3yr old and constipation/potty training

Jennifer - posted on 10/26/2010 ( 8 moms have responded )

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My 3yr old gets constipated and will only go every few days. Before she does go she will yell and grab at her pants crying but won't go because she doesn't like going in her pants but won't use the potty. (Won't even pee in the potty yet) I need some suggestion on how to get her potty trained and help her with the constipation. Thank you :)

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Erin - posted on 10/27/2010

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Sounds familiar,
My daughter now 14 was the exact same way, She cried when she had the urge to poop, and would grab her bottom,she also always seemed constipated, I finally got her to do it by kneeling down in front of the toiolett and letting her grab ahold of my shoulders and encouraging her to let it go, it took a while but over time it got easier but she still has trouble in the bathroom, when she was 9 she was diagnosed with severe axiety and panic disorder turns out all the holding of bowels and shaking and crying in the bathroom was anxiety, this is where the term anal retentive comes from( learned that as well) I would recommend some soothing techniques like something soft to hold while going #2 also soft music(sounds corney) but it helps, also my daughter still gets quite bound up and mineral oil is non-stimulant and you can mix it with juice or soda and it helps thing move eisier, oh yeah read her a story while she sits on the potty(almost forgot) this is a fantastic distraction from what they are doing and when my daughter was 3-4-5 worked great, hope I was helpful, and good luck.

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Mothtoflame - posted on 11/16/2010

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my son withheld his poo since 18 months to 3 years old we think due to passing one that really hurt. he would go between 3 days to 14 days before doing a proper poop. each time he resisted the urge to go a little bit would seep out meaning he would need wiping, resulted in a very grumpy stressed child with a very very sore bottom. after different laxatives we found peadiatric movicol worked wonders. he was wee dry from 2 1/2 but refused to poop on the potty i had to put a nappy back on for poops he is now 3 and 3 months and has had a breakthrough. patience, time and relax just believe one day it will happen. dont force the issue it is very frustrating but try to think that there really is no major rush. however it sounds like firstly you need to sort out the issue with the uncomfotableness of your childs stools when they are more relaxed about passing poop then try to move forward again.

Kimberly - posted on 11/16/2010

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My daughter will be 5 at the end of this month of November 2010. She very recently started to poop on the potty more consistently. It was soooo frustrating that she would go some times on the potty and then most of the time want to do in pull-up.

I have tried everything, as I think her poops were very sticky/pasty. This probably made it more difficult for her to go.

I told her she could poop in a pull-up IF she sits on the potty. I think they find it hard to sit on potty to do this, as they are used to standing up and pooping. Also, I REALLY believe putting some Aloe Vera Juice in with her juice has REALLY REALLY helped her to go without pain and struggle. This was recommended by Dr. Oz on one of his shows for people who suffer from constipation.

Try some of these things. Don't worry, as my daughter took again very close to when she was 5. They all are different.

I also give my daughter Benefiber Chewables (1-2 a day).

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This was recommended by my daughters pediatrician. My daughter had serious issues with constipation & she loves fruits & vegies, but still needed help. A product called Benefiber helped considerably. It mixes into almost any liquid, you can't see it or taste it & they can't overdose on it. I put a slightly rounded spoonfull in all of her drinks. Adding a little more when she ate cheese or banana. A product called Miralax helps also & has a light stimulant in it. If the benefiber doesn't work try this. Give half the adult dose. Of course you could mention these suggestions to your childs pediatrician to see what they think. All of the tips in the world will not help you unless your child is READY! It is a control issue. They have few things in their lives that they have complete control over & this is one of them. If you try to press the issue you will make it worse. You need to back off & let her tell you when she is ready. My daughter was 4 years old when she was ready. Of course @ that point we did have to tell her she couldn't go to pre-school until she was potty trained. We made a fun chart that she could put stickers on. She still wears pull up or a diaper @ night & still having trouble with pooping in the potty (she poos in the morning before I get the diaper off of her, STINKER,). Get her constipation issues solved before trying to get her on the potty.

Amanda - posted on 11/05/2010

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My girls all had a similar issue with constipation. The doctor told us more fruits n veggies. They have the natural fiber that the digestive tract needs to function properly. It worked for all of us, now noone has issues with constipation.

Lana - posted on 11/03/2010

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Is she truly constipated? Hard, firm bowel movements? or does she not want to go? Our little guy didn't want to poop in his diaper and held it for days then became anxious and did what your little girl is doing. We took his pants off and let him be naked for potty training. Fixed his problem. He poops several times a day now with no freaking out. Maybe she is afraid to use the potty and needs gentle encouragement. We used his favorite books next to the potty. We read to him for as long as he needed to distract him

Tracey - posted on 10/31/2010

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My daughter is now 2 an i had the same problems. She would hold off going for poos for days, eventually she couldnt hold it any more an would cry an stiffen up. Give her heaps of water an veges she'll be fine. It may take a little while for her to come right. When my daughter would have hard poos i would rub oil around her bum to help. Good luck

Renee - posted on 10/27/2010

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Hello Jennifer - I can actually help you with the constipation end of it. I am an Independent Distributor for ADVOCARE we have a product called ProBiotic Boost. We have helped many families in this area. As well as our own children take it daily and when we miss a day we notice. You can check it out at www.advocare.com/03104972 click on The Products - then on WELL line - then scroll down to ProBiotic Boost - click on the name and it will give you all the information you could ever want. It does say for children 4 and older but we know that it is safe for much much younger children we started giving it to our children even as babies just smaller amounts. Our 4 yr old and our 2 yr old now take an entire packet each and every morning on an empty stomach. As far as getting you child potty trained I found that going to www.pullups.com they have a ton of really helpful ideas. sign up to get their FREE DVD on potty training and watch it with your child over and over and over. :-) Renee Robbins

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