My daughter is 15 and attempted suicide by overdose.

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Its been a week now and i am lost, i need someone to talk to...
I am questioning everything i do, i cant sleep or eat, just cant stop thinking about what could have been and afraid she might try again

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Lisa - posted on 04/16/2013

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Denise,
I am sorry. It has been a month and a half since my daughter overdosed on anti-psychotics. She is 16. We spent 37 hours in the ER and were released because there was not a psychiatric bed available for a child within 150 miles from our location. Like you, I cannot sleep or continue with "normal" life. This was the second attempt in 3 months. To me, life is a surreal dance of life as it is and life as it should be. My daughter is a cutter as well. Others have told me to get help for me, but the truth is, I am consumed finding the right help for her, being a mother for both of my children, continuing to be an educator, a wife, and all that entails. My husband travels and I really do not have the time to find counsel for me. As a cancer survivor, I know that the stress is literally killing me. I am tired and discouraged, like you. You are not alone, thee are too many of us sharing your fears. Please know that together, we are stronger than we are alone. Finding each other is the challenge. No one else can ever comprehend our pain and struggles. I wish you peace.

Aziza - posted on 07/27/2014

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Please. Tell me the name of your daughter ? I lost a close friend. ,&. I wanna know if this is her ??

Claudia - posted on 01/15/2015

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So very,very sorry. I understand. My daughter, a bright and gifted beautiful child overdosed yesterday and I feel ashamed that my protection and help wasn't/isn't enough. I believe I am to blame as it is my job to make absolutely sure that her life is good and safe, and I truly thought I had. I also know, deep down, very deep down, that I am not to blame and that life today is impossibly hard for young sensitive and bright children to cope with - expectations seem to move too fast for them to catch up with and they feel they have failed. They don't see the long years of happiness and achievement waiting ahead of them. Meanwhile we, as parents will now never have the blessing of sitting back and relaxing, and just enjoy our children again, but will always be alert, waiting, never resting and enjoying life fully ever again, in case, next time they succeed. I hope your prayer and wishes are heard, just as I hope mine are.
God bless you xx

Connie - posted on 11/17/2014

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On Oct 23 my 15 year old daughter tried to commit suicide by taking over 300 different prescription medications. She was in ICU for 6 days, but has now physically recovered. She has now been transferred to the teen psychiatric ward at a nearby hospital. She suffers from depression, and will need cognitive based therapy and other treatments for her to fully recover. I believe the best approach for any parent who experiences are similar to my own, is to find the best residential treatment facility you can afford. I believe the first 3, 6, 12 months are very crucial to having your child heal properly. I am currently seeking residential care and perhaps a wilderness camp for her to participate in. I will write back and let everyone know how it goes. My blessings go out to you!

Hamerj29 - posted on 10/09/2015

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My 15 year old daughter overdosed October 7, 2015. She took an entire bottle of Lexapro and half a bottle of Wellbutrin. Thankfully she threw up 5x before she told me when I woke up for work that morning. Immediately after telling me she began seizing. That is a vision no parent should see. She was in ICU overnight. The nurse told her if she hadn't thrown up she wouldn't be here today. My daughter suffers from anxiety just I like do, it runs in our family. I think what triggered her was her marching band teacher at school. The teachers treat our kids in band like they're in basic training. The day before she OD'd, she was gone 16 hours: school, band competition, then back to school Tues and another required performance that night. She missed that performance because she fell asleep after school and slept through it. When she woke up and realized she missed it she was upset and afraid she'd be in trouble with her teacher. That night she overdosed......I have a meeting with the school counselor, band director and principal next week to discuss the effects their rigidity has on our kids. No extracurricular activity is worth a life

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Ann7071 - posted on 07/21/2016

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My 15 year old daughter attempted suicide today by consuming bleach. It all started after i found her chatting with this guy and I took away her tablet. She was this intelligent kid who was doing extremely well in school, volunteers at the local hospital, and had already started earning college credits during her first year of high school. She wanted to be an ER doctor and was really working towards her goal until she met him in school. After that, things went downhill. Her grades went down, she started starving herself because she thinks she is getting fat (she is only 102 lbs), started going against our wishes, stays up in night chatting with him and wakes up late and rush to school without eating. We tried talking to her, but she doesn't listen anymore. The doctor recommend counseling for her which I think she needs immediately because this was her second attempt at suicide. She attempted another one several months ago by cutting her wrist. Wish I know what to do to help her.

