baby waking up in the middle of the night....

Ayesha - posted on 06/09/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )




my baby is 8 months old and she falls asleep at night while playing between me and my husband after having her bottle of milk and would sleep through the night. But for the past few days she wakes up in the middle and won't go back to sleep until she lays beside me and stays there. I try to put her back in her crib but she wakes up immediately and starts crying. Any tips? I read somewhere when the child starts recognising the mother, they want their comfort when they're awoken during the night... what do i do to make her feel safe as well as sleep in her crib at the same time?


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Rose - posted on 06/11/2009




sorry, i just thought is so funny and cute, that your daughter grabs noses. mine too! just the cutest ever!

Rose - posted on 06/11/2009




yes, my daughter is finding new sleep issues too! she wakes up to play and laugh, etc. i thought she was having teething problems, but she is just new to communicating through play and laughter that i think she is excited wants to keep going. but, also, not picking the baby up is apparently crucial. they are supposed to learn to fall back asleep on their own. also, if you can change the diaper, if necessary, try doing it in the crib, so as to not pick her up. also, no encouraging interaction (laughing, smiling, etc-- I KNOW IT'S HARD!!!). good luck :)

Tara - posted on 06/10/2009




We are going through the same thing! Just all of a sudden my son went from sleeping 10-12hrs straight to waking up at night again. Sometimes he wakes up only once and others times it is every 2 hours. He also will wake up just screaming. We have him on a good bed time routine however he will not settle down with the usual method of rubbing his head/chest etc as before. I do pick him up when he is really bad and he cuddles right in and falls asleep on me and I can put him back down. Then sometimes I only need to give him his soother. I think it is separation anxiety! Makes me feel better to know that others are also going through this because at first I had no idea what was going on.

Also during the day when he is awake I sometimes can't leave his sight or he will scream. Im sure it is just a phase and will pass soon. Hang in there :)

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Is your baby in a solid food and milk routine yet? She might be hungry.

I use a pick-up/put down method (thankyou 'baby whisperer' book).

If my baby wakes up cyring, I'll go in and either pat her gently to calm her down, or follow that by picking her up if she continues to cry. But not rocking, just a hug and patting her gently on the back.

When she stops crying and is calm, I pop her back into bed. She then goes to sleep again. Like the mum above (Sara Long) I , too have worked hard to get my baby to go to sleep herself. Nowadays at nap time, I'll be holding her beside her bed, and all she wants to do is get into her bed. Takes time and patience, but it is worth it!

Colleen - posted on 06/09/2009




We have been having a similar problem. We put her down in her crib and she'll sleep from like 7:30 or 8 until 10:30. Then we bring her into our bed for a snack and she usually goes back down until 3. Then she wakes up, and I mean fully wakes up, laughing, talking, grabbing noses, etc. for about an hour and we try to get her back down, but it is a struggle. I've heard that the best thing to do if you're committed to keeping her in her crib is to go in and reassure her that you're there with your voice and a touch, but don't pick her up. Give her the connection without picking her up so she gets used to soothing herself down. I say this because for us it happens whether she's with me or not, so it may just be a this age thing and not a "missing mommy" thing.(if that makes any sense...)

Sara - posted on 06/09/2009




Do you pick her up when she wakes up and starts crying? When my daughter does that, which she started doing recently, I go in and rub her back or her tummy and talk to her to try to calm her down. Eventually, she goes back to sleep. I just try very hard not to pick her up (I, of course, make sure her diaper is ok and stuff...if she needs changed, I do pick her up) but just calm her down. Of course, we have a very strict bedtime routine and I put her in her crib drowsy but awake. She puts herself back to sleep most of the time when she wakes up in the night, but I worked hard to help her learn to do that. Good Luck!

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