Sad about not breastfeeding anymore

Shonda - posted on 04/20/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )




Hi everyone- Sometimes I feel like I am the only one that is not breastfeeding anymore. I had a very rough beginning when my son was born. My milk barely came in and so I started a rigorous routine of breastfeeding and pumping every 2 hours and also taking fenugreek, brewers' yeast and drinking mother's milk tea. Nothing seemed to increase my milk supply and I was drained. I did this for 2 months. My doctor wanted me to supplement and I cried the night I decided to do it. But then my son was much happier and ate like a pro. I continued breastfeeding and also giving formula for about 4 months. I just recently stopped breastfeeding, because it wasn't really benefiting my baby. I'm sad first because I wish I had a good milk supply even with all the work I put into it. Second, many of the moms at my Mom and Baby group continue to breastfeed and I feel a little jealous. I LOVED breastfeeding my son. It was such a great bonding time and he lays in my arms so much more relaxed than with a bottle. I do know that I'm doing the right thing for my son since he requires so much to keep him satisfied. Is anyone else feeling the same as me?


Kylie - posted on 04/23/2009




Not only was I sad, I think my problems with breastfeeding led me to borderline post-pardom depression. The first week he was home, he was becoming dehydrated because my milk had not come in yet. I gave him formula through a medicine dropper so it wouldn't cause nipple confusion and still tried to breast feed. Then, he wasn't doing much with the dropper, so I caved and gave him a bottle. I tried pumping each time I did this, and I never made enough to fill the bottom of a bottle. I tried and tried variations of this for a while. I would pump and feed, and each time I would do that, he would be excessively fussy (I have a mostly content baby). After 7 weeks of breast, then formula and knowing I had to go back to work, I stopped breast feeding. I felt like such a failure and felt truly jealous of mom's who are able to successfully breast feed their children.

Then when I realized my baby was thriving and growing even though I was giving him formula, I realized that I need to get over my sadness and enjoy him while he's still a baby.

Ashley - posted on 04/25/2009




I went through a little of this when I stopped breastfeeding my daughter. I recently became a mom for the first time 6 months ago and despite being a nurse all of my knowledge went right out of my body along with the placenta, I swear! I literally knew nothing! Breastfeeding was definitely challenging, bleeding nipples and she would latch on like a starved child at least 20 times per feeding and every time she did I thought someone was putting a knife through my breast. And I had a natural childbirth so I can handle pain. Once we finally got a good feeding system going, she started having terrible sleep issues, only sleeping 45 minutes at a time and I thought it had something to do with my milk supply. So after weeks on end of pumping all night long and feeding her all of the time I was exhausted and introduced formula. It wasn't until I got her sleep issues handled that I figured out her sleeping problems had nothing to do with my inability to produce enough milk for her. But after supplementing with formula for awhile my milk supply did decrease significantly and I couldn't get it back despite my best efforts. I felt terrible, and so guilty for the longest time. But the only the good thing to come out of that is I will know for the next time!


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Sarah - posted on 04/26/2009




I hear you! I had problems with my first born not attaching & feeling so giulty that I pushed myself so hard to breastfeed my daughter....I had the cracked bleeding nipples that ended up feeling like daggers everytime I tried to feed & midwifes yelling at me for 'not trying hard enough'. Also, in the space of 16 days I gave birth, moved house & buried my Grandfather....all within 3 weeks of Christmas....there was so much stress going on in my life & I was not given the appropriate support by the maternity staff, I felt horrible. I still get a little jealous of the other Mum's in my mother's group who still breastfeed, one of which has had mastitis twice (What a trooper!), but my daughter also suffers from reflux & as a result is falling a bit behind on the percentiles for her weight, I shudder to think how small she would be if I had kept trying to breastfeed when I was so least I know the formula is of a consistant quality, who knows what my supply was like during that awful period?

Kellie - posted on 04/20/2009




I was so sad when I stopped also! I loved the bonding feeling. When she would look up into my eyes while nursing. It was an incredible feeling. I went through alot, holidays, than my mother in law passed away. My husband and I were her care takers and lived in the same house with her. Now the house is on the market and we have had to have a funeral and now are looking for a place to live. I dried up after 3 months with all the stress. I do miss it to, and I felt guilty for a while. Although, my daughter was not getting enough from me after a while. I started use formula. Good luck next time.

Tracy - posted on 04/20/2009




Yeah. I was able to breastfeed my first child. But my baby now stopped nursing at about three months because he was frustrated because he could not get enough out. I think part of my problem was I could not produce enough because I did not have any time to rest and make sure I was eating and drinking correctly because I have a toddler that I am chasing around. I cried for days afterwards. It has been hard to see my sister still breastfeeding her new baby. I know in the end that it is better for my son to be getting enough to eat since he was not putting on enough weight either. Since I can't breastfeed anymore I enjoy letting him cuddle up with me to sleep at nap times which he enjoys too.

Linda - posted on 04/20/2009




I was breastfeeding exclusively for 3 months than i introduced 1 formula bottle a day just to have a break and cause he just never sleeps, so to see if he would sleep a little better on it, but by 4 months he started turning his nose up to the boob, its to the point now where he will just have a huge tantrum if i try give him the boob he might have a few sucks but that's it, i know i should just give it up cause he don't want it and its only stressing me more, but Im not ready so i keep trying a couple of times a day, and why any one would chose to bottle feed only has me beat its so not easier washing and sterilizing bottles all day and formula is far from cheap.

Ashley - posted on 04/20/2009




i feel the same way, but i never got to breastfeed my baby. when he was born he was tongue tied and we didn't catch it til he was a month and a half old, so he couldn't get the proper latch on my breast. i was feeding him through a tube for the first couple of days after he was born hoping that we would get the hang of it, but we couldn't so one night neither of us was sleeping i gave in and gave him the bottle:( i cried all night, but i couldn't help it. i still miss that feeling of letting him latch on, but it didn't work for us. at least you got to do it for a few months.

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