Potty Training

Susan - posted on 05/04/2010 ( 29 moms have responded )

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am i late for potty training, my son is 11/2 years and am still to start potty training though i intend to start this month.

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Lauren - posted on 05/13/2010

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I don't think you're late at all. I'm a nursing student and I just presented a paper on toilet training, and the information I found all supported waiting. Children start to gain urethral and anal control somewhere between 18 months and 2 years of age, so starting before that doesn't make sense. I also have an 18 month old and after finishing my paper I have decided to not start the toilet training process until after she turns 2. Another thing to consider is if you give your child a job that they are not ready to do, if you put that expectation on them and they fail, then they may feel guilty and like a failure, when really, they just weren't ready.

Look up Erikson's Theory of psychosocial development, it absolutely blew me away!

Mindee - posted on 05/06/2010

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Boys often potty train later than girls, often not until 3 years of age. You are not delayed in starting this. In fact, it's very important not to force it on him or it could cause major problems and serious delay. Is he able to pull his pants up and down by himself yet? Is he in t-shirts instead of onesies? Does he show an interest in using the 'big boy potty'? If you don't already have a potty chair for him, you may want to purchase one and let him get used to it before officially trying to 'train' him. Best of luck!

Marisa - posted on 05/05/2010

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you are definitely not late! I think a lot of people start at 2, sometimes later (especially with boys). I think it is more important to pay attention to your son and see if he is exhibiting signs of wanting to potty train.

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Cinda - posted on 05/18/2010

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Not at all. Both of my older boys didn't potty train until 3, and it only took about a week for them to get it. So much easier. I always wonder who is getting potty trained when parents are doing it earlier. :) With a boy, it also helps if they can watch their daddy, if he is amenable.

Andrea - posted on 05/18/2010

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I think it depends on the child. My daughter is 19 mnths and I'm just trying now. She understands potty, and 'poo poo' but is taking her time to use it! I'm not going to push her just in her own time.

Jenny - posted on 05/17/2010

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My daughter is 19 months and we are starting the potty training process. Unfortunately most parents don't seem to train their kids until they are 3 or 4 anymore. I think it's great you are ready because by age 2 your little one will be potty trained. I know that's our goal.

Nancy - posted on 05/17/2010

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my son is 19 months and we haven't started. All we are trying to do is get him to tell us when he has a poop. He still runs from me and giggles when it's time to change him. Boys are way later than girls, so I'm not worried. This is my first, but I'm told they will start to show signs when they are ready.

Joanne - posted on 05/17/2010

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gosh I hope not, cause I wasn't going to start until my son starts showing and interest around 2 years old.

Ashlie - posted on 05/17/2010

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My son is the same age! I take him to the potty! HE knows the words peepee and booboo! WHen he says that I say potty and he goes right to it! He is not all the way potty trained, but is on his way! Everyone I talk to say I'm starting early with him! But I guess it all depends on your child! Just offer and start showing him and see how he takes to it! Don't make this a bad process for him! Ease him into and make it fun!

Rebecca - posted on 05/16/2010

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def not, alot don't start till there about 2....I started training my 4 year old when she was 2, my 19month old daughter is starting to show some signs but l am going to put it of a little longer...Boys are normally a bit later and harder to train...
They will shoe you the signs when they are ready....

Lynda - posted on 05/16/2010

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You're not late at all. I've always heard 18 months is the absolute earliest to start if the child is showing signs of readiness, but most aren't ready until at least age 2. I hope people or books aren't telling you you're late! I think you'll know when your child is ready. You can introduce the idea to them--try to get them to tell you when they're wet/dirty, buy them their own potty, etc.--but don't push it until absolutely ready. My 19 month old daughter is curious, but not ready yet and I'm fine with it. Even though I'd love for her to be out of diapers, I never expected to have her out of them before age 2. As for my daughter, I'm going to wait until she shows signs of readiness. The more ready they are, the simpler it is and shorter amount of time it takes, which is easiest for all involved. Good luck to you!

Kate - posted on 05/15/2010

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Try not to stress out about this, especially if you have a boy!
My son would barley evn sit on the potty for more than 2 seconds until well into his 2nd year I dont think he was fully trained until close to 3 years old and to some people that might seem late. But I streed and I tied many time previous and he just wasnt ready or willing and it only put a starin on both of us. So dont worry about what anyone else thinks or says. For my son he has always been very very active so it just took some time for him to gain the paitence to understand the whole process but once he did he had the whole thing down in a matter of about 3 days!!!! He was also night trained from the time he way day trained. He peeded the bed once when he was really sick with the Flu!!
I hope this helps you!

Beth - posted on 05/15/2010

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My son is also 18 months and I have yet to start potty training. I have decided to wait a while since I have another baby on the way. I have been told time and time again that when you have a new baby come into the house sometimes the older one has set backs. I have decided that I will start the training on his 2nd birthday which will also be right after the baby arrives.

