Kate Gosselin and the kids - WHEN does she ever see them?

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So, I read on Yahoo's gossip site (OMG!) a couple weeks ago that Jon Gosselin is going for full custody of the kids, saying that Kate has no time for them and never sees them with all her stupid reality show crap. THEN today I see another article that says she ahs signed on for TWO more reality shows, one of which will be flying her all over the country to "help" other moms and women "like her" and women who have sent her letters asking for advice. With her receiving a child support payment of $22,000 per month, WHY THE HECK IS SHE DOING ALL THESE SHOWS??? I just can't help but think that maybe Jon should get custody since it seems Kate never sees the kids anyway...



What are your thoughts on this?

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Amanda - posted on 04/22/2010

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I think that both of these parents failed their kids. There are a lot of large families out there who support their kids without cameras around. Those camera have major effects not only on their kids' lives, but on their marriage as well. I think their biggest mistake was allowing the cameras in their home in the first place. Shortly after the cameras arrived, I think their major focus shifted from raising their kids to keeping their show.



I have never been a fan, because I don't believe that this show has ever been a good idea for their kids. This is why I never watched the show. I don't watch or support anything that they are on.



The fact that people bring up that this is what you have to do to raise 8 kids bothers me honestly. I know large families in real life, and guess what? They are just fine without media coverage. The parents work, they maintain their privacy, and the kids live a normal life within a loving family. Which I believe Jon and Kate would still have if the cameras were never there. At the very least if their marriage had still fallen apart, their extended family would still have been there.



I am not Team Kate or Team Jon, I am Team Kids. Those kids are the ones with the crappy end of the deal, and I just hope that their parents start focusing more on them before it's too late, and their kids are filled with bitterness towards their parents.

Ashley - posted on 04/19/2010

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They are both just terrible. I used to be on Jon's side, but he became a womanizing loser. Kate has always irritated me, and now I just find them pathetic. I'll never forget when she thought it was "funny" that her kids called her by their nanny's name because she's gone all the time. That is not funny! I think she is as big of an embarassment to single mothers as the Octomom is.

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I think that Kate THINKS she is doing what she has to do to provide for her kids - and I applaud her for that, I honestly do, BUT I do wish that she would just be happy with her 1 reality show (the new "Kate plus 8") and not feel she needs another show that requires her to leave her children for days at a time while she jets around the country "helping" other moms who have written to her. THAT is my main concern about the whole thing. Are her kids going with her? I honestly doubt it, so who has the kids while she's gone?

Amanda - posted on 04/24/2010

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honestly, i hadn't thought about it. i hate how all these "celebrities" personal lives get made into headlines. IT'S NOT OUR BUSINESS!!!

Amber - posted on 04/23/2010

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I'm kind of torn on this subject. I mean, most of the information that the public has comes from the tabloids. And they will exploit every small situation and make it seem SOO extreme. And they might take 100 photos, and the ONE photo where everybody looks unhappy is the one that gets printed because it sells magazines. Even though they might have been smiling in the other 99. And really, how happy are you going to look if you have 5 paparazzi camera men taking your picture every day?
Also, Jon fired his lawyer that said he was sueing for full custody and said he's only trying to ammend the custody and pay less child support. He said his lawyer spoke on his own and did not have authority.
I think that she is being the best mom that she knows how to be. Right now she's rebounding from the divorce and hopefully she is going to settle into a lifestyle that is more beneficial for her kids.

April - posted on 04/22/2010

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i don't like jon or kate. neither one of them has their childrens' best interests.

kate could take a job a little closer to home if she is so concerned about being a breadwinner. why doesn't she do that? it's because she wants the fame!

Alison - posted on 04/22/2010

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Wow. I did not expect this to be exclusive Kate-bashing. Personally, she gets on my nerves as well, but there are a lot of annoying moms out there. Just because she is in the media doesn't make her worse. I honestly believe that Kate is a legitimate good mom who also has big dreams of becoming a real star. I do not believe that everything she is doing is in the best interest of the children, but some would argue that our society is too child-centric.

We all have some goals that may inconvenience our children. Many of us have spouses who have worked away from home even do it ourselves, for the good of our finances or our career. To claim that your financial ambitions are all for the good of your children is bunk, whether or not you are a super star. What children need is love and stability.

It is ok for a mom to have personal goals and to go after them. I am convinced that Kate is spending enough quality time with her children for their own good. What I hold against her is the fact that she claims to be doing this for her kids.

But let's stop holding moms to such a perfect standard. None of us needs that.

Lyndsay - posted on 04/20/2010

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I agree. I was over them long ago, before they separated and became a scandal. I really don't care anymore.

Rose - posted on 04/20/2010

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I hate that B* she is a horrible person making john out to be a f* up when she really is the f* up of the two. If she wasn't such a control freak and the lime light didn't suck her in maybe they would still be together. People need to just get over her and quit giving her all these show when clearly she isn't a good parent. But i guess its making people a buck or two!!

Karen - posted on 04/20/2010

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ok so I see what you're saying about most celebrities don't see their kids ever either but Kate is different. She was there all.the.time with her kids. Then the parents split (which is hard enough on the kids) but now she is still sticking them in the spotlight and taking on all these shows. Not the same as a kid growing up used to being taken care of by someone else yadayada...Most of them don't look all that happy just because they have $$ either. I'm sure they would rather have a parent around. But to go from one extreme to the other just looks sucky.

