Welcome and Introduce Yourself :)

Lisset - posted on 02/13/2009 ( 16 moms have responded )

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Hi everyone,



My name is Lisset. I am Cuban and Dominican. My husband is from Morocco, Africa. We speak three languages at some to our 2 year old son; spanish, arabic, and english. Different people have different opinions on the subject of more than one language and even about cross-cultural differences.



I think different cultures are so beautiful and if we are able to share that with our children, they will grow up embracing their own heritage and the heritage of others.



What culture does everyone here come from? And what are some of the obstacles or challenges have you been through. And what are some of the rewards you have gotten out of it.



I speak spanish and english fluently and am learning arabic. Some people have told me that I am doing a disgrace to my son and that he should only speak english because we live in America! I found that so offensive because the Native Americans were the first here and they did not speak "english". I do agree that my son should speak english, because it is the official language of trade, but I know he will learn it quickly and easily in school.



I still get shocked when I hear negative reactions towards hearing how my husband and I are trying to open up our son's mind to new and different culture's as well as his own.



What are your opinions on the subject?

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Indira - posted on 05/30/2012

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Hi...happy to join this group...
My name is Indira from Indonesia. Indonesia is an archipelago with more than 17,000 islands and although my parents come from Indonesia, they are from different part of the country and speak different local languages. I was born in Bali island, speak Bahasa Indonesia at school, learned English and Balinese (local language) at school, speak Javanese to my mom and Sulawesinese labguage to my dad. And my husband is Sundanese. So in general I speak Bahasa Indonesia as my national and first language, 4 local languages and English. It it such a great experience to grow up and live in a multi-language and multi-cultural environment. I have a two years old boy and he starts picking up words from me, his dad and his surrounding. I believe that growing up in a multi-cultural environment will open up my son's mind (as Lisset said above) ....how do I know this? coz I have experienced it! I almost have no problems living in a new neighbourhood because I easily mingle and adapt. I spent 1.5 years in melbourne (Australia) and I got no difficulties to adapt with the people and culture there.

Frances - posted on 03/27/2009

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hey everyone my name is Frances and im Filipino and Puerto Rican and my boyfriend is Ecuadorian and Portuguese i have a wonderful son named Anthony born on Nov 7 2008. I had him at a young age of 17 and i know i had to grow up fast but its worth seeing my son's face every morning, i get alot of help from his family and my family too so it makes it a little easier for me, and i get to learn alot of new things. And already my son is a ladies man lol..

Lisset - posted on 03/08/2009

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Wow! What a beautiful mix! =-) Your child is going to have a very rich, diverse heritage! I think it's amazing to have so many combinations - Welcome to Multi-Cultural Mama's =-)

Casey - posted on 03/06/2009

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Hi there! I'm pregnant and I'm English, Irish, Dutch, Polish, Swedish, French, German, Norweigen, and Native and my boyfriend is Laosian and German.  I am very involved in Native culture, I'm going to school to teach Ojibwe Language and Culture, but I think I'll teach the baby Spanish because I'm most comfortable with that language.  My boyfriend also wants to involve the baby in Laosian culture because most of his family still is in Laos.  It's gonna be one confused baby!

Jenn - posted on 03/05/2009

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Hello everyone! My name is Jenn and I am a 24 year old MUTT! My mother is Mexican and Cherokee Indian (her grandmother is full blooded Cherokee), and my dad is Irish and Welsh. My fiance is just about full german, and his son is mainly of German descent. My son's father French and German.



 



Because I grew up with my mother and her family being the dominate household, I am very connected to my Mexican side of my familia. In fact we are teaching basics of three different languages to our sons. I speak English, Spanish, and French. While my fiance teaches the boys German. We celebrate many of the holidays and culture days that are attributad to many sides of the families. Mexican, Irish and German are the main cultures we are raising our boys with and showing them how similar they are and what makes them special.



Also lately we have been learning more about my Native American background with the children, my great grandmother is still alive and I feel it is important for my son's to learn about our culture that will soon sadly only be found in books. I feel that this knowledge will teach my children the value of respecting and understanding other people and nations. Just because something is different does not mean that it is wrong or bad.

Brandi - posted on 03/05/2009

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Thanks for the explanation of why you dislike the term "Hispanic". I was really curious about that! I tend to use it - because as you pointed out "Latino" seems to be for "Latin America" and I don't want to be someone who calls every Spanish speaking person "Mexican" as it is commonly done here! (that drives me CRAZY!)

I do understand what you mean about it being a term made up by the governement. I work with the Federal Food Program for the daycare and every family has to fill out a form. The form does ask for race and a Y or N about "Hispanic". So, people like your friend (with more African descent) could choose both "Black" and Y for hispanic. I have seen that for several Purto Rican families as well.

