finding the time to reinvest

Margaret - posted on 05/01/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




Trying to get through the day is hard enough. I have a four year old autistic son. I want to teach him all about our path; he's already got some great senses for things. I can feel he's in tune with things that I'm not.
I get so lost in day to day life. it's hard to maintain my practice and even basic spirituality.
How do you find time to keep yourself grounded and focused on the path? How do you keep in contact with Deity when there's not enough energy in the day to finish dishes, much less meditate?



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Margaret - posted on 02/09/2011




@Julie--sometimes that's all I can do, and sometimes that's enough. We live in Arizona, and it's hard NOT to connect with nature out here!

@Megan--Thanks so much for that! I have terrible willpower sometimes, but I'm making more of an effort to make myself stick to projects.

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your son; I cannot even imagine how that's affected you. The fact that you were able to come to the conclusion of scheduling time for yourself is very smart, and very wise. There's a movie out now called "Rabbit Hole," about trying to cope with a child's death, and whenever I think about it, I get overwhelmed. I hope that you've been able to find peace.

It's still hard to focus, to find time during the day, especially when new things constantly crop up. But I've also learned that God and Goddess know that by putting my son as the priority, that is honoring all. And what mother and father wouldn't respect that? :)

Darkman - posted on 05/15/2010




Hi Maggie

I realise it is a year since you posted this, and I apologise for not answering sooner. Actually a year ago, I wouldn't have been able to answer your question, but have had a recent epiphany on the subject.

While not having a special needs child, I did lose my oldest son (second child) some time ago and this did weigh heavily on me and caused even the simplest tasks to be very difficult. I have recently come to actually own the idea that if I'm not happy, then nobody in the house will be.

In order to make myself happy, I now schedule things into my day that make me feel good. For instance, I have an appointment with myself to meditate for 20 minutes a day. I also meet with myself to exercise for 15 mins (better than the 0 I was doing before!). If I didn't make these times, the day would just wander along its merry way without me stopping to take care of myself.

Since I started doing these things, I am feeling much better! I have a lot more mental and physical energy and can generally cope with "curve balls" far better!

Even if you have to make these appointments with yourself at ridiculous hours (like 5.30am or 7.30pm), you should try very hard to do it. Taking care of yourself is worshipping the Goddess within you.

And, I believe the path is in your attitude, your kindness and compassion and your dedication to service. You don't need to be working formal rituals to be following the path!!

Hope this helps a bit :)


Julie - posted on 09/12/2009




I am having the same problems. I have 3 children and my older two have autism. One is 6 and the other is 4. I hate not having enough time for me in a day. Whenever I do find time I like to at least take a walk and get in touch with nature. It gets so hard some days but just being in touch with nature helps.

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