picky baby...slings

Cori - posted on 07/12/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )




my almost three month old still refuses to be held in a sling...she cried from birth put in one. I kinda feel like a failure...or I've done something wrong. She has always loved to be held on our left shoulder facing the world so she can see! I have tested many kinds of slings and just recently tried a front pack style ...she hates facing me but wants to look out at the world...however, it makes her feet swell so I only used it once. I can't get house work done when she isn't content to play on her own...what can I do???


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Nyssa - posted on 07/15/2009




I love baby k'tans, they are a lot like a wrap, but you don't have to wrap anything.

My son (now 4) hated the sling I had, too, but I didn't have money to try another kind.


You're not a failure! Some babies don't like slings or carriers.

Let the housework suffer a little, they are only this little once. :)

Johnny - posted on 07/14/2009




Don't feel like a failure. Lots of babies don't like slings, either because of how their body is proportioned or their personality. For my daughter, I think it was both, she was very long & the sling always folded her up and also, she loves to look out at the world. Instead, around the house I used a Moby and when I was out I used an Ergo with an infant insert. When she was smaller & lighter, I also took her out front facing in the Moby too. Now that she's older, I use the sling all the time for errands with the hip carry and usually go out for long periods using the Ergo. Somehow now that she weights more, the Moby pulls too much on my shoulders.
Each baby & mommy are built differently & what works for some won't work for others.
For forward facing babies, who need a carrier that is properly designed (that doesn't hurt their back & cut off their circulation) I would recommend a Baby Trekker.

Tricia - posted on 07/14/2009




p.s. Check out thebabywearer.com for links to a million ways to tie your wrap. Of hit Gypsymama.com for a PDF file with a more limited number of suggestions.

Tricia - posted on 07/14/2009




I'm recommending a wrap too. The stretchy ones (i.e. Moby) are nice b/c they're easy to pop baby in and out, although they are harder to organize for wearing baby on your back. The cheapest solution for a stretchy wrap (which might be good if you're not sure she'll like it) is to buy a piece of stretchy knit fabric about 10 yards long and just cut it in half lengthwise (hotdog way). You don't have to sew or anything. Just cut it. If you don't know anything about fabric, walk into a fabric store, find the closest employee, and say "I'd like 10 yards of an inexpensive stretchy knit, please." They'll hook you up. :-)

Joanne - posted on 07/14/2009




My kids always hated slings, too. Have you tried a Moby or a Maya wrap. As long as she can hold her head up without wobbling, you can use an Ergo, which is my favorite for bigger babies and toddlers. All of these hold the babies upright and are comfortable for mamas. I also have a baby bjorn and a snuggli, but these aren't comfortable for me. I never even used them for my second baby.

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