what I can handle regarding pregnancy and raising my son. I also "talk" to my mom often, hoping that she is as proud of me as I think she is. Take care....

Keishauna - posted on 02/22/2010




It is really great that she has you to help her through this difficult time. There might come a time when she resents the fact that your mother was there for your pregnancy, and has seen your child. Just remember that it is not you that she is upset with, and continue to be there for her. I'll pray that every thing goes well with you both.

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Not for myself, but my sister is going through that experience right now. Our mother passed away about 3 1/2 years ago from cancer. My son was 2 at the time. My sister and I have both had to battle cancer ourselves since then, so she is just now able to have a child and is FULLY aware our mother will never get to know him/her or help her through the pregnancy and/or dealing with a newborn. I am trying to be as supportive and helpful as I can and she has a great MIL, but there is ultimately no way around the fact it is difficult.

Mindy - posted on 02/17/2010




My mom was alive during my preganacy but 2800 miles away. My lil one was 4 when she dies and had only met her 2x. Im sad that she never knew her grandma and that I cant pick up the phone to tell her every funny lil thing sge does each day. I like you i bet feel cheated. But i know she is in heaven looking down on us.

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