Baby crying for attention

Jenny - posted on 03/17/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )




Hi, my 3 1/2 month old baby boy has started to cry for attention. When I set him down in his playpen so that I can make dinner or work around the house he will cry right away - and then smile and laugh as soon as I bend over the crib. He obviously just wants attention. We play with him a lot and he gets a lot of interaction and affection at daycare. I'm not sure if we should just let him cry? I do need to get things done in the evening - but I also miss him after a day at work. I'm not sure what is best for him.


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Kylie - posted on 03/19/2009




Is there anything you could put him in that he's in the room with you. A sling or baby carrier is a good idea. There's also a bumbo seat, so if you're in the kitchen making dinner, you can do that and talk to him and tell him what you're doing. My son does this, too, and I find if you have him in the same room as the rest of the family, he's fine. With the bumbo seat, you can get the tray, get some toys and try to see if he can grab them or something. 

He's lonely cause he can't see you, and he just wants to know that you're around. :) Just have him somewhere where he can see you, you can talk to him, and you can get your work done, too. Multitasking is awesome in this regard. ;)

Kylie - posted on 03/18/2009




I read 4 month olds have no concept of the consequences of their actions that is why you don’t let them cry it out to sleep until 6 months. He wouldn’t be trying to manipulate you he probably needs to be close to you. You could get a sling or baby carrier or get your hubby to help with making dinner. Do you have a bouncer you could use to move around the house so he can see you and you can talk to him while

doing your household stuff. With mine, I find if I put him by the glass back door propped up he’s very happy looking outside at the plants moving, the cat walking around and his sister on her swing. I do this so I can clean the kitchen and vacuum the house with no fussing.

Kim - posted on 03/18/2009




My daughter who is 4 months old does the same thing. I'll put her down in her crib so I can go get a shower and she'll scream up a storm. As soon as I walk in the room and she sees me she smiles like haha I've got you trained. So I'll leave her in her crib and go finish getting dressed. She'll keep playing this game crying off and on, so I go peak in at her and she smiles. I do not pick her up, but I talk to her and tell her that I'm almost done. She seems to like our little game. Hope this helps.

Also I don't think your working for the fun of it. :) So if he seems a little needy when you get home I would take the 1st 30 minutes and give him all of your undivided attention. Then by the time you want to cook and do other chores he'll be bored with you.

Kathleen - posted on 03/18/2009




im constantly with my son and i have the same problem i discovered he just likes the reaction so what i had to do is pretend i couldnt hear him and he just got frustrated becuase no one came running he got bored of it after a few times now he just sits and plays stevie may be right he may want momma but he might also just be discovering how to get his way

Stevie - posted on 03/17/2009




well i dont think i have really had that problem or atlest if i do its when i get him from a nap that he didnt want to take i almost would hate to say it but if it is possible you could see if you could work part time to me it just sounds like he misses mama ...i dont want to make you feel gulty about it but thats what i think it is have you or do you have a sling or carrier that you can hold him next to you and have your hands also... sometimes if my son doesn want down but is ok if im near him ill put him in his bouncy seat and put him in the same room with me like the kitchen or something i hope i didnt affend you and i hope i helped you

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