4 year old

Clare - posted on 04/03/2018 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Saturday, I discovered our 9 yo neighbor in bed with my 4 year old daughter. My son, his friend had come downstairs alone and i asked where she was, and he said she was upstairs with the neighbor. I ran up and I could hear him jump out of the bed as I ran up. I asked what they were doing and she said “playing family.” My husband asked my daughter if the neighbor had touched her private area and she said yes, and he asked how she felt about it, and she smiled really big and said “bad.” But then she said “just kidding, he didn’t!” And ran out of the room. My son said that apparently this kid directs them to play family a lot, and it means he makes my son lie in one bed and be the kid, while he lies in the bed with my 4 yo and says she’s the mommy and he’s the daddy. He said they “snuggle,” and it makes him uncomfortable. When I ask my daughter about playing “family,” she just refuses to tak about it. I tried to report to CPS, and they said they won’t take reports unless it’s about a caregiver, and to call the police. I am hesitant, because I don’t actually know what happened, and I don’t want the neighbor to get in trouble - I want him to get help. Has anyone ever dealt with this? I would like her to have a forensic interview, to see if we can get information about what actually happened.

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Dianetayman - posted on 08/19/2018

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When the parents of the boy find out, they might go into denial and say it never happened and they might not believe you . Be prepared for that.

Dianetayman - posted on 08/19/2018

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Dear Mom, consider never allowing this child into your home again. If other children come over make sure they stay in the living room under your watchful eye.

Dianetayman - posted on 08/19/2018

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The boy that did this has probably seen it done somewhere and is repeating the learned behavior on other children.

McQuelle - posted on 06/12/2018

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I just discovered almost the same thing with my 4 year old and my friends neighbor. He is 7 or 8, I am not sure which and we found out the other day that he has been molesting my daughter and my friends daughter. I decided that since I have no idea to what extent this has affected my daughter in any way or how far this has actually gone that i was calling the cops because they would know better how to handle this. I feel the same as you, I want this kid to get help because something has obviously happened to him. The cops said that they would be finding help for the kid. They are too young to know what this stuff is and if they do something has happened. As hurt and terrified as I am for my own child I am extremely scared for the child that did this. The cops will know what to do and where to go from here. I may be late to your post but I strongly suggest hat you get them involved to be sure that not only your children but this child gets the help they need. I hope you are doing better now than when you posted this. I’m so sorry that your baby also has to go through this.

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