People butting in to other people's buisness Un-invited....

Emilie - posted on 04/12/2010 ( 13 moms have responded )




I was at the store and my 3 1/2 year old dautghter was in a bad mood and she was whining about wanting stuff, she was standing up in the buggy and grabing stuff. I told her firmly to sit down! This nosey woman that was standing near me told me that I was being mean to my daughter and that I was teaching her to be mean. I hate it when people get into other people's buisness, because... that woman didn't even know what was going on. I might have said other stuff to her but I can't remember everything I said. I know I didn't call her any names, I didn't hit her or really do anything that I consider mean. I had already walked away from that one section and she followed me. I ws in the clothing section and she followed me to the hardware section, I told the woman to go away and to mind her own buisness. I think that I am a good mother most of the time, all of us fuss at our kids from time to time and I dn't think I did anything wrong. Has this ever happen to any of you?


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Haley - posted on 04/14/2010




No it has never happened to me. It sounds like perhaps you were at the wrong place at the wrong time. Even talking loudly would not have been inappropriate. I have to say though i might have shown that old lady what mean was. Of course that wouldn't have helped my case lol.

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LMFAO! Kimbeley, that's fuckin hilarious! Did you punch him? Oh wait, that would be abuse.....better set a good example since we did start a community in support of it! Muahahaha! ;)

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Hahaha, not really "advice" as such, but when my son was about 4 months old I took him for a walk and the guy at the shop said to me "how old is your baby?" "4 months" i replied, and he said "oh, my sister had a baby a while ago and she lost all that baby weight in only a few weeks! Of course, she didn't eat any chocolate" (said as I was paying for my chocolate bar).

Lori - posted on 04/14/2010




I'm sorry to hear that someone said that to you. I, unfortunately, have this happen to me all the time. Even before I had kids. A woman stopped me to rant for 30 minutes about how smacking your kids is a good thing, when I didn't even have a kid! I was so flabbergasted, I just stood there with a blank look on my face. Now that I have my daughter (she's 2 months old) I hardly ever go somewhere without some stranger giving me unsolicited advice.

Emily - posted on 04/14/2010




something along this line has hppened to me, my 21 month old is normally in a great mood, playing and laughing. he woke up from his nap early that day and was cranky, in the store he started throwing a fit beause i wouldnt let him throw the cans of soup at people. he started screamig naturally and i ignored him, this woman walked up to me and told me to start paying attention to my child and be a parent... i was like... WOW, i explained he was having ahissy fit and it would be over soon. and she responded that is sounds like i was beating him. i told her to leave me alone and walked away. if i need to be stern with MY son, i will, especially if a bit of short talking will stop him from throwing canned food.

Elizabeth - posted on 04/14/2010




Lots of people out there like this. I was on the train with my little 18 month old about three weeks ago. She was fussing in my lap and wanted onto her pram, so I let her climb on it - but instead of sitting down, she tried to climb up onto the seat, then the bonnet. I picked her up, sat her down, and strapped her in, saying she couldn't ride like that. Naturally, screaming ensued.

After about five minutes of ignoring my screaming child, a woman came up to me and said "Is that your daughter?" Perplexed, I replied, "Yes, of course." And she said, "Well, comfort her for God's sake! Can't you see she's beside herself?" As calmly as I could, I said "She was fussing in my lap, and now she's upset in the pram. Whatever her problem is, she needs to cry it out." The woman got huffy and walked off, but not before someone sitting next to me said, "She's fine (my daughter), don't worry about her" and another passenger sitting across from me said, "We shouldn't get into other people's business" and the lady said, "What? We should just let people abuse their kids?"

I remember the feeling in the pit of my stomach quite well - I was so taken aback. I have never intentionally harmed my daughter, and we're all just doing the best we can. Kids cry and scream - it's not even that they're being bad, it's just what kids do because they don't know any other way to communicate when they want something and aren't getting it. As for me, I mentally wished I'd said this or that to the woman for a few hours after, but a good Facebook status and a laugh or five later helped. :)

Jess - posted on 04/14/2010




Something like that happened to me recently. My daughter is 8 months old but she looks a lot younger. I don't believe I should restrict her just because of how old she looks. She LOVES sitting in the shopping trolley, she holds on, she fits the seat belt and she has a blast. We were in the fruit shop and this lady came up to me and was fully telling me off, demanding I take Ava out of the baby sit, she insisted that I was hurting her. She even hit me, not hard but still it was very inappropriate. I just ignored her and kept walking, finished up my shopping and left. She looked like such a fool !

Karen - posted on 04/13/2010




It has happened to me and i made a comment to my mother - who was with me, about people who don't have kids not having a clue about them. The woman shut up as it was obvious I was right - forget other people - hard as it may be - as said previously as long as you're not abusing your kids - you were protecting her from falling out the buggy - then it's no-one else's business! You done nothing wrong - so don't feel guilty!

Meghan - posted on 04/12/2010




oh geez! Some people just cant help themselves I guess. And I also have a weird sense of humour and probably would have said something totally out there.

Jaime - posted on 04/12/2010




I have never had anyone make a comment like this to me, but I can only imagine what I would say if they I did, however, witness a truly pathetic and sad sight today and it just made me wonder what goes through some people's heads sometimes. I had a doctor's appointment this morning, and on my way home I heard this couple about a hundred yards ahead of me on the street yelling and screaming at each other with their kids in tow. I was absolutely dumbfounded at their complete lack of censorship--not only for their brash, unnecessary language, but also the tones of their voices, and their absolutely juvenile behaviour in front of their children. As I got closer to them (they were walking toward me), I could actually hear the childish tantrums in both of their voices---it was sickening. I held my tongue, but I did manage to stare down the mother in an attempt to snap her out of her rage long enough to realize that her kids didn't deserve to be caught up in her ridiculous behaviour. WE are the primary role models for our children...I can't even imagine what it must be like for those kids to live under such hostility!

Nikki - posted on 04/12/2010




OMG! You poor thing, Unless a parent is clearly abusing a child I don't think anyone has the right to put their two cents in, especially to follow you around. I wouldn't be able to refrain myself from being incredibly rude or patronising. Some people have no idea, what were you supposed to do, ignore your daughter and let her fall out? you did the right thing, it's this lady with the problem. I have such a sick sense of humour I would have probably threatened to call the police for stalking if she didn't leave by the time I counted to ten!

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