Phyllis - posted on 05/03/2016

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I can understand fully what you were going through 2 years ago, April 21st this year I found my 15 year old son in my room he had overdosed on my medications. I can't stop thinking about what could have happened, I can't sleep, I can't eat, that morning just keeps playing over in my head. Seeing him lying on my bed barely breathing, when I finally got him to respond I knew he had overdosed on something I just didn't know what. When the paramedics arrived and they got me to calm down was when I noticed the drawer that I kept my medicine in was opened. I have been so angry with myself, he suffers from what they call some kind of pharmaceutical amnesia. I'm just glad he's still here with me and yes my medications are locked up tight.
Any advice on how to cope with all of this, I would appreciate any advice.

Bronwyn - posted on 04/25/2015

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My 19 year old daughter attempted suicide a week ago. She's so lost and I just don't understand what is so bad in her mind. I've tried like hell to keep her on track but at nineteen I can't make her do anything. This sweet girl was on the cheer team, dance team, a stand out in choir, and winter carnival queen. Now schools over. She doesn't want to go to college. She has started partying way to hard. Her friends don't wanna be around her anymore because of the road she's on. I can't make her better and it kills me. She hAs always had such a sweet heart. But she sure tried to die

Sarah - posted on 02/17/2015

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My step daughter took an overdose of acetaminophen yesterday afternoon. My husband called to to meet them in the er. The doc talked to her and she admitted to doing it because she wanted to kill herself. I had a suspicion that she was cutting again. And she admitted to that as well. Once she had the antidote and was cleared medically they admitted her into the psyiatric hospital in the next state. My husband is on his way home as I type this. I hated reading these individual stories. I pray but I don't feel it's enough.

Keary - posted on 01/30/2015

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My daughter 16 years old attempted suicide Monday night. I am completely crushed and can't believe she was hurting that much and I didn't know it. :( I am haunted with tons of thots and emotions. I love my daughter so much and thank God for her and pray strength and healing over her and other teens who are going through depression. My daughter is in a psych hospital for at least 10 days. She was in the hospital for 2 days for treatment of serotonin syndrome. She took od on zoloft that she got from sch.

Claudia - posted on 01/17/2015

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I wish i could make it better for you and you beautiful daughter, I wish I could make it better for mine who attempted suicide this week. I don't understand. I don't know what to do either. If you can't get counselling for her what about a mutual friend or family member - they seem to be quite close to grandparents - that she could talk to to who would perhaps nudge the problems from her and then let you know what they are so that you can deal with them together. Don't forget you was the first person she ever loved and instinctively she will trust you. Sorry but I don't know what else to say, other than I understand.
Claudia

Melisa - posted on 01/17/2015

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I understand completely! I can just see my daughter thinking if not saying the same thing! I have only cried a little in front of her and she asked me if I was mad at her, I cried more and told her absolutely NOT I am mad at me for not realizing how badly you were feeling and I am so VERY sorry!!!!

Melisa - posted on 01/17/2015

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My prayers go out to you! My 15 year old daughter also tried to take her life by overdose last Sunday, 11 days after my sister tried the same thing! I have been on survival mode! I have yet been able to really cry! Shock? I'm not sure, but survival mode for sure!
My daughter was moved yesterday from hospital care from the overdose to the children's psychology floor where she will be for 5-10 days. I get to see her for 30 minutes today! Now that I know her health is stable I know it is time for mental health care, but I am very nervous! I am so sadden that I didn't know she was feeling THAT badly!!! I know We have to be strong!
I have been reading everything I can find online about what to do after a attempted suicide. LOVE LOVE LOVE all we can do is be there and let them talk. I am looking for a support group and therapy for her when she comes home. I don't know what else to do.
I would appreciate ANY advise??

Hugs, Melisa

Claudia - posted on 01/15/2015

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I am sitting here in England with my heart slowly, but inevitable breaking. Never before has life seemed so hard as I cry the tears of a mother for my child who suffers more than I shall ever know. I would take take her pain from her in a heartbeat if God would only let me, and then I read your message to another mother who's heart breaks like any other and you try to give solace. It isn't the just the words you say that give the comfort it's profound kindness behind them.

