how do you punish a per-teen when nothing works ?

Lisa - posted on 05/18/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




I try to punish my pre-teen and nothing works he does not care with what ever i do. I can maake him do extra chores or do exersizes or write sentences tell him that he cant go to his tkd class and nothing woks i've taken all of his things and that dont work eather what can i do.. nothing fazzes him.


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Molly - posted on 09/16/2010




Totally agree with Luz. We had to do the same thing w/my SD. Matress, sleeping bag, pillow, curtains, no door, we picked out the clothes. It got really ugly in our house. Almost resolved in a divorce and a ship off to the BM. At first she laughed at it and said it was cozy. After 3 weeks with nothing to do but sit or sing to her self she started cracking. She had to earn her stuff back and it took almost 7 months. Starting with not fun stuff. Bookshelf, chair, lamp. This year she is a completely different kid. In a very good way

Kim - posted on 08/18/2010




great idea! i have an 11 & a 16 year old think i'm going to try this out myself :)

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Wow....I'm so on that son is 15yrs old and I've been dealing with this issue for the past 2 years. I am now going through it with my daughter (whose 11).
Its really hard. I mean I don't want to be like my parents who believe in spanking a child. To me that makes issues worse. I have taken away their games, tv and have tried doing the extra chores thing but all without success.....So if you ladies come up with a better solution, please pass it along....

Best wishes.

Luz - posted on 07/13/2010




I don't know how many things you took away but, my son got really stupid. and one day he came home to an empty room only a mattress on the floor, a book, pajamas and slippers. He was given an outfit for the day to go to school. He was fed but no snacks. He was not given anything for about 2 weeks. As his behavior improved he got his things back a little at a time when there was a relapse it was taken away again. I also told him that I could hold out more if the behavior continue. He knew I was not playing. He told his friend and his friend told him I would not want her for a mother she is tough. I did this to my older son for a month he was very defiant and after that he stopped all his bad behavior. I hope it helps

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