My son is 14 years old and has adhd .I need some advice on how to help him .

Tami - posted on 08/09/2010 ( 1 mom has responded )




My son is 14 years old with adhd and he refuses to get help for his problems cause he says he has no problem with me or my boyfriend .We are trying to get him to do right instead of the wrong thing he is very defiant and very rebellious right now and he does not listen to me or to my boyfriend at all .He is very angry at time and it gets him in trouble at times his anger does well .Not sure how to help my son if he doesnt see there is any problem with anything and he says it is all about him and he says that he wants to be in control of this house and he wants to do what he wants to do when he wants to do it any no one can tell him any different .Desperate mom in texas any advice in appreciated thanks tami holland


Merenda - posted on 09/08/2010




From my experience: Many children with ADHD have problems in school and with teachers and sometimes have difficulties at home. They find it difficult to make and keep friends.
People often don't understand their behaviour and judge them because of it. They disrupt situations, often gaining punishments, so they may find it easier not to bother trying to fit in or do anything.
All this means children with ADHD often feel badly about themselves. They might think they're stupid, naughty, bad or a failure. Not surprisingly, their self-esteem takes a battering and they find it hard to think anything positive or good about themselves.
Although the symptoms of ADD/ADHD can be nothing short of exasperating, it’s important to remember that the child with ADD/ADHD who is ignoring, annoying, or embarrassing you is not acting willfully. Having ADD/ADHD can be just as frustrating as dealing with someone who has it. If you keep this in mind, it will be a lot easier to respond to your child in positive, supportive ways. With patience, compassion, and plenty of support, you can manage teenage attention deficit disorder while enjoying a stable, happy home.As a parent, you set the stage for your child’s emotional and physical health. You have control over many of the factors that can positively influence the symptoms of your child’s disorder. Keep things in perspective. Don’t sweat the small stuff and be willing to make some compromises. Believe in your child. Take care of yourself. Eat right, exercise, and find ways to reduce stress, whether it means taking a nightly bath or practicing morning meditation. If you do get sick, acknowledge it and get help.
Seek support. Raising a child with ADD/ADHD is that you don’t have to do it alone. Take breaks. Set clear expectations and rules A smile, positive comment, or other reward from you can improve the attention, concentration and impulse control of your child. Physical activity and better sleep can also help your child.Options to start with include getting your child into therapy, implementing a better diet and exercise plan, and modifying the home environment to minimize distractions.
Effective treatment for childhood ADD/ADHD involves behavioral therapy, parent education and training, social support, and assistance at school. Medication may also be used, as a combination with therapy or as a last option.

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