Deciding on having another baby

Amber - posted on 04/15/2012 ( 2 moms have responded )




I just wanted to write this and hopefully get some advice on the situation. I really want another baby, mine is 4 going on 5 in november. I am a manager at a rental car company, as well as going to school and taking care of my family. I feel as though having another baby will take away from what little time I have with my first. I only have a year and a half left of school though. Then that will give me more time for my children. I thought about waiting until I was through with school, but with my health issues ( I have high blood pressure and high cholesterol), I am scared to wait any longer. My first child was a two month preemie and it caused me to have my high blood pressure issues, so waiting makes me more scared that I will have a higher risk pregnancy. I really want another baby but I keep going back and forth on the answer. My husband also wants another child as well. Can anyone give me any advice on what I should do?


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Lila - posted on 04/30/2012




first thing i would do is talk to your doctor about the health issue part if you can wait or if it is a better time now and having another baby wont take time away from your child you have now it will give your child something else to do and have someone else to play with. but the health problem is the one you need to have a sit down with your OBGYN and talk i had a normal baby this first time around and 2nd time i had a small baby and 3rd time i also had a small baby and had to have shots every 3 days for 3 months so really every time is different just if you think it is time for another and you and your husband agree then have at it just have a talk with your doctor to get all your options

Louise - posted on 04/16/2012




Only you know when the best time is. We all worry about sharing our time between children but it is fine. Having more than one child is easier than just the one once they get past baby stage. I had two sons close together 2.5 years apart and they grew up together and played with each other during the school holidays. 15 years later I felt I wanted another and I now have a 3 year old little girl. She consumes so much more time than my boys did as she wants me to play with her all the time and take her places. There is no other child for her to play with.

If you are worried about health issues then speak to a midwife and find out what the risks are for you to put off having children. There may not be as much as a risk as you think.

I think I would follow my heart, if both you and your husband want another baby then the time is right. You will cope believe me with baby and a 5 year old.

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