Stephany - posted on 04/20/2010

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I don't think it is so much a matter of her pursuing an acting career or whatever, or her being there no more than actresses are for their kids. She made such a big stink over wanting to be there for her kids, over the distraught mess her kids were throughout the divorce. Now, looking back, it seems as though she was exploiting her kids' reactions to the mess of their marriage and divorce just to get on television. I can't imagine her ever exploiting her kids for TV, especially in times of turmoil- the lady has set such a high precedent of boundaries in the past! J/K. She claims she just has to be away from the kids because that is the only way she can earn enough money to support them. Well, the lady is being handed $22,000 a month and if she honestly felt that being at home with her kids was so important that she needed to mention it any time a microphone was near, you'd think that she could squeeze a living out of the 22 g's. I don't know- maybe she could downsize.

I would think the same thing of an actress (hell, anyone for that matter) who made it a point to tell everyone that she wishes she could be home with her kids but she can't possibly live on a quarter mil a year. Now, if Kate stepped up and said 'You know, I like the spotlight and the attention being a celebrity affords me, and I can make a nice penny off my kids, so this is what I've chosen to do', well, at least I could respect her for being honest. She's a controlling, bossy, stuck-up woman who craves attention; Jon is a man-whore who can't keep his pants up and can't say no to anything; those poor kids don't have a chance in hell at a normal life.

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I saw on Jons lawyer on Nancy Grace saying that basically he's out of money and sleeping on his brothers couch. Funny how he never challenged custody until he's broke don't you think? Just because he was ordered to pay that much doesn't mean he does. I don't like Kate but I don't think she's stupid. She knew damn well he was blowing all his money and not working and that soon she would have to be the bread winner.. I think he's pissed that she gets alot of attention and $$$$ while he's broke and all alone.
And many woman work and still raise their kids. Even if she works 5 or 6 days a week how is that any different from any other working mother? The only difference is that instead of daycare they get a personal nanny, chef, and they live in a mansion. Oh the horror! lol I really don't like either of them but the kids are better off with their mother.

Rosie - posted on 04/20/2010

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i think jon is a complete turd for trying to take away the kids. what actress is there for her kids all the time, except for jennifer garner (at least it seems like she is). they go away, and if this is what she wants to do, then she should. jon's the one that fucked up the marriage by cheating on her, why does he think he should get full custody of the kids? i think they're both crazy, but come on. if it were just a regular actress, nobody would have a problem, but since it's a reality star, they have a problem? doesn't make sense to me.

Stephany - posted on 04/20/2010

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I agree with you, Sara. They lost focus on what was important- their family and their marriage. I also think they let it all get to their heads. The only people I feel for are the kids.
No kidding, Amanda! I, too, would like $22,000 a month! Kate, I believe, used to be a nurse, too. She could just go back to work and add a few grand to that paltry sum and she may *scrape* by each month. LOL. Seriously, I get that it is expensive to raise kids. Having 8 kids is a burden, sure. However, I highly doubt that is costs more than $264,000 a year to do so ($22 grand x 12 months). What a load of crap.

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I think both Jon and Kate have issues. They should've stopped the show and focused on saving their marriage and their family when they first started having problems.

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Sheesh with a group full of moms who say they are understanding and open minded I think a lot of people are judging to quickly...I think she is doing what she needs to do to support all of those kids! Im team Kate and I think shes doing a fantastic job raising those kids...the media distorts so many things...Jon is a looser and will never get custody of those kids!

Amy - posted on 04/20/2010

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She's one of those women who want to get paid for doig nothing. TLC paid them for the reality show and now since she doesn't have a real job she's trying to make money the only way she knows how. She needs to get out of the limelight and take care of those kids. She'll regret it one day when they all leave the house and they don't want to visit.

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I've never liked Kate, I watched the show a handful of times and she irritated me. Anyway, I don't watch Dancing WIth the Stars either but a friend of mine has it posted in her status that Kate blamed her kids for her lousey performance on the show. How sad is that?

Belinda - posted on 04/20/2010

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And I don't think that she will get that much $...he's too busy spending it on his girlfriends. I asked my friend why her hair extensions were newsworthy...he says "something else she has too many of and can't properly care for"...tooo funny.

Jane - posted on 04/20/2010

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I was wondering the same thing Holly. I was watching Entertainment Tonight and she was like the main guest. Anyway, like in your post, she said how she would be touring the country finding out how other mothers cope, but she was also saying that the kids would sometimes be coming with her as they "missed the crew". That's terribly sad, and while I don't doubt that she DOES love her kids, I think she has gotten a bit carried away with all the fame and fanfare!! Oh and I don't know whether its me, but she looks a lot different ...maybe its the new longer hair but her face looked like she had a little touch up here and there!! I just hope her babies aren't suffering because of her new lifetstyle!!!

Belinda - posted on 04/20/2010

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Well when you have 8 frickin kids...how else are you supposed to pay for them? She's looney tunes.

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I have no idea who she is lol but I think anyone who puts their work before their children doesn't deserve to have children fullstop.

Jessica - posted on 04/19/2010

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I can't stand that women. I sometimes feel the urge to bitch slap her when I see her on magazine covers...and I don't actually ever hit people, lol.

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It just makes me ill to think that she is so concerned about being in the limelight all the time and never seems to care for her kids anymore. I thought she was a good mom when the first show first came out, but now... it's a whole different story...

Karen - posted on 04/19/2010

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Those poor kids. I saw a pic of them trailing behind their father and all 4 looked so sad :( I don't watch any of their shows anymore.

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I'm so over the Gosselins. Ugh. Who would want to take advice from them anyway? I just feel sorry for those kids.

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