9 Year Old and Puberty!

Christina - posted on 11/04/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Wow, okay, so I didn't really start puberty until I was 11, almost 12. So when I realized my daughter needed a bra about a month ago, I freaked out. She's only 9! She's been using deodorant for awhile because she dances and gets sweaty, but just the other day, after a day of school, I noticed she had some VERY adult B.O. She's also had insane mood swings. PMS much?

Then, I was told, "oh yeah, kids are getting to puberty earlier these days".

So, I've been trying to elaborate on "the talk" with her. She knows a little bit, because we just have that kind of communication. However, I'm thinking her period will come within the next year or so (if I'm lucky, it'll be that long). She knows VERY little about this and still refers to pads as "butt bandaids" and finds them funny. (Which stems back to a very embarrassing trip to the public restroom when she was about two and was very concerned because my butt was bleeding and she wanted to know if I wanted any bandaids.)

Every time I try to bring up "growing up" now though, she shuts down, rolls her eyes and acts embarrassing. And I know it's embarrassing, but I don't want her to freak out when her "butt starts bleeding" so to speak. I want her to be prepared. But I'm having a very hard time getting through to her!

HELP!

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Jennifer - posted on 11/11/2010

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I know exactly what you are going through! My daughter who is now 11 started puberty when she was 9. She started getting very grouchy & emotional. I could barely keep up with her mood swings! She to was a bit embarrassed when I tried bringing up the subject to her although we had great communication this was just a little too much for her. But I decided one day while we were getting along especially well & having a mommy & daughter day. that I would bring it up. There are ways to get her to understand it without having to give too much info. But even if she is embarrassed she should prob have some knowledge anyways. A little bit of embarrassment is way better then having her period start & her being frightened by it. If it comes down to it & she just won't let you talk to her about it...maybe go to her doctor & have them talk to her a bit (a lot of times my kids wont take things seriously unless it comes from someone other then mom) Needless to say my daughter started at 10 (about a year after starting to show the signs). As much as I havte that she started so early, she is a different child. She is treating people better & doing better in school since she started. Of coarse she still has mood swings but at least now its just during pms rather then all the time. I hope your daughter will open up to you soon, it's definitely a scary but special memory you will have with your daughter. Good luck!

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Christina - posted on 11/15/2010

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Thank you! I appreciate your input! I'm thinking if she won't let me talk to her, that input from her doctor at her next appointment will be helpful too. :) Don't know how much more of these mood swings I can take!

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