my 3 1/2 yr old has been potty trained for 1 year and has started regressing! Nothing is working!

Dawn - posted on 03/25/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )




My 3 1/2 yr old has been trained for a year now and over the last 3 months has been regressing and having accidents almost 1 or twice a day on average. somedays it's alot more than that. Her suster is 15 months old...Iw as expecting to see this when the baby was born BUT it never came, She is smart enough to know a baby lump isnt going to threaten her existance. Now that her sister is walking, talking and really starting to be her own person.....we are seeing it. I have tried everything...extra attention, positive reinforcemant, using timers, using consequence, ignoring it, even yelling (which makes me sad to say). I am so overwhelmed and frustrated. I need help!


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Elizabeth - posted on 05/27/2011




My daughter did the same thing but just after she turned 3 and it seemed like nothing was working but I didn't go back to diapers i just kept on putting panties on her bc all the books say it's normal and after about three months (very recently) she got back on the potty.

There is no reason for her doing this except that I didn't give her attention for her behavior just let her sit in it for a few minutes then changed her quickly without giving attention.

Just going through this I know how frustrating it is but you just have to deal for a little while longer.

Whatever you do just don't give up and put her in diapers, I keep on hearing about all these 5yr olds in diapers and that is just sad.

Good luck.

Kelly - posted on 03/25/2011




have you tried talking to her? asking why?

assuming that nothing is medically responsible for her regression, put her back into diapers. if she is going to act like a baby, treat her like one. take away the "big girl" toys and give her only baby toys. put her back on a schedule much like the baby's. maybe that will help remind her that she is the big girl.
we have a big sister and baby twins. big sister is treated like big sister and we remind her that the babies cannot play with her toys (she does like to try to give them her toys). the babies cannot eat sweets. babies cannot go to the store with mom; only big girls can. etc.

my girl had one "accident" recently. i had her clean it up and told her i was disappointed in her. when she used her toilet the next time, i told her how proud i was of her and gave her high fives. seems to have worked

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