Dawnie - posted on 05/15/2010

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I haven't started yet and bean is 19mths! I believe the later you start the shorter and easier the potty training process will be. I also wanted to wait until my son has the potty jargon

Ami - posted on 05/13/2010

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Are you kdding? That's early! Especially for a boy. I started with my son around then, and after the newness wore off, he didn't care so much. (Getting a little sis a week after your 3rd bday doesn't help).. He didnt really have underwear fully during the day until 3.5yrs and at night around 4 years. We're a bit different than most and just let him guide himself, didn't want to force the toilet.

Rupiinder - posted on 05/13/2010

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hey i'm also facing the sam eproblem..my daughter is 1.6 yrs old and still she is nt trained..rather we even bought potty..but she is nt ready to sit on it..if we make her sit she cries like anything...i'm also worried abt this..can any 1 help
and one more thing i want to share that i'm still nursing her she is not weaning..and not taking additional solids or juices
plz suggest me how to overcome this?

Leandri - posted on 05/12/2010

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Cobus watches his brother (Dylan, 3) & sits on the potty, but only for 3sec, so I think it's a case of "monkey see, monkey do"

Tracy - posted on 05/12/2010

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I agree with Mindee
I depends if he is showing interest in the potty and if he recognizes when he is weeing ect. boys usually start potty training later than girls and my older girl initiated at 2. I dont actually know of anyone who has successfully potty trained and got it all over and done with quickly.. I have noticed that the earlier you start if they are not ready, the longer the process. So dont feel pressured by other people saying that they are starting already. Remember that each child is very different.

Angela - posted on 05/11/2010

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My 19 month old is no where near ready to potty train yet. I bought some training pants and thought I'd give it a start in the summer time, but my 5 1/2 yr old was a bit later too to start (probably closer to 2 1/2 when he was really "getting it".

Sarah - posted on 05/10/2010

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I have 18month old twin girls and we aren't starting potty training yet. They show some signs that they might be ready but I don't think they really are ready to make the big switch. They do wear pull ups but that is because a few months ago they started taking off regular diapers. I am going to let them tell me when they are ready so it won't be so hard. I hear it is more successful when the child makes the move themselves.

China - posted on 05/10/2010

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You are not late! My son wasn't ready until he was 3 1/2 and it drove me crazy. Once he showed interest though he took to it so quickly. My daughter is 19 months old now and is showing signs of being ready. It reaaly depends on your kid. Listen to him and don't try to push it if he's not ready. Good luck!!

Denise - posted on 05/09/2010

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No your not behind. 18 months is the earliest you should start. I got my little girl potty trained about a month ago when she was exactly 18 months. The first week sucked. She seemed to resist but then the following week she just started doing it by herself if I stayed back. I just stuck to it. I think you need to be ready and when you start stick to it or they will get confused. I dont think they need to be able to talk and tell you. There are other ways they can show you they need to go.

Lorena - posted on 05/09/2010

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Absolutely not. In fact you could be way too early for your individual child. You should not try to potty train until your child is aware of what peeing and pooping are. They will start to make comments like "poop" or 'I have poop' or pee when thay have gone or while thay are going that lets you know they are aware of what is going on. They will also start following you to the toilet and telling you what you are doing. Then they are usually ready to start. Some children develop awareness and control much later than others and the average for potty training for girls is 29 months and boys is 31 months. Most children are not ready before 24 months.

So rest easy and don't stress yourself and your child out by trying too early.
Good luck when the time comes.

Sarah - posted on 05/09/2010

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Eighteen months is very early to start potty training although some children do start that young. My daughter was not truly ready till just a few days after her 3rd birthday. My eldest took even longer although he is disabled. My 18 month old shows a few signs of readiness now, but i think the best thing to do is just sit back and let the child tell you when he or she is ready - then the whole process goes really quickly with little effort!

Daniela - posted on 05/07/2010

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No, you're not late. My daughter at 18 months took a look at the potty and walked off. I tried to put her on it, dressed and I explained to her what it was for, but she resisted and walked off again! Not ready. I'm not too worried, i've never heard of an older child who hasn't learned how to go to the toilet! she'll do it when she's ready, meanwhile, every month I bring up the subject, see how she reacts.

Kylie - posted on 05/05/2010

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nah, some are ready at 1, and some not till 3... they'll start idenntifing with your words, put them into pullups that let the kids know when a wee/poo is happening... our almost 3 is trying to train,b ut the 18months old is actually using the potty... much to her older sisters disgust... hopeing 18mG trains 3year old g...

Kirsten - posted on 05/04/2010

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I have started potty training my 1 1/2 year old and my pediatrictian was thrilled and told me that that was early, espicially for boys which are supposed to be harder. we got him a potty of his own and started out just sitting on it with his clothes on while we went, then slowly moved on to sitting with a diaper, sitting with no diaper, actually going on it, and are currently attaching it to the toilet. He still doesnt always tell us that he has to go but using an hour timer seems to help remind everybody that it is time to go try.

Katrina - posted on 05/04/2010

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I dont think you are late starting. I know mums with children that have just turned 2 that are only just starting the toilet training. My twin boys are 1 1/2yrs and only one is showing signs of being ready. Im going to hold off a little while longer until I am confident they are both ready.

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