I have never been on any site like this before, I have never needed too; but now that I do need help with life I thank God that he gives us the strength to still reach out and help one another in our hour of need. - Thank you x

User - posted on 09/10/2014

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it just happened to me. I can feel she is very angry and I do not know what to do. When I cry or seem scared she says "please don;t make this about you."

Barbara - posted on 01/26/2013

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Denise, I can't begin to express how many gallons of lemonaide I've made in the last 7-8 years, all without benefit of a lemon tree! It feels as though it will never stop coming and the life we've had is all there will ever be. I am here to tell you, thanks be to God, that it isn't the end -or an unending stream of lemons and lemonaide. In time the sun WILL shine again, the RAINBOW will emerge clearly in view, and the life that has been full of hardships, will blossom again with all the colors and the beautiful future you both deserve. Keep praying, keep reaching out, blessings abound around every inconceivable corner and faith is present in our messy world. From the time we lost our home in 2004 until the time we purchased our new home in 2011, seven years, we had pain, suffering, loss of family members, major financial issues/strain. Now, even though our sunny California skies are filled with rain clouds right now, the sun shines, our financial pressures are much behind us, our lives are filled with blessings we couldn't see around that corner. I pray it will be the same for you and your daughter. Keep on keeping on, one day the sun will come out unexpectedly and rejoicing will be yours.

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Barbara, Thank you, I will indeed reach out. Thank you for advice, and your right I need some support so I can be strong for her. And learn how to be supportive in the right ways.
I know I am a strong woman, as life has been throwing me lemons for awhile... i just keep making lemonaid, and wating to pick the next batch...

Barbara - posted on 01/26/2013

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I can well imagine your anguish and apprehension. I'm glad your daughter is in a treatment process/program, but you need support right now as well. While you can get through this alone, because clearly you are a very strong woman, it is so much better for you to have the loving support of a group of other parents around you to help you during and through this whole process. This isn't going to be a short term fix for your daughter or for you, at least six months of counseling, teen support group, mentoring - may be longer. You need to have other mom's and dad's who are going through this as well to provide encouragement, understanding and insight into what happened and the possible reasons. I went to a mom's support group at our local hospital for 3-4 months after my daughter accidentally took too much ibuprofen, because I was so frightened about what could have happened. I've made two friends from that group whose kids DID try to hurt themselves, we are in touch at least once a week by phone now and see each other occasionally, when schedules permit, at a local coffee shop. I can't urge you strongly enough to seek out support systems to help you, comfort you, encourage you, challenge you at times, and just be there for you. God Bless and take care of yourself - you can't be there for your daughter if you aren't whole and nourished yourself.

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Hi Thank you for your advice. I am sorry I should have mentioned she is in treatment.
She spent a couple nights in hospital and is seeing a doctor and group therapy starts next week.
We know it wasn't an accident as she admitted it to me and the doctors that she took an overdose...

Barbara - posted on 01/25/2013

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If she is not in treatment I certainly can't imagine why not. Most hospitals won't release ANYONE who has attempted suicide by any measure. My daughter, in response to a particularly bad bout with her monthly cycle, took too many acetominphen (from my bathroom, they were prescribed for me by my back surgeon). I had to rush her to the hospital so that an anaphylactic could be administered to prevent kidney failure. The hospital social worker interviewed her, interviewed me, the hospital psychiatrist came and interviewed each of us separately, all to determine if my daughter had attempted to harm herself. In our case it was an innocent mistake, she took the wrong medicine bottle. You need a support group that meets at least once every week, your daughter probably should be in an inpatient setting with daily therapy/counseling and a teen support group. In the absence of a local support group, you need to seek out a church that provides counseling, usually at no cost. Some Catholic churches have a group called Stephen's Ministers that will come to your home on a weekly basis while you are going through this ordeal to provide you someone to talk to. This isn't for evangelization or to encourage you to become Catholic, this is solely for your support during this situation. I strongly recommend therapeutic support services for the entire family.

Lakota - posted on 01/25/2013

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I'm going to assume that she is being treated and is in counseling. You should try counseling also. There are also support groups that you could go to. Please reach out to them.

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