Potty training my 23 old is so hard. Advice needed!!!!!!!!

Candace - posted on 09/07/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




I have a 23 month old son who just refuses to go potty. My problem isn't him knowing what to do i think its just because he doesn't want to. See he's really smart to be his age and he knows what the potty is for. He'll go into the bathroom point or sit on his potty and tell us he's peeing, but nothing ever happens until he gets up and off it. I'll make him sit on the potty for 15 to 30 mins and he won't do anything; but as soon as i let him up he'll either go in the floor or in a diaper depending on how fast i am. I just don't know what to do because i feel like he's ready just not willing. Any advice would be highly appricated. Thanks


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Tamara - posted on 09/21/2011




Guenevere--I am wondering if your younger daughter trained before her big brother? I have a 3 year old boy who has zero interest in the potty. He literally screams, "no Mommy!!!" When I mention the potty. His little sister, who will turn two on Saturday, has shown interest, so i've started training her. Did your son train after his little sis and if so did it encourage or discourage his efforts?

Guenevere - posted on 09/24/2010




Hi Candace - I have an almost 4 year old boy who was the same way, and I just successfully trained his 21 month old sister. I used a 3 day method with my daughter that might work with your son. It's all positive reinforcement and every time he starts to go, you rush him to the potty. EVERY TIME, without fail. If he doesn't want to go and gets off, fine - but as soon as he starts to go (you'll have to have him in underwear to know for sure) you rush him back to the potty. If ANYTHING gets in the potty, celebrate! Dance, sing, give stickers, treats, whatever you want, but make a BIG deal. When his underwear is wet or dirty, say, "Yucky, gross" and express mild disappointment - but not frustration or anger.

With my son I also made him sit there and expressed a lot of frustration with him when he peed somewhere he wasn't supposed to. Even now, when he's been trained for months, the potty is still something of a battle with him. My daughter, on the other hand, with whom I used this all-positive method, was trained in 5 days. Good luck!

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