Potty Training! Help! Please!

Casey - posted on 07/04/2011 ( 7 moms have responded )




My daughter will be 3 in October and at her Montessori school she's perfectly potty trained. But as soon as she gets home and I put underwear on her (I have the school put her in a diaper for the ride home) she yells "I baby, I use diaper!! No panties!!! She alternates yelling this at me in English and then in Spanish. My fiance had the idea of not letting her do stuff like watch tv or go to the park, explaining to her that this is "big girl stuff" and she's saying she's a "baby", but it doesn't work. She'll flat out refuse to go to the potty for me, and then pee on the floor! Help! Please! She's moving into the "big kids" pre-school class next year, and they won't take her if she wears a diaper at all.


Sarah - posted on 07/15/2011




I used the naked technique on my son. They HATE the sensation of pee flowing freely. Once we had that down (took about 2 days - we just used our weekend) we moved him into his big boy underwear. I refused to let him have diapers or even pull ups - accidents happened, and I did a LOT of laundry, but I think it helped him figure it out a little faster.


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Becky - posted on 07/23/2011




I agree with Terri as well, don't change her into a diaper for the ride home. It is my personal opinion that diapers are really more about convenience for the parent and can definitely hinder potty training. Right now I put my son in a diaper at night time, but for the last few months he has been in cloth diapers or "big boy underwear."
I know it'll be inconvenient for you, but be strong! You can do it!

Laura - posted on 07/21/2011




My daughter had issues after a very bad stomach flu, but I have turned to bribery and normal underpants. She gets stickers whenever she goes to the potty.

If we have to be out for any length of time, I get to to pee before we leave, BUT I but a pull-up on her just in case, and bring a collapsible potty seat. She hates being in them and hates going in pull-ups. So she tells me she has to pee and we run to the nearest public washroom.

Now if I could only get her to stop yelling "I farted excuse me!"

For you/her, the diaper seems to be the point where she feels she doesn't need to act like a big girl. I'd stop using them in the car, and instead use normal underwear and rubber pants. She'll catch on fast

Tiffany - posted on 07/12/2011




I know how hard it is to potty train a little one. I've potty trained 2 boys, and am working through the third boys. My son Jonas will be 3 in October also. He doesn't say, I'm a baby, but he pees in his underwear on purpose!! I know it's frustrating when you know they can do it, and won't. I do believe that the less t.v. she watches the better the results you'll get. I noticed the more t.v. Jonas watches; the worse of a potty training day he has. As far as she doing well at school, and poorly at home, that's what Jonas does from church to home. It must have something to do with feeling safe at home to make mistakes. The joys of motherhood. She will potty train completly; even if it feels like she won't. I promise the 3 of you will come out of this victorious!!! Then you will look back at the day she did it and will smile!

Cara - posted on 07/07/2011




Ok. My first question is.... Are there any recent BIG changes going on at home? A recent move, new baby, baby on the way, lost pet....etc? Many kids tend to revert back to wanting to act baby-like if there is a big change of some sort going on in their life. Is it possible that her acting like she is may be getting her more attention than if she uses the potty?

If your main concern for her on the ride hope is possibly having an accident I would buy training panties and the "rubber" pants that go over them. Those will help if she does have an accident but still give her that yucky feeling of having peed or pooped in regular underwear. You may find that she doesn't like that feeling. Good luck hun! :)

When my daughter first started using the potty we gave her 1 m&m whenever she would tell us she had to go(and actually did go). Once she started getting the hang of the peeing thing we switched 1 m&m out for 1 sticker(we let her pick her own stickers at the store also). Then came the hard part.....convincing my daughter that it was OK to leave her poop in the potty! So the bribery with m&m's returned. She again got 1 m&m when ever she would poop in the potty. once she got that down we turned to stickers as a reward each time instead. She has now been potty trained for about 9 or so months. I will say that i really had to wait for her to be interested in using the potty tho. She was to a point of hating being in a wet or poopy diaper and was constantly taking diapers off.

Chris - posted on 07/05/2011




I agree with Terri. You should also have her help you clean up any accidents she has. This might make her realize that she has consequences related to the potty training.

Terri - posted on 07/04/2011




I'd seriously start with not letting her be changed into a diaper for her ride home but making her wear the training underwear. It seems she thinks that it should signal a switch in behavior. If she can do it one place she can do it another. Trust me she won't like wet undies & will get the point. She is testing you because she knows she can get away with it. It is a battle of wills so stand your ground & make her wear the big girl pants, this too will pass but you have to be strong!

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