It is always great to learn more! Thanks for taking the time to share!!! I really am glad that you did!

Lisset - posted on 03/05/2009

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Welcome Ladies!! I really do hope that since this is a smaller group that everyone feels a bit more comfortable and able to share how they feel! I know sometimes things come up and you feel like you need to vent or ask for another opinion, I hope this can serve as that de-stressing place =-)

Robin - posted on 03/02/2009

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Great group idea! :) 



I'm Robin.  I am a caucasian American woman living in Thailand.  I have a Thai husband and together we have a beautiful son.  We speak both Thai and English to him, and I agree with you that our children are lucky to grow up exposed to more than one language and culture.  Don't listen to those who tell you that your son should speak only English.  That's crazy! You're giving him a gift!

Gabrielle - posted on 02/25/2009

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Quoting Brandi:

Hi Gabrielle! I love to hear about your family and how diverse it is. How lucky all of you are to have such opportunities to learn about so many cultures!
Question for ya - was it you on another site that said you don't like to be referred to as "Hispanic"? I was thinking it was.... I posted a reply asking why, but didn't ever see a response.... If so - can you please explain? I have always used the term thinking it was better than a nationality and possibly the wrong one. Fill me in!



Hi Brandi,



I did start a conversation about Hispanic vs Latina vs Chicana vs...  I personally don't care for the term Hispanic.  It's a government-created term, rather than a group-created term, and I think it's inaccurate.  It refers to people who speak Spanish or are of Spanish origin, so in that sense it's inclusive of people from many countries.  However, there is a lot of native Mexican in my heritage, as with many Mexicans and other Latin Americans.  I have a friend from Brazil who has a lot of African heritage.  Hispanic doesn't cover those parts of us, sort of like the European part taking dominance over the rest of our heritage.   And, strangely enough, it isn't even a Spanish word (although Spain does call itself Hispana (insert tilde over the n).  Latino/a has a similar problem, referring to Latin and Latin-based languages, but at least it can refer geographically to Latin America.  It doesn't cover other countries outside Latin America, so that's its limitation.  Chicano/a refers specifically to a Mexican-American, but a few generations ago, it was hated by those people it referred to (my grandparents detest it).  It's the word I use, from my own preference.  I think it appears to reference Mexico and the original peoples better than the other terms.  I don't take offense if someone calls me Hispanic, and I know there are some people who prefer that term, but I don't use it myself.  And it just all shows the silliness of terms!

Lisset - posted on 02/25/2009

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Welcome everyone :) I hope this becomes a great tight-knit forum where we can all learn from each other and each other's culture's. I think it is such a beautiful thing to see so many different backgrounds and walks of life. I think our children are very fortunate to live during a time where people have become more acceptable of "different."

I know we are completely not rid of all the ignorance and prejudice, but I think if we are able to show our values and share our culture's with our children, that will be one more accepting child in this world, and I think that in itself is pretty amazing =-)

Brandi - posted on 02/24/2009

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Hi Gabrielle! I love to hear about your family and how diverse it is. How lucky all of you are to have such opportunities to learn about so many cultures!

Question for ya - was it you on another site that said you don't like to be referred to as "Hispanic"? I was thinking it was.... I posted a reply asking why, but didn't ever see a response.... If so - can you please explain? I have always used the term thinking it was better than a nationality and possibly the wrong one. Fill me in!

Gabrielle - posted on 02/24/2009

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Hi, Lisset and everyone. I'm a mix of Mexican-American (third generation in America) and German Jewish (second generation), and my husband is a WASP with very long roots in America. We have a 2.5 year old daughter and I want to expose her to not only our backgrounds, but all the backgrounds of her relatives (my family has intermarried with an Indian Hindu woman, a Vietnamese man of Chinese descent, and a Mexican-Apache man). I love that my family is so diverse - I think it makes us very American.



We are currently working with my daughter to expose her to Spanish. I'm very glad her daycare works on it, and I also ask my friends and family to use Spanish with her. Mine is very limited, but I use it when I can. We also do some sign language, and eventually we will add Hebrew. She's also been exposed to Chinese by her teacher and friends at daycare. Language can be an important tie to culture, and it's disappointing Americans tend to be so dismissive of being multi-lingual. I would love to be fluent in Spanish, Hebrew, and who knows what else!



We have been very lucky to not encounter any issues with our multi-cultural home. However, when my mother was going to marry my dad, a friend from her family's Catholic church asked my grandmother why she was letting her daughter marry a Jew. I'm so proud that my religious abuelita told her that he was a good man and believed in G-d and that was all that mattered. My Mexican Catholic grandparents loved my Jewish grandparents, enough for them all to travel together. Just goes to show how foolish prejudice is.

