My husband has a 2 1/2 year old!

Tiffany - posted on 01/22/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )




My husband and I have been married for a 1 1/2 years. He just spent the last 9 months overseas. I found out a week after he left I was pregnant. I went through my pregnancy with 'NO" support from his family. I had my mother by myside through everything.Doctor's appointments and delivery. She was there for everything. My husband has a 2 1/2 year old daughter. I love her to death but the thing that bugs me the most is that his mom, grandma, and aunts all "LOVE" Hannah but hate the fact that we have a 2 1/2 month old daughter together. My husbands mother never introduces me to people as her daughter-in-law I am Mike's wife and our daughter Skilar is Mike's other kid! That is what she usually tells people. My husbands ex g/f live in southern MN and we live in northern WI so when my husband does get his daughter we r sitting in the car for hours and then we spend saturday running all over the damn country so everyone can see her. They never wanna come to our house. Then sunday we spend all day in the car taking her home. It bothers me because my husbands mom thinks the world of his ex g/f, his mom brags about how she works full-time, goes to school full-time and takes care of Hannah! I don't work but I am a full-time mom and a wife! i get no credit for anything I do! And when I try and talk to my husband about things his family says he blows up. Just like the other day his grandma said out daughter was colic! Umm.. NO she DOESN'T KNOW U! And his aunt said she looks just like Hannah! UM...bugs me that they say that crap cause I am not Hannah's mother and my husband doesn't even think Hannah is his kid anymore. The lil girl doesn't resemble anything of him! I just need someone to vent too! I just hate the fact that his mom lives 15 min away and she has only been to our house 4 times since our daughter has been born! And when my husband returned from Iraq she came over at 8:30 pm! Who does that? Seriously our daughter was sleeping and I wanted to go to bed 2! But I stayed up only to listen to his mom bitch about calling and getting Hannah...Sorry bitchy mother in law...but my husband has been gone for almost a year! I think we need a few weeks to adjust! I am I wrong for saying that??


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Christina - posted on 01/22/2010




MILs are pesky people without having to contend with there being children from previous relationships in the mix.

I totally understand not getting support from his family. That's the case in my situation as well...and while his family lives 3 miles down the road, mine lives over 400. Yet, I've seen my family more than his!

And, no, you're not wrong AT ALL for wanting an adjustment period!

Deborah - posted on 01/22/2010




"when my husband does get his daughter we r sitting in the car for hours and then we spend saturday running all over the damn country so everyone can see her. They never wanna come to our house."

I get the same thing, except my FIL has actually came out and said he will not come to our house if I'm there.

You need to nuture your relationship with your husband. Anyone who doesn't understand that must be confused. Oh I hope you have alot of patience. You are doing a brave thing just being with a Military Man. My dad spent the first 6 years of my life in the military and it was very hard on my mom. Hang in there. You both are specail people and all you can do is try to be the best you can for eachother. Try to ignore anyone suggesting you focus on other things!

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