Why is my 5 year old son soooo hyper?

Erica - posted on 04/26/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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He is constantly running and dancing and he dosen't listen or follow directions or instructions. He can't stay quiet or sit still! I feel like I'm going crazy! Does anyone have any helpful input? Maybe this will get a lil better when he starts school, idk!

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Melissa - posted on 06/22/2010

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Someone posted this after I posted asking about A.D.D It helped me get a better outlook and hopefully it helps you too :)

A lot of people get hooked on the hyper flag... that is one part, but that is also part of being a boy, lol... Some other things that ADD and ADHD boys do is to make 'sounds' for no apparent reason... usually really high pitched yipe-ing sounds or chirping sounds... just while they are running around. And constant, because all kids do that to an extent, but adhd kids do it A LOT. They also tend to like to 'order' things. Line up cars or toys in a row. They don't play with them, just put them in an order. One of the big differences that I noticed (I have one with adhd and two without) was that kids with adhd have no intent. I could watch my son without it scope a kid out at the playground so he could swoop in and take a toy.. whereas my son with it would be wildly running around and just happen to see the kid with the toy and would wind around and grab it. Adhd kids tend to 'look' like the bully but really are not... for example... an adhd kid will run up the steps to the slide and push past a kid to 'be first' while a bully will run up the slide and make sure to hurt the kid by pushing them to get to the slide. There is intent to harm with a bully... and adhd kid is just doing what they do and happen to hurt kids. That is another one as they get older... the need to 'be first' at every single thing.. ugh....
Another red flag is touching or poking... my son would sit by someone and poke them or tap them uncontrollably.
The big thing to remember though with an add or adhd kid is that they ARE highly intelligent. In order to cope with all the information that is going on in their heads they have to access parts of the brain that we normally do not. Therefore they are usually really good at math or 'high level' cognitive thinking. When people hear 'they are smart' they automatically think 'oh ya my kid is smart, he knew his colors and how to count to 100 by the time he was 5' well, not necessarily... that could just be that the person pushed the heck out of their kid like a trained monkey and they performed. An add/adhd kid 'figures' things out. At very young ages they can see two to three steps ahead of themselves. For instance... At two years old, we used to swab vinegar in the boys mouths if they got sassy.... well, it only took one time for my adhd son and here I am one day sitting on the couch and our furnace kicks on and I smell vinegar. Couldn't figure out why. Then my son climbs up to the cabinet to get a cookie and I said 'get down' and he said 'no'... so we went threw the motions and finally I reached in to get the vinegar and it was empty. He not only had the foresight to dump it where it, in his mind, wouldn't be noticed, in the heat register which to him is just a big hole in the ground, lol... but to preemptively do it because he knew he was going to climb to get a cookie and get in trouble and because the last punishment he knew of was vinegar... ya, lovely it was, lol.... And if he does have it and you can medicate to help his brain to focus.. they are marvelously intelligent. It really is a gift... it is just difficult from about 2 yrs old to 13!
As for getting him checked... most doctors won't even look at a child until they are over 3 and most won't consider that diagnosis until they have been in a structured classroom. A lot of parents say they have structure at home but their kid is all over the place so the doctors would medicate but find later that they were really just medicating the condition of 'boy'... so now most like to wait until they have an unbiased third party that they can get an observation from, like a school teacher.
If your son is under 3, or if you take him in and they say he doesn't have it, but you still think he does... here are some things that can help...
Keep adhd kids away from artificial sweeteners... red dyes and processed foods. The obvious one to stay away from is sugar, lol... caffeine actually calms them down, but a lot of people hear that and give them soda which has so much sugar in it that it negates the caffeine. You can however, if you can get him to drink it, you can give him caffeinated coffee, no sugar. Cream or milk is ok, but no sugar and see if he calms down a little. If he winds UP then he does not have adhd.
Just watch what food he takes in, if it is processed or artificial it will make him worse. And I don't know why but Red dyes are hell for add/adhd kids. You would be surprised how many things have red dye in them... we wash the meat we get from the market before cooking it because it has red dye in it to make it appear more appetizing. Anyway... i hope this helped you out some...
Take heart... a lot of boys are like this simply because they are boys... :)

Melissa - posted on 06/22/2010

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Kids need structure routine discipline and consistency

NAUGHTY CHAIR TIMEOUT!!! My son went through that, and i got a little camper chair, told him it was his naughty chair! whenever he would act up i would tell him if he did it again he would have to sit on the naughty chair! if he did it again id place him on there for three minutes - as he was 3years - and ignore his crying and pleading! the key is consistency!!! and be firm!!! you may have to place him on there a few times but never give up! he needs to know you are the BOSS!!! When the three minutes are up, ask him what he did wrong, then explain what he did wrong and why it is wrong then tell him you love him and let him play again! Always say you love him and dont hold grudges, this actuarlly worked for my son and my two nieces!!! Goodluck sister now show him whos boss!!

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Amber - posted on 05/06/2010

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I don't have any helpful input b/c I thought you were talking about my son! LOL

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