Gabrielle - posted on 02/22/2009

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Hi ladies, I hope to get to know all of you, being that this group at this time is small and close-knit (the best way to be I believe). I "met" Lisset in another string of conversations in the community of multiracial children, which I am in, where she extended the invitation to join... and I accepted. Thank you Lisset. I've enjoyed reading everyone's post and here's my spill;

I think it's great to know more than one language and it extends the opportunity for our children to embrace another culture whether they belong to it or not. I took four years of spanish... and still by no means am I fluent but I understand it and I talk to my son in spanish when we are talking about something that I can say. He thinks it's really cool! He's two (will be three in April) and he knows his colors, various animals, and shapes in spanish. When he wants to know something in spanish, he says, "In spanish mom"... and most of the time I know it or we'll look it up together. So, I feel like I'm learning right along with him... you know kids, when they learn something, they repeat it all day... and the next!!

Miriam - posted on 02/21/2009

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Hi everyone,



My name is Miriam! I am Lisset's mother, very proud of her. I am very outgoing, and bubbly. I like to shoot from the hip and tell it like it is. I have another daughter, Lisset's sister, named Christina, she is 22 and lives with my parents. I moved to Pennsylvania shortly after my daughter moved here, I couldn't live without the man of my life, my grandson Zaid =-) I am happily divorced and now I'm ready for a relationship again lol. I was born in Havana, Cuba and came to the U.S. when I was 8 yrs old. I would love to go back one day and visit, I have a lot of family still over there. If anyone wants to know anything else, just ask, I'm pretty open =-)

Brandi - posted on 02/18/2009

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Hi! My name is Brandi, and I am glad to join this group!



About me/us:

I am a good 'ole mid-western "white girl". (altough I don't like that since I am white, I will be deemed a "girl" forever due to my interracial relationship!) I am currently engaged to Eric,a wonderful man who happens to be black - also from the midwest. We are pretty typical mid-western Americans. I have one daughter, Jamison, age 4. He has one dauthter, Ciera, almost 12. Jamison lives with us in Indianapolis, but Ciera lives with her Mom in Wisconsin and we only get to see her occasionaly - not often enough if you ask me!



I have always been very interested in other cultures and religions, so I am hoping to learn more from this group.



We both only speak English, but I have someone that comes to work with Jamison in Spanish for a few hours each week. I would LOVE her to be bilingual. I speak what I call "cave man Spanish". I know a few words, I use them while pointing & grunthing... LOL I do get some negative reactions about trying to teach my daughter Spanish, but I honestly don't care if people don't get it. I want my daughter to be educated adn know things past "good 'ole Indiana".



If there's anything else you would like to know - just ask! I am pretty open!

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well hello there! its so nice to meet someone such as yourself and i feel honored to be apart of a group as wonderful as this and i mean that! i'm african american (from kansas) and my husband is african (from nairobi, kenya) and yes my children could be considered tha same mix as our president! (because his mom was from kansas and his dad was from kenya) i'm cool with that lol anyway i'm here to learn about different cultures other than my own...



My name is jennifer and i have two beautiful boys. i get alot of people who tell me "you outta cut that boys hair!!!" but i'm always like "heck naw! he has hair like his daddy and he loves it!" My two year old has dread locks. His dad's dreads are growing quickly and already hang on his shoulders (yea i'm jealous cuz his hair is longer than mine lol). Jabari's dreads are not quite that long but i plan to let them grow until they can grow no more.



about your question, the only real obstacles or challenges i can think of are basically steming from my husband's and my differences in opinions sometimes. sometimes. i have to pause and ask myself if the issues we are going thru are because of cultural differences or because he's a man?? lol its a tough thought to ponder sometimes but we make it work. we've been together now for 7 years and our 6th marriage anniversary is coming up (march) and i can't wait!



he speaks swahili fluently to his friends and occasionally he will talk to tha kids but he hasn't really been teaching it to them. i would like for him to though, and i try to encourage him to, because i think that the kids knowing more than one language would definitly enrich their lives. i think its ridiculous that here in america, we can get by with only being taught one language, english. as if everyone in the world is required to speak english because its the only language we know. thats BS! and i wish that it was enforced more in schools to learn more languages. but anyway i think what you are doing with your kids is great and i would love to be able to speak more than one language (well i know a little sign language does that count??? and i can speak some spanish but not fluently....) so that i could teach it to my kids so that they could be fluent in it too!



well...there's my long reply to your welcome! thanks for the welcome and i look forward to getting to know everyone here!

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