Want more info... Pulling Back

Danae - posted on 08/23/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )




Okay so my hubbys familly is all un-circ as is my son 2mths. My mother-in-law says that you have to pull back the skin every time you change their diaper. However I have read that now they are finding that you do not need to that it will retract on its own. I would like more info if any of you have it. Also do any of you have older boys that you left alone that are fine? How long does it take to retract? Am I doing the right thing by leaving it alone?


Kyla - posted on 05/24/2012




I want to add my two cents by saying that these ladies have it right. Don't retract it. He is just fine as he is. He will either retract it on his own (talk about the surprise of your life when you first witness him do it hehe), or when he's around 3 or so you can very gently see if there's any resistance - I'm NOT talking about pulling it back - just see if there's any resistance. Other than that there's no need. When he is retractable you will have to pull it back during bath time, and in my opinion teach him to urinate with it retracted. Many boys don't and I'm sure they're fine. But I think that it's part of maintaining a healthy penis.


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Nelly - posted on 11/24/2010




My sons are 16, 12 and 10 years old and our dr also told me to pull back their foreskin when they were in taking a bath. I still pull back their foreskin when I bathe them

Crystal - posted on 11/14/2009




NEVER RETRACT THE FORESKIN! Older generations were under the assumption you had to retract to "clean." This will lead to adhesions, and thus why a lot of people from older generations will tell you, "well I knew so and so, and he was intact and then HAD to get circed because of infection/phimosis/insert non relevant reason here" Adhesions will result in problems later. Retraction can occur anytime from birth to around puberty. Do not try to rush it. A lot of docs will tell you, "X must retract by 2,4,6 years or will need to be circed." Don't listen to them. Simply say, "Please do not touch my sons penis, thank you very much." otherwise a lot of docs will try to retract him. There is nothing in there they need to ever see, even when placing a cath they do not need to retract it at all. If you want more info, go here... www.doctorsopposingcicumcision.org.

Courtney - posted on 10/22/2009




DO NOT and I repeat DO NOT retract a child ever unless they do it themselves. Forced retraction is what causes a lot of the problems people associate with being intact like infection etc. My son is 4 years old and has NEVER been retracted. He is just starting to retract on his own and it can naturally happen any time before they are teenagers. Our doc says only be concerned if he hits puberty and it hasn't retracted on its own.

Robin - posted on 10/05/2009




NEVER NEVER NEVER retract even if the dr. tells you to tell him to update his info from the American Academy of Pediatrics. They state that you are NOT to retract just to wipe clean like a finger. Forced retraction can cause infections and adhesions(sp?) Never let ANYONE retract your son even the Dr. The first person to retract the foreskin is the owner of the penis and he may not be able to fully retract himself until he is a teenager. I'm sure when your son gets older you will notice him pulling and tugging at his penis this is a good thing, it is helping in the seperation of the glands. YES you are doing right by doing nothing and leaving it alone. Tell your mother-in-law her information is outdated. So make sure she is not retracting your son b/c she thinks she is doing right. She would actually be doing more harm to him. If you really wanted to push the issue anyone who forceable retracts an intact boy is assulting him and you can file leagal charges on them.

Jennifer - posted on 09/01/2009




Hi Danae,

My son is 2.5 now and I have NEVER retracted. Not even once! A friend of mine was told to retract by her Dr. and so she did and now he has to be circ'd because he is having problems with the foreskin attaching to the penis head. If I were you I would NOT retract.

Good Luck :D

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