Trouble dealing

Sara - posted on 05/02/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




I had my first baby via emergency c-section. I went in to the hospital to be induced, with the mind set of having a natural birth and 30 mins after contractions started I was being rushed to surgery. I know it wasn't my fault and that I couldn't have done anything differently (both our heart rates where dropping), but I still feel horrible that I didn't have a "normal" labor. And I hate that I missed out on the first moments of my daughter's life because they knocked me out. My husband didn't get to be there either, because they wouldn't let him in the room.

We've started to talk about having another one and I feel like I'm going to fail again. Does anyone else feel like this? My sister-in-law keeps trying to tell me that I have to have a VBAC and, although I'd like to go through the birthing process, I'm terrified of the possible complications. Especially since we just found out that we'll be stationed in Germany for the next 3 years. (My husband is in the army.) I know they say the risks are rare, but at the same time some are life threatening. Has anyone else thought about or had a VABC? What do you guys think because I need some outside opinion. My husband is all for cutting me back open if that's the easiest way to do it. :P


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Sara - posted on 07/09/2011




Please check out the ICAN support group on yahoo. I had a VBAC after 3 previous cesareans. VBAC is better for you and better for your little one. Statistically, VBAC is very safe, but many doctors won't encouage it. My body isn't broken and neither is yours. You can check out real studies on K-moms website Plus-size pregnancy (info not just for plus size women) Please educate yourself, only then can you make a truly informed decision. Best wishes!

Tiffany - posted on 08/26/2010




me and my hubby are in the same situation... i am scared that it might happen again (preeclampsia) but the chances are very low. my dr said that he would sway me one way or the other, it has to be my decission. he did say that he would support me no matter what it was. Just started to do research on it and i'm getting more and more confident with going vbac.

Carly - posted on 08/08/2010




my sister has scoliosis and has rods in her back...she was able to get an epideral...

Tenille Simon, it's weird how similar our story is :/

Sara - posted on 05/16/2010




Wow, I'm so sorry.
That's the other thing that I'm worried about. The epidural. I have scoliosis, so when I went in to get induced they told me that I couldn't have one. So, does this mean that if I choose (or have to have) c/s in the future that I'm always going to be knocked out? Which means my husband can't be with me? I just hate that most doctors are in too big of a hurry and don't care enough to listen to us. We're the ones that it's happening to, we know what's best. Like my doctor. I went in at 38.5 weeks and told him that I needed to be induced. He told me that I was just like every other pregnant woman, I just wanted to be finished. But honestly, I didn't mind be pregnant. (ok, maybe a little by that point.) But I could just feel that it needed to happen then. When we finally talked him into inducing me I was over 40 weeks. Turns out (just found this out from my new doc that looked at my old records) the reason our heart rates where dropping was because the placenta was already partially detached when they got her out. My new doctor explained that the placenta can only "last" so long before it starts to deteriorate. So, I believe that if my doctor had listened we would of been fine. Ah, sorry. Venting yet again. :)
I'm glad that you and the baby are healthy though. And I'll keep my fingers crossed for you that the next time goes much better.
I've done some research about the hospitals/doctors in Germany and found out that they're all for VBAC, but that you're in a hospital with a doc and midwife. So if something does go wrong they can take care of you. I still don't know for sure. But like you said. I'm going to talk to the doc when we get there and see what they say.
Thanks for listening and sharing with me. It's amazing and scary what some woman have gone through when it comes to c/s!

Tenille - posted on 05/13/2010




Hi Sara, your story is touching as well as mine is... I finished at the hair dressers and got home and my partner was home... I went to the toilet and noticed that the water just kept dripping even when I had finished and Simon (partner) was in the shower... I yelled out I think my water has broken, we rang the hospital and they told us to come down. I got there about 7pm.. They did a couple of tests and yes my waters had broken. I then saw a dr who said I would be having the baby by 2am.. Excited and nervous I waiting for the contractions to start... Then they started but very mildly... After 11 hours I hadn't progressed, well my contractions were really strong but uterus wasn't contracting. They then gave me the syntocin to start my contractions even harder. the nurse came in to let me know the lady next door was having a epidural and did I want one as they were going to put the syntocin up again which would of just been more painful but before they did that it got to 10am and they said the dr wanted to see me, so he came in and did an internal and realised I was still only 1.5cms. In 15 hours I have dilated half a centimetre. So he said I need to have a c-section as I don't have much time from when my waters broke. I was absolutely devastated! I cried and I mean cried loudly from my birthing suite all the way into theatre. I did NOT want a c-section. Then I got put on the table in order for them to put the epidural in. After 45 mins and multiple tries, they were unable to get the spinal epidural they usually give she would just have to give a standard epidural. So after another 15 mins she gets the epidural in (remembering a caesar is only suppose to be 60 mins in total). I was then laid down and they put the sheets and everthing up. They then started the operation.....Half way through when they had cut my stomach, I felt an excruiating pain and I screamed.. I told them I could feel it, they kept going and asked whether I could feel pressure or pain, I was still screaming I could feel them slicing. And thats exactly what they were doing, they had just cut my uterus to get to my baby! After this they pumped heaps of drugs into me to try and make me numb, and they also held the gas mask over my face as it was so painful. After they pumped so much stuff into me they finally got my baby out. As soon as she was born I asked "Is she alright" as soon as they said she is perfect I said please pass her to her father as by this time, I had a reaction to all the drugs they pumped into me and I was shaking really bad. they stitched me back up and after almost 2 hours I was in recovery. By this time I was conpletely numb and so gthey couldn't let me go back to my room yet. After another 15 mins or so I was finally taken up to the ward.... When I got up there my family was waiting very nervously as they didn't know what was taking so long. When I was in my room the nurse came to check on me and she told me to make sure I top up on the epidural... I said i wasn't in pain anymore and will press it when I start feeling pain. My drip had then run out of fluids and when they came to check it, the drip had actually come out of my hand. The nurse said I can't have an epidural in without a drip so I asked her to take it all out as I don't want anything poked in me anymore. She said she'd leave the epidural in but will monitor if I am going to the toilet properly (obviously in a cathedar). After about an hour the nurse came back to ask if I had pressed the pain relief yet and I said No I don't need to and she said "well I would like you too cause your going to be in alot of pain soon if you don't" She said "I will press it for you" and when she did it sent a chilling feeling down my back & spine so I told her it hurts more when she presses the pain relief. She looked at my epidural and it wasn't in properly. This is why I felt it all and then it hurt to press after I had the caesar!

I went to the doctor for a 3 month check up and was talking to my doctor about more kids etc and he said VBAC is quite dangerous and if (in my case) I couldn't dilate the first time, there is a lesser chance I am going to dilate the second time. I would just speak to your doctor! Hopefully they can help!
Although my experience was really hard and very traumatic, I think I will opt for a selective caesar. Atleast that way (fingers crossed) nothing goes wrong!

Good luck in Germany! Hope you have a great time and hopefully I will hear back frrom you

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