spouse not comfortable sharing stories with me

Desiree - posted on 11/30/2017 ( no moms have responded yet )




I recently found messages of stories my husband (the officer married to for 8 years) was comfortable sharing with an old friend who is female. I have asked him to share recently and he states he would rather share with someone he doesn’t care if they worried(I believe there more to it than that) . He never shares story with me because he doesn’t want me to worry . I know, this is not a good path to go down. I need advise on how to approach this conversation? I rarely look through his phone but on occasion I do and he is aware mostly because I do it in front of him, but last night I did it alone.
I now realize that I just need to shut up and let him talk and not show my fears so that he can be more comfortable talking to me. This is partially my fault because I helped created the environment of not sharing stories by showing all my fears and making him uncomfortable.
So how do I approach this conversation and change our history of not sharing these stories? Because he can not continue these conversations with another woman who will listen!!!

Thanks in advance.

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