Wiccan Mom in a Christian Family

Rhianna - posted on 07/14/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )




Hi, I'm Rhianna, 22 years old, with a 20 month old daughter. I was raised in a VERY Christian family. While my mother didn't drag us (myself and my older brother) to church every week. We were daughter about God and Jesus. My grandmother is a very strict baptist (no woman should wear pants, being gay is a sin, etc.) and I currently live with her. However, I discovered my place in the universe and paganism when I was about 15/16. I wish to raise my daughter to understand all religions, but my family doesn't give me that space. What's worse is my stepmother who is desperately trying to get me to allow her to baptise Rin (she is a devout Catholic and knows my religious preference, but chooses to ignore it) and my father has no respect for my beliefs and is convinced I'm going to join a cult. My grandmother can't let anything go without involving Jesus, she reads the bible to Rin and has taught her "Jesus Loves Me" (a ver very annoying song if you've ever heard it). While I respect my families religious choices, they do not respect mine and I'm afraid to teach my daughter about Wicca because I do not wish to have to fight with my mother/father/stepmother/grandmother about what I believe and what I teach my daughter.

So my question is: How can I teach her these things and help her to understand that our family isn't as understanding open as we'd like, and they might not approve of the things I have to teach my daughter.

I should also note that I am very close to my family and they are extremely important to me, I don't want to estrange those closest to me over a difference in our beliefs.


Shaanhah - posted on 12/16/2009




I have a simaler problem my grandfather is a certified baptist minister and my grandmother an ipiscapalion. My grandmother offten trys to get me to baptise my daughter who is now two. though my family is alittel more understanding they to cross the line when it comes to religion. What i do is just stay firm with out fighting when my duaghter started the jeasus loves me i changed the words to

"Isis loves me this i know she blesses me where ever i go. every one she looks apon feels her love it makes them strong"

I just simply let them say what they want and then when my daughter and i have time to gether i tell her stories and add in what my beliefs are i get a lot of help from a web page called pooka pages. I teach my daughter by the way i live and when im around my faimly i just quietly ignor what they say. just take a deep breath i know its enough to drive you nuts but it will be ok.


View replies by

Skye - posted on 12/06/2010




I realize this may be very difficult, but I think you should move out of your Grandmother's house and try to make it on your own. If you had your own place then you'd have the freedom to teach your daughter whatever you want about your faith. Then explain to her (like many of us have to do) that the rest of the family believes in something else. Try to avoid talking about religion in their house and if it comes up, ask them to trust you to be a good mother and not to worry because your life and your daughter's will be filled with morals, values, and god's love (and silently include the goddess there too). Smile and steer the conversation in a different direction. I don’t know if this will actually help you.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms