Why dont all parents make their children buckle up??

Kim - posted on 03/18/2010 ( 27 moms have responded )




How come there are so many people who allow their kids to hop around the car while they drive?? Or hold a baby in their lap?? Law or no law, as far as I'm concerned its common sense.....why is this still an issue???


Amanda - posted on 03/24/2010




Well when you see a car driving with the kids unbuckled, there is something you can do. Unfortunatley it's not always effective. Because some authorities out there don't seem to care, and don't get me started on how much that infuriates me!

You can call the cops. You don't even have to know your local police dispatchment phone number. You can call 911, as these kids are in immediate danger.

The whole issue with accidents, are the fact that they are ACCIDENTS. No one means for them to happen. They aren't planned, and they come when you least expect them. Which means these unsuspecting parents driving around with their precious cargo unbuckled is an immediate threat to their safety. Even if the driver had to slam on the breaks to avoid a dog... where do the kids wind up?

Johnny - posted on 03/18/2010




Simply because there are a lot of stupid, selfish, idiotic morons driving around out there. I saw this a few months ago. A mom hopped into her SUV passenger side with her baby on her lap and they drove off. I could see the carseat in the back. I took the license plate and called the cops. I do not think there is any excuse for that kind of behavior that I would accept as valid.

Emma - posted on 04/12/2010




Let me take the emotion out of this a second,
We pay car insurance as if our car wrecks we can buy a new one....
We pay home insurance for the exact same reason and contents insurance...
All of these things are replaceable with or with out the insurance it might just take longer with out..
So it bafflels the brain why you would not take even the most basic preconscious to protect probably your most valuable investment especially one that could never be replaced....
I think it is Lazyness especially as 9/10 times you can see there are seatbelts, car seats ect in the dam car.

Valerie - posted on 03/21/2010




Just a small point....the reason we are to keep our kids in the back seat until they are pretty much full grown has nothing to do with making it hard for them to get into trouble. It is due to the risks that come with air bags. Until you are a certain height air bags cause serious damage and even death. This is why it's always better for kids to be in the back seat until they are tall.

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Katherine - posted on 02/01/2012




Maybe they live in a really small town where the speed limit is 15- 25 the most. Maybe some parents dont find it safe at all.

I dont know about the baby in the lap thing. I have a baby and she is ALWAYS in her carseat buckled up.

Maybe not everyone has common sense.

Lyndsay - posted on 04/12/2010




I don't know! My parents were alcoholics and my dad was a drag racer, and I was told every single time I got in the car to buckle up. If they could remember, I don't really see how it is that big of an issue. Sheer stupidity, I guess.. or maybe laziness? Although I am a pretty lazy person myself and I could not condone risking my child's life for the sake of not having to say a couple words or maybe reach over and do up the buckle.

C. - posted on 04/12/2010




Don't know why.. When my husband an I were in HI, we were driving down a road and there was this van coming out of a parking lot. It was my husband, our son and myself in our car and the van had a man and a woman in the driver's seat, kids filling the back of the car and a small infant in the woman's lap in the front seat! AND they wouldn't stop when they got to the exit of the parking lot! They almost ran right into us when WE had right of way and of course looked at us like WE were the crazy ones.

Anyway, Lord knows what would have happened to that poor baby if that man didn't stop in the instant that he did. Personally, I think it's disgusting for people to do that. I have heard hundreds of stories on the news about little kids getting killed in car accidents b/c the parents didn't make sure they were buckled. For crying out loud! My son is 21 months, so still in his convertible car seat, and when he takes those shoulder straps off, we pull over and fix them.. Every single time. You never know what could happen! And for those lovely inquiring minds.. I tighten it as much as I can w/o squeezing that poor baby's innards. He's like a baby-Houdini!

Emma - posted on 04/12/2010




I have to add though where i live a lot of parents don't have a choice, as there only form of transport are taxies and not like the taxies most of you are filler with, but horrid ones where they stuff to many people in and there are no belts ect ect

Jessica - posted on 03/24/2010




We have a family that lives on a road behind our house. I always see them with their kids hoppin around the car or sitting on mom or dads lap while they drive. It's insane! I once seen the mother breastfeeding her child while DRIVING! They go to a home daycare about 4 houses from me and it must be "to much work" to make sure their children are in car seats. I bothers the hell out of me, but it's their way of parenting and there isn't much I can do. My son knows to buckle up and stay in his seat. If I forget to buckle him (he's 4 and in a booster) because I was packing the car with groceries or something that causes me to get distracted. He'll yell "Mommy, don't drive you forgot to buckle me!" LOL. He's such a smart kid!

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It's against the law not do buckle your child in the UK and any child under the age of 12 has to use a suitable carseat/booster seat. I've personally never saw anyone who hasn't buckled their children in but no doubt some people probably don't.

Amanda - posted on 03/19/2010




There are always reports of people who could have been saved if they weren't wearing a seatbelt. But the fact still remains that the people saved by wearing a seatbelt out weight by far the people killed because of them.

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My son's always buckled up safely in his carseat. But like other's have stated seatbelts don't always save lives. My aunt almost drowned when her car
landed roof down in water, she couldn't reach the clasp on her seatbelt to undo it. Thankfully help arrived in time. I have a friend who survived a wreak only because he wasn't wearing a seatbelt. He was thrown from the car, had he been restrained by the belt he would have been crushed.

I remember riding around in the back of my parent's hatchback making faces at the car behind us and riding in the back of my uncle's pickup. I miss those carefree days......

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I agree w/ that Amanda. I see young kids in the front seat all the time (when the rest of the vehicle is empty) and I always think 'why?' The reccommendation, as far as I know, is to keep kids in the back til they are 12 and that is where my kids stay.... unless, like I stated, they are going w/ their 'uncle' that has 2 kids (7 and 6) and there are only 3 back seat belts. :)

Amanda - posted on 03/19/2010




For many years people have blamed a lack of education as the reasons for people not buckling their kids in. Now however, that is rarely the case. Every where you look seat belt safety is right in your face, And that is an excellent thing, in my opinion. I am all for the heavier duty laws concerning kids in cars.

*I am not pointing to anyone on this thread, but just in general* but... as far as kids being in the backseat until they are 8, I think that is super lax. I mean, what's the big deal? Who cares? How is it any harder for an 8 year old in the back seat? by that point they are opening the door, and buckling themselves up. (Of course as a CRST (Children's Restraint System Technician), I am very passionate about safety in vehicles. My kids are both in their car seats, my son RFing at 18 months, and will be until AT LEAST 2 years old, and both will remain in 5 point harnesses until they reach their seat's weight limits.)

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I know there are some cases where someone lived through a crash because they weren't wearing their seatbelt or WOULD have lived if they hadn't been wearing it, but far, far more people are killed from not wearing one.

My kids are belted all the time. My son is even still rear facing in his car seat. :) The only time my girls (8) are in the front seat are when they go on play dates and the front seat is the only one available... NOT in my van. :)

Brandy - posted on 03/19/2010




I've never seen it, but where I live, seatbelt laws are very strict with seatbelt check-stops around every corner and they don't even let you leave the hospital after having a baby without being schooled in how to properly use a child seat, showing you how to buckle your newborn and giving you pamplets on when to switch to forward facing, toddler seat, and booster seat. I think the fine for not having a child properly buckled in is well over $500. It's probably just a case of people thinking it would never happen to them and for their children's sake, I hope it never does.

Melissa - posted on 03/19/2010




I think it is crazy and they will regret their actions if they get in an accident. It is sad to know their child could suffer. My dad never had my brother and I wear a seat belt when we were kids. I think it is crazy! I don't let anyone, regardless of age ride in my car w/o a seat belt. If one person in a car isn't wearing a seat belt they could seriously injure themselves or anyone else in the vehicle if there was an accident.

Rose - posted on 03/19/2010




Oh this drives me nuts when i see kids do this. I saw this lady driving down the highway with her 2 year standing up on the front seat jumping around. That is the stupidest thing ever. I picked up a boy that i know and i was getting him buckled in the car when he said that my mommy doesn't make me buckle up cause her van is special and wont wreck, but when the cops are around we have to hide. I couldn't believe what this kid had told me. Needless to say she don't have her kids no more.

Belinda - posted on 03/19/2010




My brother would be dead if he had been wearing his seat belt when his truck rolled. But my children are always buckled. My son's car seat literally DOES NOT MOVE.

Amy - posted on 03/19/2010




The only time holding a child/baby in a car without buckling them up is okay for me is if you are on the way to the hospital and could further injure them or something by stuffing them into a carseat. As for hopping around - that's just a lack of discipline and it's ridiculous. Although we live and a small town and think it's a bit silly that they have to be in the back seat until they're 8 - possibly until 18 the way the laws are going - we still do it because it's law. I didn't feel unsafe at 6 buckled like a big girl, but cars aren't made as well now as they were then. We do want to keep our kids safe. My husband has issues with seatbelt laws because the seatbelt CAUSED the death of a close uncle. Cops even said if he hadn't had it on, he would still be alive. My dad also would have been dead were he wearing it. He hit a pole and it pushed him to the other side of the car instead of crushing him. I am conflicted about them. We have put our daughter in the front without a seat belt when on grandma's property. what's he gonna hit, the barn? lol. but on the road, she has to be in it. She doens't understand why. It's not 1950 anymore. you can't just hold kids. Although the statistics i checked don't show any huge difference in kid protection or death since the 80s, it's just trying to keep them safe. I have a friend who buckles her kids, but has issues with it too because her family is from India and they have slim to nil traffic laws where she lives. And you rarely hear about any accidents, let alone deaths. People are just more careful because there aren't as many laws for traffic.

Just have to throw this out.....anyone from an area where horseback riding is more widely used than vehicles? Are children even allowed on them until they're 8? Just curious what the laws of that are. I mean, do they just have to wear a helmet?

Lady - posted on 03/19/2010




I have a big problem with motorcycles, two of my husbands friends were killed in motorcycle accidents when he was younger. Admitedly they were both stupid teenagers and at least one of them was going to fast on a country road. I think if taught the proper saftey instuctions they aren't as bad but I still won't want any of my children to have one - it's just to risky for me.

LaCi - posted on 03/19/2010




It's so funny. I can never imagine letting my son ride in a car without a seatbelt but have absolutely no problem with driving motorcycles and race cars.

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Plain and simple - they're stupid! If somone hit them and the child died they'd be the first to complain but they only have themselves to blame.

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