So I was channel surfing

LaCi - posted on 04/13/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )




and I get to the Tyra show, which featured women bleaching their skin. Not only was the woman I saw bleaching her own skin, but she was also using prescription skin lightening cream-prescribed to her- on her 3 young children. She tells them lighter skin is better, and I really think the darker of the three children was suffering. She made him use double doses of the lightening cream.

What do you think about beauty regimens people impose on children? Not just this, but everything, perms, dyes, make up, and so on? What do you think is acceptable and what is going to far? At what age do you think things are appropriate, if ever?


Lyndsay - posted on 04/14/2010




Oh my God. That is truly repulsive. I don't know if anyone has ever seen Toddlers with Tiaras, which is about 2-3 year old little girls being put into pageants. Honestly, I feel like jumping into the television and smacking these mothers. For one thing, why the fuck are toddlers wearing makeup? Aren't they cute enough?

I just think its disgusting how some parents can push their kids into having horrible self-images. If your own mother doesn't love you for who you are, how are you supposed to love yourself? Or expect anyone else to love you?

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I think women who do this should have their children taken off them to be quite honest. Her children could have been allergic to some of the ingredients and may have suffered extensive burns!

I think the time wearing make-up becomes acceptable is say 14/15 years old. I always wanted to dye my hair and my mam let me at age 15 but it was a wash out dye as I hate seeing people with roots growing out...very tacky!

Ashley - posted on 04/13/2010




I was getting perms really early b/c my mom had a perm and I guess she thought I would look mor elike her. I would never dye or perm my daughters hair before she was a teen but that is me. make up is teh same thing I was allowed to wear certain things at certain ages and my mom enforced that.

As for lightening your childs skin, that is abusive and detrimental to your childs self awareness, Those children will be taught that who they are isn't good enough and that is just sad.

Jenny - posted on 04/13/2010




To me, nothing beyond lip balm and detangler is acceptable until the teens. I could tolerate a bit of hairspray for a wedding updo or something though. Skin bleaching, dye, perms etc. are way over the line IMO. You're setting your child up for a lifetime of basing their self worth on appearance. Society will be feeding them enough of that horse crap, teach your girls beauty is natural and comes from within. And to drink lots of water.


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Jackie - posted on 04/15/2010




I think anything involving harsh chemicals should have no place in a little child's life...but if you want to paint your daughters toe nails or something i'm all for it.

Alison - posted on 04/15/2010




This woman should have been on Dr. Phil, not Tyra. She has issues. It is one thing for an adult to bleach their own skin, but for the children... they are going to grow up hating themselves!

LaCi - posted on 04/15/2010




I actually considered putting my son in pageants lol. The boys look like they have it so easy, they just get in little suits and toddle around

LaCi - posted on 04/14/2010




I find it somewhat unusual that these women (black) wanted to lighten their skin, and the next show that aired featured one little blonde girl who was frying herself in a tanning bed that was falling apart until she was bright orange because *orange is better than pale*. people do need to embrace their skin color. I think that ultra dark black women's skin is AMAZING. but I'm not going to dye myself. I also think porcelain white skin is amazing, which I hoped to achieve by saying no to the sun for a couple years, but apparently my skin just wont go there. so I gave up and the sun can have me back and do its dirty work this summer. I probably just think its amazing because its less common. I think tend to think rare is beautiful.

anyway, back to the subject at hand.

When I was in grade school I was allowed to play with makeup, I was a tomboy so it usually only happened when my cousin was around in the summer, and we always started off normal and eventually would end up mixing foundation with eyeshadow and painting ourselves green or purple lol. I started wearing makeup in middle school, just powder and eye makeup mostly. By high school I wouldn't set foot outside my house without full makeup, and I don't really have a problem with it, had I never had my son I'd probably still be that way but since having him I just care less. I'm glad I have a son so the chances of having to deal with all this are decreased. The school I'd like to send him to is anti-dyed hair, so if he got into that he'd have to do it in the summer. I take extremely good care of his skin and hope he maintains that tiny beauty regimen, but taking care of his skin and hair are the only things I hope he follows. I can't imagine trying to change his coloring. I went through a hair dying phase that lasted about 10 years, so I understand it if he also feels the need to dye his hair every color of the rainbow. I still miss my purple hair. But I'm trying to look like a grown up now. I'm just glad I don't have a daughter lol. So much less to worry about with boys.

Emma - posted on 04/14/2010




I think the skin bleaching is horrid i don't think they should sell products that do this.
What happened to being beautiful just the way you are ?
My stunningly gorgeous little girl will only be aloud to have some lip ice, when she is older that will extend to mascara and lip gloss except if its a dance or party than i would let her use some eye-shadow. im a big believer in less is more.
when she is a teen i will let her use temporary colours in her hair as the schools are v strict regards hair colouring and make up.
I no i said my daughter is gorgeous but im not joking she has stunning olive skin and thick dark eyelashes that go on forever and she has perfect ringlets, I would love to look like her lol

April - posted on 04/13/2010




ditto to everything christina said.personally, i think the woman who put that stuff on her children should be arrested for child endangerment. it was a prescription for her, not her children!

C. - posted on 04/13/2010




I don't think it's ever appropriate to impose your idea of beauty on someone else, especially your own children! Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What one thinks is beautiful, one might see it as repulsive.

I think that people using THEIR prescription-strength-whatevers on their CHILDREN, really need to wake up! Those products can hurt adults, so WHY would someone use them on a child??

Amanda - posted on 04/13/2010




I don't see a problem with little girls wearing make up when playing in the house, like dress up or something, but I wouldn't let a little girl under about 12 out of my house with it in lol. My niece is 9 and only allowed to wear chapsticks, which she has in like every flavor created haha. She has also had temp. pink streaks put in her hair like last summer, but I don't see the harm in that. Now if it were during the school year or permanent hair color, I don't think they should be doing that till atleast like 7th grade, 7th is when I started dying my hair and being allowed to wear makeup(shown correctly first of course lol not looking liek a clown). And while I wore make up at a young age, and i know I could lose a bit of weight(I'm actually overweight, not omgosh I'm so skinny but I should lose five more pounds lol) I don't have any major self esteem issues. I think I'm very pretty, I know there are people that i don't think are prettier than me(however awful that sounds .. lol) but I know there are just as many that look way better than me lol.

As for the skin lightening... I think that should be something a person should choose to want on their own, not being MADE to by their parents. Plus, to use prescriptions on your kids, thats just stupid and illegal... unless they are prescribed FOR THEM...

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I find it crazy that they want to be light skinned when everyone I know is spending crazy money and going to great lengths and putting their health at risk to be darker. But they are adults, not children

On children it is totally inappropriate. My daughter loves to have her toes painted and to play in my makeup. But it would be going too far to actually apply the makeup on her beautiful face. I agree that children need to find self worth in who they are and not in what they look like.

Rosie - posted on 04/13/2010




first of all skin bleaching is just crazy. how sad that they feel they have to be lighter to be beautiful. i say middle school age for everything on your list. i've seen girls getting pedicures pretty young, and honestly it didn't bother me at all. the girls looked 8 maybe. i know some on here would be bothered, but i think it's a fun thing to do with your daughter. i can't really think of any beauty thing that would never be appropriate, but i'm sure that someone will bring one up later on in the thread that i will agree with.

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