My 3 years old daughter sleep in our bed.

Lu - posted on 02/12/2009 ( 18 moms have responded )

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I want to know how many of 3 years old kid sleep with parents? She told me she is scared of monsters and she comes to my room after she wake up in the middle of the night.

It is really sad to see she is scared in her room by herself, but I am tired of leting her sleep in my room.

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Lu - posted on 02/28/2009

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seems it is not only my girl has this problem, feel better now, I actually don't mind that much, but my husband start to sleep in the other room so he can get better sleep.



Thanks for all the suggestions, I will try the chart and rewards to see if it will work... and we are getting a king size bed, hope to hold three of us :-)

Jacqueline - posted on 02/24/2009

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My son sleeps in my bed, he starts off in his bed but makes it to mine. Personally, I feel that it is ok, he is only 3 and the world is still a big scary place sometimes. Besides, what is better than snuggling with your child?

Erica - posted on 02/23/2009

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Our daughter sleeps in our bed also.  It used to bother me, but now I love it.  There will be a time when she will not want to cuddle.  We put her to bed in her bed every night and around midnight she comes to our room.   We tried lots of things...music, night lights, etc. 



Good luck!

Michelle - posted on 02/22/2009

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I think she needs to love her room.  My son would always wake up when I went to bed and ask to sleep with me.  I told him he could sleep with me on weekends.  That worked.  I did provide a secure feeling for me for a while.  I realized though, he needed to sleep in his own room.  I gave his room a makeover.  I made it look more like a toodler's room than a baby's room.  I made it his special place.  I used his favorite character Elmo.  He loves his big boy room!  He has many stuffed animals in his Elmo bed to keep him company at night.  He doesn't ask to sleep with me anymore.  Unless.. he doesn't feel well.  



Maybe she could draw pictures of wonderful things to put on her walls.  To make her room feel special and safe. 

Sandra - posted on 02/20/2009

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Try laying down with her in her own bed and than once you know she's asleep leave the room. It may take awhile but it should work It worked with my 3 year daughter Good Luck.

Sandra

Neula - posted on 02/20/2009

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When my son was 3 1/2 we made him a chart that he could fill with stickers if he did things like go to sleep by himself and stay in his bed all night. When he filled it he would get a reward. That was it for him sleeping in our bed! Our daughter is another story though. She's not ready for stickers and charts yet. Maybe once we get her out of the toddler bed we can do something with her. She comes to our bed in the middle of the night but does make it through some other nights in her own bed. I've decided not to stress about it too much. They do eventually sleep in their own beds. :)

Jennifer - posted on 02/19/2009

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Our 3 yr old son has been sleeping on the couch for a few months now, the baby sleeps with us so he won't fit! He got scared all of a sudden sleeping in his room. At three, children often start having night terrors and this is common and normal. They will eventually out-grow it and move back into their own beds.

Jenna - posted on 02/18/2009

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LOL My son has 2 of his own beds (one that is actually in my room)  and refuses to sleep in either.If we put his to sleep in his bed, he is up in a few hours ( usally just as I am finally falling asleep) and crwling over my husband to come sleep with mommy and daddy.

Yolanda - posted on 02/17/2009

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My three year old and my two year old sleep in our bed with us. We put them in their room, which they share, in their own beds but they always seem to find their way to our bed in the middle of the night. We have a california king so the bed is large, but it's getting more and more cramped with the two of them at night. I am dying to get my bed back. I've tried moving them after they fall back asleep back to their beds and sometimes that works, but other times they wake back up and come back to my bed. I've even tried putting a down mattress topper on their bed so that it feels soft like mom and dad's bed, but that still didn't keep them in. I'm not sure what else to do. Any suggestions?

Melanie - posted on 02/17/2009

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Quoting Lu:

My 3 years old daughter sleep in our bed.

I want to know how many of 3 years old kid sleep with parents? She told me she is scared of monsters and she comes to my room after she wake up in the middle of the night.
It is really sad to see she is scared in her room by herself, but I am tired of leting her sleep in my room.


 



My 3 year old daughter wont even go to sleep in her own bed. She gets scared,almost terrified if we attempt to put her in her own bed at night. When my husband and I go to bed at night we move her from our room to hers, but if she wakes up we'll find her in bed with us again!  Im tired of this to!! Im starting to wonder if she is really scared or has it just become a bad habit!

Teresa - posted on 02/16/2009

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My son sleeps in our bed too, it started when when we had to quickly move out of house due to a flood, and our temporary accomodation which turned into 8 weeks soon saw a habit being formed quite quickly. It annoys my husband more than me for obvious reasons, but knowing how quickly the toodler years passes as my eldest is now 11, and spent most of his toddler years in our bed too. I am willing to perservere until he is ready to sleep thru the night in his own bed. It can sometimes feel a little tight and squished in the one bed but my husband now often goes to another room for a good night and comfortable sleep.... My son is certainly far from clingy and attends his kinder sessions without any separation anxiety. I am not sure what the answer is to this question.

Cynthia - posted on 02/15/2009

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Also..it won't be long before these sweet days are long gone and we'll have to beg just to get a hug.I really am cherishing the closeness right now.If it weren't for my husband..I'd let our son sleep with us as long as he wants..or at least until it becomes weird..lol.



Also...I have heard some say that it makes for unhealthy clingy children but It hasn't made my son clingy at all.

Rebekah - posted on 02/15/2009

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Hi there, our daughter sleeps in our bed also... has pretty much always done it.  She is a sickly wee thing so i dont mind.. its easier than getting up to her 10 times a night (not exaggerating!).  If you dont mind it then its not a problem... if its beginning to annoy you and/or your partner then you might want to think of some other alternatives such as star charts?  Bribery?  There is a great book called "the no-cry sleep solution for toddlers".  Good luck

Cynthia - posted on 02/14/2009

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Our son sleeps in our bed.Around one year we went on vacation and had to all sleep in the same bed and I noticed that he was sleeping much better and hence so was I.When we got home from vacation I tried putting him back in his room and the not sleeping through the night started again.He's been in our bed ever since.



I love it  though(for the most part)..it's reassuring to me having him so close...but I do hope to get him in his own room again reasonably soon.

Lu - posted on 02/13/2009

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yeah, I have a night light...at least she starts in her own room , and depends on what time she wake up in the middle of night then end up in my bed. A few times she didn't wake up until 6:30 to 7:00, I would not mind she comes at that time.

Rebecca - posted on 02/13/2009

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my three year old sleeps inhis own bed, but unfortunatly, our eldest who is nearly 5 and has special needs ends up in our bed every night!!  have you tried a night light?

Leah - posted on 02/13/2009

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Neither child sleeps in my bed. What I do is tell my children to think of princesses and castles and horses and anything that they love and they love it!

Kara - posted on 02/13/2009

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My little 3 year old sleeps in our bed to . We have no idea why he just gets up in the middle of the night and comes in. So we put a matress on the floor and he sleeps there. when he is ready to be in his own room we will put him in there.

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