My sweet Liam

Enchanted_princess - posted on 05/07/2015 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My son Liam passed away 13 days ago to be exact. I am a mess. I am completely lost and feel I have no purpose in life. He was my only child. He died of sudden cardiac arrest or at least that's what they think. I have talked to people and they say that it gets easier. The problem is that its getting harder so what the hell am I doing wrong??? I was told that I would never have children. I got pregnant and lost the baby. Three months later I got pregnant with Liam. It was a battle to get him here and then just like that hes gone. I guess what I am trying to say is when does it get easier. Or does it?? Are these people just telling me these lies to get me through. A false sense of hope that one maybe I will be happy again.

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JOSEPHINE - posted on 05/11/2015

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Dear Ashley,you will still be in shock I think.My son Kyle died on 18/8/2012.At first I thought that I was going mad,then anger followed,I am finally accepting his death.Everyone has a different 'time frame' of grief.My daughter is 17 and I am over protective of her,I'm told that this is 'normal'.The World will seem different to you because it is now your precious son Liam has left it.The awful pain does go but I know that I will love and miss my Kyle for the rest of my life.He was 25. Compassionate Friends are an Organisation run by bereaved parents for bereaved parents,I was on the phone to them a lot when Kyle died.Remember we are here for you,we know your pain and I know the pain,confusion and hurt does ease but I cannot tell you when it will for you.I send you love and strength. Jo x

Laura - posted on 05/09/2015

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Ashley and Holley, you both have my sincere condolences on the loss of your children. I am much further along in my grief, my daughter died 6 years ago.

When people say it gets better, I think what they mean is you get better at coping with it. You are both so very new at dealing with this pain, that it is overwhelming right now. I wouldn't have found your posts if I wasn't still struggling. In the beginning I could barely breathe it was so much anguish. I did not think I could go on, but I have. You will never forget the ache of not having them but you WILL be able to not cry as much, as loud or as often as you do now.

Please let your friends and family know that it is ok for them to talk about your child and it is ok if you cry. Do not try to bottle it up and do not listen to people who tell you to "move on". A grief support group may help. I wish I knew some magic words to ease your pain. As cliche as it sounds, just take each day as it comes. I wish you both the best.

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Holley - posted on 05/09/2015

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Hi Ashley I'm so sorry for your loss. I understand how you feel. My 18 year old daughter passed away on April 9 2015. I'm feeling the same way as you are and not sure how to live without her. My prayers and thoughts are with you and I ask god to give us the strength through this horrible pain in our lives. Grieving mom holley

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