She's Unhappy All The Time

Laura - posted on 12/24/2009 ( 12 moms have responded )

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Hi everyone hope someone on here can offer some advice. My lovely little 2 year old is really smart and goodnatured but the thing is, she's miserable all the time. Everything makes her cry and tantrum from the minute she gets up till the minute she goes to sleep. I don't know what she wants. I try playing with her and things but it doesn't affect her. I have no car so I can only really walk her to the park and library, there's literally nowhere else we can go. We have a tiny house with no garden too so that's hard. I know life is hard for everyone and I'm not whingeing it's just I'm sure she's bored. There's not even any playgroups we can join cause I live in the hinterland and it's really isolated. How do other mums in similar situations cope?

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Griselda - posted on 01/12/2010

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I understand your frustration and your daughter's behavior. My daughter used to throw that worst temper trantrums from the minute she woke up to the minute she went to sleep and in between it was headaches after headaches.
However, I realized that she was bored and frustrated by not being able to communicate her needs. I started making her day a lot more predictable meaning we got into a routine.
I started going out for walks to the beach 2-3x's a week and while at the beach I allowed my daughter to play in the playground for about 1.5hr. We'd get home to eat lunch and then it was rest time for us. I'd have my toddler bring me a book to read to her and then off to take a nap. She'd wake up 2:30p. I have another activity set up for her. I'd have her color, play with playdoh, or blocks.
The point is I made her days predictable, toddlers like routine and that's exactly what I did. Another thing I did was follow through with things I'd say I do. If she asked me for a snack then I'd give it to her instead of ignoring it. If she cant have one then I'd tell her no and redirect her attention to something else so that she doesn't throw a tantrum. This tactic usually works but not always.
When we don't go out allow my daughter to watch cartoons up until 10:30a and then I have her do "free play". We don't have a yard either, at least no grass (all cement). She' was never motivated to play outside until I bought a few outdoor toys and gave my daugther her personal play area inside the house (we also have a small house).
So I think that a combination of communication and routine helped my daughter's behavior.

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Michelle - posted on 12/17/2014

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I'm in the same boat. My daughter is insistant upon throwing a fit every time we go somewhere, at home it's not that way. I have taken her out of the stores and put her on time outs numerous times, and the more I tell her to quiet down, before the time out the louder she gets. I'm feeling very tested.

Charmain - posted on 01/19/2010

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Ours is a little terror... but she's really smart, too! She loves books and singing. The temper tantrums are worse if she stays up too late or doesn't get a good nap the day before. She will hurt herself more often and be more prone to temper tantrums and screaming fits. Also, they are worse if she doesn't interact with someone other than me. She gets frustrated when there is no other stimulation. It can be as simple as going out for a walk that fixes it, but she can't be locked in the house all day with me.

Susan - posted on 01/19/2010

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You should try the Wiggles! My girls are really entertained by it. They have been doing better lately too. Thats great your able to do the PT daycare. It will be good for her and Mommy too!

Laura - posted on 01/16/2010

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Love 2 all of you for the helpful comments. I've managed to persuade Indi's grandma to send her to daycare three days a week (we're on the disability pension and money's too tight for us to send her ourselves). She's been to the daycare centre a few times and loves it so I think maybe this will help relieve her boredom and also teach her peer-accepted behaviour. Also, tried to get her to watch some different DVD's (The Fairies instead of Dora all day!) because we don't have cable TV and she's not interested in what's on ABC (picky little b*gger!). Unfortunately the tantrums are still getting worse. We're now receiving threats from ppl in our complex due to her constant screaming. So having her out of the house 3 days a week will be good in a way...but still don't know what to do when she's home...

Susan - posted on 01/14/2010

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I think its the terrible two's! I have twin 2 1/4 old girls and they go to daycare.They love it,tons of stimulation. They wake up crabby sometimes and comehome whining for crackers and not dinnner..If its Wiggles they want Einstein. They fight over books and toys constantly. I believe this will pass. They are expressing their independence and frusterated they can't fully communicate. Good Luck and pass along any good tips you come up with!

Jenna - posted on 01/14/2010

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dont worry you arnt alone i have a 2 yr old boy who screams my house down on a very regular basis, he just follows me around the house whingeing, he has all the toys a boy could ask for and i always have cartoons on in the background, but no hes not interested in any of it. i think they were put on this earth to test out paitence, i also have a 5 year old who is and has always been so quiet, easily ammused and placid... i just keep telling myself that they wont b little for ever!

Sheila - posted on 01/13/2010

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Ah should have mentioned, we go to a Baby/ Toddler disco once a month, they've cut it back a lot now, it used to be once a week! Zoe loves it, it's her favourite activity but because the discos aren't on as often we hold our own personal discos in our living room! :-) Very silly but great fun. Sx

Kamere - posted on 01/12/2010

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Hey, I was wondering if you let her watch cartoon on television, Discovery Kids is a really great channel for kids these age. What you can also try to do is have sing alongs with her, I always do that with my son. You should also try to play with her a lot and laugh a lot around her even if you get no joke, just always try to be cheerful around her.

Sheila - posted on 01/03/2010

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Try and stay calm and patient and encourage her to try and tell you what's wrong. At this stage it's likely to be frustration. Zoe loves books, do you have membership to the library?? Also we used to go to "Bounce & Rhyme" at the library but it is too crowded there for us now and Zoe needs a bit more space, are there any toddler groups there she could join?? Can you explore plants/ birds/ wildlife at the park???
Also I use the internet to help stimulate Zoe, the BBC has a brilliant children's part where you can watch programs and play games etc.
Could be her teeth??? How is her diet??? I cook with Zoe which can be fun and a great way to get some food in her at times. Hope these ideas help.
Keep your chin up, it's not easy and whining kids can be so draining. Please keep me posted. Sx

Carla - posted on 01/01/2010

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I have a lovely daughter who is exactly the same. Maybe it is just the nature of little girls!! She is not so much as miserable, but wines instead of talking and everything ends in tears. Everything is a fight, is it girls or just terrible twos.

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