Suddenly not sleeping in own room

Sharon - posted on 05/25/2010 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Hey all my 18 month old has suddenly started refusing to sleep in her own room. I will rock her to sleep and then put her in her bed in her room but after about and hour she'll wake up and start crying and I'll usually try to rock her back to sleep but as soon as I try to put her back in her bed she'll wake up again and cry tell she starts choking and then I have to get her and put her in her old bed in my room before she'll calm down and go back to sleep. I haven't changed anything in her room and she use to sleep in her room fine for the last couple months but now suddenly she just acts scared to sleep in there. How do I get her to sleep in her room again? I don't mind her sleeping in my room but I know nether one of us get a good nights sleep when she's there cause I wake up every time she coughs or moves around in her bed and she does the same when I move in my sleep or try to go in to go to bed. I have thought of sleeping on the floor in her room tell she will sleep by herself again but I’m not sure that’s a good idea cause I don’t want her dependent on me always being in the room for her to sleep. Any suggestions?

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Amy - posted on 07/01/2010

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Is it normal to suddenly start having problems sleeping alone? My daughter will be 20mo. tomarrow and has not had any problems going to bed until about two weeks ago. Now all of a sudden she doesn't want to sleep alone. She does not co-sleep with us so I'm not sure why all of a sudden she wants to sleep in mommy and daddy's bed.

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I don't have a similar story, but I have a son who still sleeps in the same room as me. He's in a crib that he can't climb out of, but about 2 months ago he started waking in the middle of the night crying and crying...and this would go on for hours if I let it. Consoling and the tough love example above were things I tried (of course I was never out of sight, I just layed back down.) I work as a nutritionist and decided to give a homeopathic a try. I had to test a few before I found the 'right one' but MY GOSH what a difference. The one I use is called 'Calm' by Homeocan. It's formulation is to help with agitation, nervousness and restlessness. Some of the homeopathics in it are specifically for nightmares as well. This has worked wonders for us.

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Sharon - posted on 07/02/2010

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Not sure how to help you there I have the oppacite problem during naps she has to have me cuddled up with her but bed times are actually getting easier. Since I'm a single mom I don't have to worry about her kicking anyone else out of bed at night but after I first put her to bed I usually put a baby gate across her door way so she can't come out of the room. I'll let her cry for a couple minutes (5 min. 10 max) and then go in and put her back in her bed and comfort her for a couple minutes then step back out of the room. at first I had a couple sleepless nights cause she fought it like crazy but it has gotten a lot easier. I usally take the gate down when I go to bed so when she wakes at 1 she can come crawl in bed with me.

Inez - posted on 07/02/2010

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I have the same problem I can't get her out of my bed she actually seems to not want daddy sleeping in the bed when she is with me he ends up leaving because she wakes up screaming and kicking him as if saying get out. I've notice she needs my arms to fall asleep as if they are a security net for her. It does not matter where we are if she is tired she latches on to my arms and 20 min. later she will be out like a lite. She sleeps in her room during nap time with no problems but night time she wants my bed and my arm, any suggestions.

Sharon - posted on 07/02/2010

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Thanks to everyone who has given me advise. Just to update everyone though she still isn't fulling sleeping in her room alone it is getting better. I finally ended up taking down her old bed in my room and after I did I showed her that her old bed was gone and she had to sleep in her toddler bed. Beleave it or not that seemed to work that night I rocked her to sleep and put her in her room and she stayed there tell about 1 am then woke and came into my room and crawled in bed with me and we slept cuddled togeather for the rest of the night. The next night she cried for about 2 or 3 minutes when I put her to bed but she did climb back into her bed and go to sleep tell about 1 am when she then climbs into my bed and goes back to sleep.

Angela - posted on 05/28/2010

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I had this problem with both of my older children when they were just about 2 and I made the mistake of letting the 1st one just sleep with me and it ended up going on for years so I think that just makes it worse. Have you seen these things called TykeLights? They can actually snuggle with them and they have a soft glow like a night light. Never tried them but they do look interesting. Another thing I did with my 2nd child when she started being scared to sleep alone was I went and bought her this stuffed dog and I told her that he was a special guard dog that would eat the "monsters" in her room. Seems weird but she bought it and it helped. I did try to tell her that monsters aren't real but you can tell a kid that until you are blue in the face and they still don't believe. Good luck, bedtime problems are so exhausting, I hope you find something that works for you.

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I've got an 18 month old daughter and a two month old daughter as well. My 18 month old was sleeping fine all night until the new loud baby came home. I made a mistake...When my oldest daughter started waking up i moved her toddler bed into our room thinking she was probably just jealous (the rest of the family sleep in this room so why cant i?)That worked for a while but then our bed started to be were she wanted to be so getting woke up and being totally exahusted me and my partner started putting her in the bed with us. This didn't really work well because she kicks and was constasntly moving around ewaking us up leaving us more tired the next night and not willing to stay up all night trying to get her in her own bed. So it was like a horrible visious circle!
Now my new bub is 2 months old and we have just got the whole slleping thing undercontrol sort of. 1st we moved her bed out of our room. She would wake up and come right into our room wanting to get in with us. It took alot of long nights probably about a week filled with no sleep and a girl with a bad temper! We the decided to invest in a child gate (i'm too nice to close the door) Then she was waking up and crying at the gate which wasn't enjoyable.The 1st time i got up i put her back in her bed and sat with her patting her back but everytime i left she would wake up...TOUGH LOVE TIME She would wake up so i let her cry for 5 mins and then would go in and calm her and again sit with her until she fell asleep. The next time she woke i made her wait 10 mins then attended to her and so went on all night everytime increasing the time by 5 mins. I got through it just by knowing she had to fall asleep sometime and sure enough she would fall asleep. It took probably a week to fully get her to stop crying. She is still waking at about 5 oclock everymorning but doesnt get out of bed so i am still going into her room to pat her back. This has only just happened in my house last week and it has taken this whole week to try and get her sleep times back to normal. They do say if your child wakes you should never reward that behaviour and thats what i was doing 1st letting her sleep in her bed and then letting her take over ours. I hope this helps this is my method and it really killed me to listen to my girl crying for so long but we mums need to look after ourselfs before our children sometimes and i am a much better mum when i get a goodnights sleep xx

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