Why is my child being so mean towards me?

JoAnna - posted on 08/05/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )




My son is nearly 15 months and he is mean. He headbutts, slaps, and bites me. He does not show this behavior towards my husband, but for some reason he does it to me all of the time. I am not sure how to discipline him for the negative behavior and how to show him to be nice to his mommy. Will he outgrow this or will it only increase in severity as he gets older? Did I do something to cause him to behave like this towards me? Any advise will be greatly appreciated! Thanks in advance.


Heidi - posted on 08/18/2011




First, you didn't do anything to cause his behavior. Every situation is different, but in most cases Mom is the primary caregiver. Which means that she is usually the one who spends the most time with the child, and because of that is forced to be the "bad guy" the majority of the time. My 13 year old was way meaner to me when he was younger than his dad simply because I was there all the time and his dad was not. Kids also learn early that no matter what they do, Mama will still love them. Pick a way to discipline him when he hurts you and as hard as it is sometimes, STICK TO IT! By repeatedly sticking to a firm plan every single time he headbutts, bites or smacks you, eventually it will register into his mind that if he does this, this will happen.
Good luck!

Jennifer - posted on 08/16/2011




At a year and 3 Months it is hard to discipline a baby but you have to do something or it could get worse. My son use to headbutt and bite but I kept telling him no giving him a slight slap on his hand and told him no u be nice to mommy. He also would get a one min timeout in corner and no he did not stay had to keep putting him back in the corner and tell him every time u hurt mommy u have a time out. He learned after a while and now does not do it.


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Suzanne - posted on 09/13/2011




my son did the same thing i would say "OUCH THAT HURTS" in a loud voice then pick him up and move him about 1 foot away from me it too a while but it he soon started looking at me then comming over to kiss me better, and soon stopped. i think they do it because they know mom loves them so we can take our frustation out on her

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