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My little boy is 8 months old today, I have a little issue. I refuse to call it a problem.... yet.
If you take his diaper off... he's PLAYING WIFF IT
pulling, tugging, pinching... I have to literally PRY his hands out of the way to fasten the tapes on a new diaper! When you put him in the tub.. there's one hand, under the water, ALL the time. He wont let GO!!!!!
Now I have seven brothers ( I was the only girl ) and my mom says that NONE of my brothers "found" it till they were maybe two or three. This boy is 8 months and he has been doing this for months!
Is it normal to start playing with it this early? Do I ignore this habit? Do I act like it's no big deal?
I don't want to scar him, or make him think that his privates are a no-no....
Do I shun him from this? He's really too young to sit down and talk to him about it, he's not doing it in public.. yet.
Is it bothering him? does it itch, or burn? Are there any physical signs I can look for to see if there is a medical issue? ( I see NOTHING out of the ordinary now)
Why is he tugging non STOP?

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Natalie - posted on 01/13/2010

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I read somewhere they can start around 3 months old!! Perhaps your mum has forgotten. But at 8 months my 3 boys were certainly at it. Now they are so proud of their erections. They can't believe how HUGE it gets. HeeHee. It's definitely a boy thing.

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Jennifer - posted on 05/14/2011

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lol. my son did this also :) he is turning three. he already has privacy issues with it too. i walked in hs room one day and caught him with his hand in his diaper and he screamed at me to get out. my husband was laughing so hard at this he started to cry. lol

Alena - posted on 01/17/2011

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Dont make such a big deal about it. He has no idea what it is or what its for. All he knows is that its his and he likes to touch it. He'll grow out of it eventually, a bit early to hit panic stations just yet just take his hand off it and give him something else to hold.

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My oldest son is 17 months and has been doing that since he was only a few months old. We teach him body parts like eye, nose, toes, etc so recently he asked what it was called and we told him. If you ask while changing his diaper he will say " dat pen-s". He is just exploring just like when they find thier ears they play with them. Also he has a diaper on most of the time so he isnt able to investigate as much. Don't worry I think its normal. My son doesnt do anything inappropriate in public and he is older so i dont think it will be an issue. I doubt there is any physical problem he pry just likes playing with it.

Kate - posted on 12/09/2010

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Well, My son was 3 or 4 months old when he found his. My son hasn't really stopped (3.5 years old now). When he was still a little, I just ignored it. Once he got older, I would tell him "if you would like to play with your penis, you need to wait until you are alone. That a private thing". And if he was putting his hands down his pants in public, I would remind him by saying, "Thats not appropriate right now, please wait until you are at home in the bathroom or your room my yourself".
He still does it, but a little less often while in public. At preschool if he is seen doing it he is told to wash his hands and it is otherwise ignored.

I actually asked his doctor about it at his 3 year check up and she said to ignore it as much as possible and it'll go away...But I still need to remind him where it is appropriate and where it isn't. He now at 3.5 asks for privacy when we are at home...So I think how I approach it helps a little. :)

Good luck, may you not have a boy who is consistent as mine. lol

Lori - posted on 09/22/2010

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It is very normal. I have 3 sons, aged 4 years, 20 months and 4 months. They all played with it as soon as they found it. The books I read about bodies said it is normal, and they do it because it feels good, but it has nothing to do sexually. I still find my oldest doing it. I always told my oldest he can not do that everywhere, if he wants to play with it, then he needs to go to his room. It usually stops for a while. Just carry on with what you need to do, and don't draw attention to it. Just remember, it could be a story you tell him later...My mother in law told me all about my husband as a baby!

Tara - posted on 09/05/2010

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Oh how funny. My eldest is obsessed with his self atteched toy ( as we like to call it). I truly believe that some boys just cannot help themselves. My yougest son does'nt do it at all. It annoys my husband as hhis hands are constantly down there. But other than chop his hands off (or other ha ha) I dont really see a solution other than to hope he grows out of it. But sadly I often see many grown up men do it (thankfully not the husband) maybe it is in their genetic make up. xxx

Ciara - posted on 08/19/2010

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My littleboy found his about 5 months and when I changed him he couldn't keep his hands off it .
He's now 2 and a half and he still does it. He's out of nappies so now he has free rain of it. He pulls down his trunks and plays with it, pulling it, streaching it etc. my husband winchs when he see's him doing it.

My mother told me that my 3 brothers did it too and my cousin all did it aswell. It's defo a boy thing :D

Amy - posted on 07/31/2010

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It's normal. My son just turned two today and still won't leave his ting-ting alone. Their in discovery mode and once they discover something its hard to get them to stop. Just don't make a big deal out of it and eventually it will ease up.

