Boys and Play Kitchens

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My soon to be three year old loves play (toy) kitchens. When he goes to visit his cousin, he goes right to the play kitchen. When we go to playgroup, he goes right to the play kitchen. At home he loves to help me in the real kitchen and I let him as much as he can.

My MIL saw how much he loves kitchens and wanted to get him a play kitchen for Christmas. She asked hubby and I what we thought and we said sure, no problem. We were shopping at Costco one day and saw a play kitchen there at a good price. We called my MIL, told her it was there and she came over with my FIL to buy one.

I love my FIL dearly but he's a bit of a homophobe. He pulls my hubby aside and is trying to talk him out of letting my MIL buy the kitchen. "No grandson of mine should be playing with a kitchen" was the gist of the speech hubby got. It was followed by "next thing you know he'll be playing with dolls" and "I better not catch you painting his fingernails." My FIL is afraid the kitchen will turn my son gay.

I don't see a problem with it and neither does hubby or my MIL (obviously). I tried pointing out to my FIL that a lot of the great chefs are male and that he, himself, used to cook a lot of the family meals but he won't budge on the play kitchen issue.

What do you all think? Would you buy your sons a play kitchen if they wanted one? Do you think there's anything wrong with a boy playing with a kitchen?

Note: I don't want to turn this into another gay debate. Neither my husband or I share my FIL's opinions on that issue. I just want your opinions on buying a boy a toy kitchen.

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Shannintipton - posted on 08/11/2011




I sorry this post is sort of old. Anything over six months is considered a little old. But thank you for your response. :)

Emma - posted on 08/11/2011




My kids share one we built for them, Both my Son and Daughter love it, as do they love the work bench we build for them in the garage so they can build when my hubby and i are working.
They both play with dolls and car's too.
I think that toys should not be considered gender specific.
I want both my kids to learn that both men and woman can cook, build things and look after a baby ect ect.
I think that the toy options in the shops are so stereotypical, in the girls section its all baby's, cleaning ect and the boys is cars and guns. I think if more parents where not so brainwashed by gender stereotyping we would be creating a much more equal society. I mean do you know one grown woman who dose not wish her partner would do more of the deemed "female" things around the house. or a man who complain's that his wife cant even put up a shelf or change a tyer.
We are training our kids from birth that those are boy things and those are girl things to do only to have them grow up to bitch that there partners dont help with X Y or Z.
Sorry if that turned in to a rant lol

Jo - posted on 12/02/2010




Gabe has a play kitchen and he plays with it all the time. He puts his cups in the microwave and when he takes them out he says "oh, hot" and blows on it. He won't touch the stove top stickers cause they're "hot" and blows on them. He puts his stuffies in the oven and when he takes them out, he says "uh oh, hot" and blows on them too lol

He knows that he's not allowed to touch the stove in the kitchen so when I'm making dinner he'll take his fry pans and put them on his stove, turn the dials and pretends to make dinner too.

He loves Chef Ramsay so I'm just waiting for him to call me a 'shtupid cow' one day when I don't cook his dinner right :p (I'm just kidding, sorta lol)

Jocelyn - posted on 11/29/2010




My son has a play kitchen and loves it! My hubby is also the man-of-the-kitchen because I'm useless in that aspect :P lol.

Jenny - posted on 11/27/2010




We have a kitchen and my son loves it too. Men can cook and that's ok. Cuff your FIL upside the head and let your son be himself and do what he enjoys. Buy the kitchen.

Mine has a BBQ on one side, would that be considered manly enough? Although I do all of our grilling, grumble, grumble.

Amber - posted on 11/26/2010




My son has a play kitchen and he loves it! He's always cooking us something. And he loves to help me bake in the kitchen. He's my expert stirrer :)
His dad cooks dinner for us all the time, so it's not at all strange. We share all of our household duties, and are teaching our son the same thing.
I don't believe that there are men/women jobs in the world. Anybody should be able to do whatever they want :)
I hope your son enjoys his kitchen!

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My MIL bought the kitchen and I know my son is going to love it. Whenever I go into the kitchen he comes running in after me and says "let's make something". If it's something he's interested in then I defiantely want to encourage it.

Carolee - posted on 11/25/2010




If my son wanted one, and anyone in my family was willing to buy one for him, I'd be all for it. In my house, my husband cooks and I don't (unless it's something REALLY easy like sanwiches or mac and cheese).

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