PST Scheduled, now to choose departments...

Jackie - posted on 06/17/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )

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When I met my soon to be husband (only three months away) it took him a while to tell me what his career goal was, I think he was a bit afraid to scare me away... but when he told me my heart instantly dropped. I was head over heels for him, but instant worry came about..now we are about three months away from his PST, and we sat down this weekend and looked at all the departments hiring in our state. I like the department in the town we live in, they are a great group of guys and their families are wonderful, not to mention they have taken my soon to be hubby in and all really like him, but unfortunately they aren't having a reserve this year, and are on a hiring freeze! So we have to look into other departments, the trouble is I am completely scared to move and have him be a part of a department where we know no one, a town we know nothing about, and could be completely dangerous. I am just curious about the best way to handle all of the change, and the fear... I mean my husband always does ride alongs, and constantly spends time with other officers, we are living in a bad-ish kind of neighborhood, and he isn't even a cop yet and the gangbangers around here call him a cop because they have seen him on ride alongs. It's just been a completely scary experience, and I love my fiance to pieces, and I support him 100% I guess I just need help knowing what to expect over the next year as he begins his career, and how to be more supportive without the fear , how to handle the worry, and not stress him out by being scared. He was completely frustrated when I started looking up crime rates to departments we are looking at applying at, I just want him as safe as possible, silly I know.. lol. I just don't want to be constantly worried, or thinking about what could go wrong once he starts on duty weather that is as a reserve or a straight hire on. I know he needs to have a clear head everytime he goes out on the job, so how did you all handle it when your husbands/fiances were starting out. All the other officers wifes around here said the stage I am at was the worst for them because as they start their PST and their reserves is when they become the most stressed because as reserves its really their first time on the job, and they will start seeing things that they weren't use to seeing every day... not to mention the wait for hire on is stressful as well. They told me the best advice they could give was to start reading up on how to be an officers wife and it helped them a lot...
I am so excited and proud of my hubby to be, just really need to know what to expect and how to cope with the worry!

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