How get 5 yr old to stay in bed

Sarah - posted on 12/02/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




Every night its a battle to put my 5 yr old son to bed. Both me and my husband are going crazy since he wont stay in his bed. I get him ready for jamies on, brushing are teeth , and going potty before bed. Then i usually read him a bedtime story and then when done kiss him and tuck him and say goodnight to him. The thing that is driving me crazy is he keeps on getting up out of his bed. He usually tells me i have to go potty and that is usually every 3 min or so getting saying i have to go potty again or can i tell you something mommy i love and can i give you a hug and a kiss which is great. Bur he doese this every night and keeps doing it way past his bed time to the point where i have to scream sometimes or even spanke him for getting up who knows how may times a night. I have to go to work the next and plus i need my sleep since i am pregnant with my second child and am 15 weeks now and i need my sleep. Sometimes doesnt go to bed till 10 / 11 at night and i am at witts end and not sure what to do anymore about this. The stress isnt helping me since that makes me cranky and moody more so then i need to be while pregnant. If could get some advise on what to do that be great.


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Michelle - posted on 05/24/2011




Sarah....omg! What you descibed is my 5 year old son who does the same thing. My 4 year old twin boys are somewhat like that...learning from him. My husband and I are night owls, always have been, so wonder if they get that from us. I am glad you posted this........I can get some advice from others

Otillua - posted on 05/11/2011




my son was doing the same thing n his ot told me a trick that actually worked make some passes i started with 5 he gives u 1 everytime he gets up no matter what its for when his passes are gone he cant get up not for anything the first 2 nights my son used al his passeeeee thn he started having 4 left then 3 then i started only giving him 3 then he went to 2 then 1 and now i dont even give them to him mostly he says bed but in the middle of the night he will come to his pilot i keep beside my bed for emergecys hent allowed in my bcuz it took me too long to get him out of it and hes a big 5 yr old theres no room in my bed

Ashley - posted on 12/27/2010




It's gotta be a phase. My five yr. Old does it too. I tell him this is the last time I'm getting up. If u get up again I'm taking things away and u can cry by urself with the door closed. Works with us.

Rebecca - posted on 12/15/2010




I am battling this exact same thing. He refuses to stay in bed. He'll go potty 2 or 3 times...then it's just sneaking into the hallway and sitting there...usually under a blanket or something so we won't see him. I have tried everything I can think of. Each new tactic will work for a week or so then it's right back where we started. Every now and then, he'll go right to sleep, but he has to be exhausted for that to happen usually. We have tried sitting in his room with him when this first started probably a year ago or so...but now he still wants it every night. He gets his special music at bedtime every night. We have the same bedtime routine every night...story, hugs goodnight to brothers and either me or my husband depending on who is tucking him in that night, teeth brushing, bed, music, hugs goodnight. We have tried telling him we'll be back in 5 minutes to check on him...and that worked for a bit...but even that is not working anymore. I'd love any advice. My husband and I are at our wit's end!

Kimberly - posted on 12/14/2010




My 5yr old doesnt reguire alot of sleep. So when i put her to bed at 8 i put a movie on for her to watch and fall asleep with (fast play). Not the best idea but may help.

Laura - posted on 12/06/2010




My solution was letting my son sleep on the floor beside my bed for a while. Granted my biggest problem was him getting up into my bed and sons a bed I did that so he knew he wasn't alone at night. Then I used a bribe to get him to actually sleep in his bed. I started telling him that for every 3 nights he slept in his bed all night long I would give him a surprise. My son was all about getting surprises so this was awesome until it became too regular. I usually used a visit to the park or McDonalds. And if money or weather was a factor I used popsicles. Before long it was just a matter of leaving the tv on all night in the other room or playing music until he went to sleep. When I was really tired I just curled up with him on the couch until he started snoring then I laid him in his bed and covered him up and turned on some background noise. I hope some of these suggestions help. Oh and I'd use just one at a time, probably the least inconvenient ones

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