10 Habits of Happy Moms

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Here are 10 things happy moms do--so remember these tips in your day-to-day life!

1. Find time for yourself
Happy moms know they deserve a little time to themselves. When you know you're going to have a little room to breathe later on in the day, it's easier to take on everything that's in front of you. Our formula? Take 2 hours out for yourself every 3 days.

2. Don't make a happy baby, happier!
We all do it...you see your baby's head at what you're sure is an unnatural angle snoozing in their car seat. You just know they'll be happier if their head was straight. So you move them. And they wake up. Then they scream. Or, you see them playing happily in the sand. You just know they'll be happier if they played on the slide. So you interrupt them and move them to the slide. And they're angry. And they let you know they're REALLY angry. Here's the thing, they were happy. It can be hard to do, but if your kid's not complaining, leave them be! Happy baby = Happy Mommy.

3. Embrace the mess
So your house doesn’t look like something out of a magazine. That just means it’s cozy! Your children have hands coated in dirt from the playground and faces coated in spaghetti from dinner. It’s not gross—it’s an adorable photo op! Life is about how you look at things. Next time that pile of laundry that’s been sitting on the chair for three days starts to get you down, just remember… it’s probably feng shui.

4. Make time for your friends
Your family can survive without you while you make time to see friends. You are a woman with your own identity and its imperative that you and that identity go out for some margaritas once in awhile!

5. Stop blowing yourself off
While you may be the one taking care of everyone, it doesn't mean you can't also get what you want. Help your family realize your needs are as important as theirs and when mom is happy, everyone is happy, but when mom is not....

6. Get in the zone
Take 10 minutes to do absolutely nothing but rest. Take a break from your day, close your eyes, breath in slowly and deeply through your nose and exhale through your mouth. Repeat several times. Think about a place you love that is relaxing, spend 10 minutes there in your mind.

7. Remember your dreams and goals
Everyday we are encouraging our children to reach their full potential. But sometimes in the midst of being a parent we forget about our own dreams and goals. The best thing you can do to encourage a child is to lead by example –happy moms hold on to their dreams and goals and don’t let go.

8. Be lighthearted
Don't be the uptight mom. Be silly and dance with your kids to their music or tv show tunes. Be romantic and pull your partner into a waltz. Dance in slippery socks in your kitchen while making dinner.

9. Bend the Rules
One of the best parts of making the rules is occasionally breaking them. Maybe it’s taking your child out of school for half a day on their birthday, or waking them up in the middle of the night to see a sky of shooting stars. Happy moms know how to turn the mundane into fun.

10. Mind your own business
Concentrate on creating your life the way you want it. Take care of you and your family. Don’t get overly concerned with what other people are doing or saying. Don’t get caught up with gossip or name calling. Stop seeking the validation of others and be confident in yourself.


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Barb - posted on 11/27/2010




There is nothing wrong with having friends that LOL "Live in the computer" although i'd dispute that my surroundings are pixelated. I've had the pleasure to meet some of my bestest friends that the relationship started on the internet. If you get the chance, i suggest you take it.

I came back to this thread because #2 has blossomed in my mind as a metaphor for life and i have a little mini rant to share.

This doesn't have to apply to our infants or toddlers but to our adult children as well. Sometimes that rush to "make it better" just makes it worse and if we dive in and fix all the problems, how do they learn to fix it themselves? Fixing it themselves in turn also builds esteem and makes them happy.

Beyond just our own children or other family members in our lives, the "let them be happy" metaphor can apply to many of the laws as well.

If someone finds smoking or ingesting marijuana eases pain or just gives them an easier life, it's not bothering you, let them be happy.

If two consenting adults love each other and wish to have the protection of the institution of marriage, it doesn't discredit your marriage, only the people in the marriage can do that. Let them be happy.

If someone finds themselves in the horrible position of having to make a choice of abortion, that is hard enough without self righteous people banging them down with insults for their decision. They, afterall, don't have to carry or support the child or even offer an alternative by adopting the child, they just offer judgment and ridicule. Leave it alone and let them be as happy as they can be. Just be happy you don't have to carry their burdens.

If a baby boy is happy with his whole penis, let him be happy :)

You can never be truly happy by making someone's life miserable or even dictating their happiness.

Just my 2cents worth.

Meghan - posted on 11/24/2010




LOL..you ladies are great! Whats wrong with having friends that live in the computer??? (Thats what my mom and b/f call this site.)

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We all get moments where we wish a fairy godmother would come and take the kids away for a few hours so we can just grab a nap lol it gets easier as they get older though.

Caitlin - posted on 11/23/2010




Seriously.. I need some moms to gab with.. have TMI talks with, and generally listen to me whine about my 2 kids with colds and ear infections (not like I could - I have laryngitis) and the fact all I wante to do 4 nights ago when I had a fever of 103.5 and both kids screamed the whole night was plunk them out on the front lawn for a fwe hours so I could SLEEP! I think we've all had those moments at times.. I hope... lol..

April - posted on 11/23/2010




I really don't have any friends outside of COM either. It makes me sad because I really like a lot of you and wish we lived nearby! I would totally hang out with some of the girls on COM!

Caitlin - posted on 11/23/2010




April - It's sad but I dont' have any friends outside of the internet - i'm not ugly or strange or anything, just that my area is mostly french and i'm not. And also i'm too busy.. I work, go to school and take care of the kids - and my husband does the same. I wish I could afford daycare for the girls so I could get some ME time, and maybe some more time to do a class or more so I could get my degree faster.

April - posted on 11/10/2010




I think we also need to add #11 to the list: Do something for yourself that doesn't involve COM. As much as I love you ladies, I sometimes spend too much time talking to people I've never met before. It's time to get out there and try something different!!

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