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Don't you just love the poopy butt escape! LOL! That could possibly be the fastest I move! LOL!
But seriously... I spoke to my doctor about this. He says, JC wasn't cut... so his little foreskin is working it's way apart from the glans. He is pulling and tugging on it because it feels good and his tugging is pulling the foreskin away from the glans. This process should be complete by the time he is 4 or 5. So I've learned, this is totally normal and even has a function.
Thank You all for the awesome responses! I am a first time mother (with 4 step kids) but this is the first time I've had to deal with EVERY aspect of raising a baby. I honestly don't think I would be anywhere NEAR as successful if I didn't have all of you and your support. :)

Kat - posted on 07/02/2010

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he just found a new toy :) my son discovered it around 8 months too. i think it keeps him occupied when i'm trying to change him so he doesnt crawl away with a poopy butt lol.

Victoria - posted on 06/20/2010

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dw my boy has been doing it since he was seven months, it's nothing sexual he's just discovered a new body part he wasn't aware of, if my boy pinches or pulls then i just move his hand away with out saying anything, if it's only him touching i let him get on with it as he needs to learn what it is, when he gets older i plan on explaining to him that it's where wee wee's come from and he shouldn't play with it as he could hurt himself. don't say it's disgusting or wrong or it could cause problems in future. xx

Magan - posted on 06/04/2010

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It's normal some find IT sooner then others. My son did and still plays with IT. All they understand is it is attached to them another plaything.

Tenille - posted on 03/31/2010

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lol wow i am going through this as i speak...My son is 4. My boyfriend and i were talking and i asked him if men lotioned their penis after they shower. His response was that "yes that gets ashy too" I said oh okay so the next day after my son had his shower i tell him to put lotion all over his body but to use vaseline on his penis..long story short he looks forward to taking his baths and when he is applying the vaseline he pulls and tugs and lays back while doing it. My boyfriend thinks its hilarious and i literally feel sick to my stomach when he does this. I guess its a boy thing but just maybe i should've allowed the penis to be ashy for a few more years.

Melissa - posted on 02/26/2010

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My son started playing with his about then too. And he is now 18 months old and still plays with it every time his diaper comes off and in the tub. It's just because it feels good and he just happened to discover this at that age. I wouldn't make a big deal out of it because like you said.. you don't want to scar him or make him think it's huge problem.

Hope - posted on 02/15/2010

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My two boys did the same thing.. The only time we have ever said anything is when our 5 year old started playing with it in the living room. I felt that he was old enough to not touch him self in the living room... So we sat him down and told him that if he wants to touch his pee pee then he needs to do it in his own room... LOL We made sure not to make a big deal about it but just explained that he is a big boy now and it helped when we pointed out that daddy doesnt touch him self all through out the house..lol
I had to laugh at the comment about the husband crying each time... Mine was the same way.. saying "man that has to hurt" or "dont pull that hard"..lol Man thing... thats all I can come up with..lol

Lauri - posted on 02/10/2010

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both my boys play with theirs too!!! My 4 year old now sleeps with one hand down his pants!!!! lol, at least its not in public!

Amber - posted on 02/08/2010

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My son is 18 months old and still plays with it. He sticks his hand in his diaper and does it in the tub. The dr said it's completely normal and it feels good to them just like it does an older boy...or man! So it feels good to him and it's an extra thing to play with. I wouldn't worry about it.

Tola - posted on 01/28/2010

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Its possible he's enjoying the breeze from the "suffocation" that the diaper has put him through. Think nothing of it. All boys did it at one stage or the other. I have 2 boys and they did the same thing right about your son's age. However, check if there's any redness. If so there may be an itch and you may need to visit the clinic.

Shalaina - posted on 01/18/2010

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My 6 month old has been doing that also, for a couple of months now! I had know idea to get him to stop..it is crazy, my husband about cries himself each time because of how hard he pinches, pulls, squeezes. We just move his hand and give him his ducky in the tub to distract him!

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Oh I feel so much BETTER! LOL
It makes me feel better that you have read that... I'll relax some now LOL
For the most part I try to just ignore it, let him do it. When we change a diaper I will start a little game.. "give me THAT" while I wrestle his hands away. He just laughs. I think he's going to be just FINE... all boy, he sure is!
And yes, it pains me to admit it, but my mother has forgotten a few things. She will sit around the table with us on holidays and tell stories, mixing up the kids. She tells a story about something my big brother did, and insists that it was me. Bless her heart, her memory is NOT what it used to be. :( She could have forgotten.

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LOL Thank you Natalie :)
Yes he does enjoy it, for SURE! He's so proud of it :)
I'm keeping an eye on it, but I'm not seeing any signs of anything unhealthy, nothing red, nothing swollen...
The main thing that worried me is that he's so YOUNG.. My mother is arguing vehemently that none of my brothers played wiff it so young
Thanks for answering, At least I'm not laughing alone anymore! LOL

Natalie - posted on 01/11/2010

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How funny. I'm sitting here laughing. He's enjoying the new toy he's found. At least he won't lose it. I think if it's a medical issue you'd know. If it was thrush the tip would be red or if there is an infection you would think it would trouble him every time he peed.

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