10 y/o daughter obsessed with sex

Racheal - posted on 03/19/2015 ( 13 moms have responded )

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She it's getting in trouble at school for passing notes asking ANY boy who will entertain her if he will "f*%# her" (her written words.) She's also telling these boys to get her pregnant! I have been dealing with this problem for 3years now (since she was 7!) CPS has been involved several times but she insists that she's never been abused. I can't trust her around friend's children because she acts out sexually (talking about sexual acts with other children, trying to get them to experiment with her!) She doesn't realize nor does she care about the seriousness of the situation. She has recently asked a teacher how old her son was and if he's allowed to date because she likes him. She's flirty with older men and seeks x-rated attention ALL THE TIME! I'm afraid she will cause harm to her sisters or cousin. I'm afraid she will start having sex. PLEASE HELP! Thank you in advance.

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Meron - posted on 03/25/2015

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Rachael came to this page to ask for constructive advice on how to deal with her issues and not to be judged, it's so bloody easy to be a judge.

Racheal - posted on 03/20/2015

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This has been an off and on problem for three years. Not a constant problem. I was the one who brought cps in the picture both times that it had gone way past innocent crush to extreme sexual outburst. CPS has done their part to help but there has been no sign of abuse and her story hasn't changed. She keeps telling everyone that she's just trying to fit in with all the other kids who are talking about it. We saw school counselor and principal this morning and they told me that they are having problems with a couple of other children and couldn't be specific. They believe my daughter when she was questioned about these incidents because she's not the first or only kid to say that a couple specific kids are trying to teach the whole 4th grade about genitals and sex. They are going to take action with said other students but from what I have been told parental involvement is not being taken seriously by the perpetrators. Basically these kids are allowed to behave like this and are causing disruptions for many other students including my daughter. The counselor told me that my child appears to be going through puberty earlier than the other kids which is why her interest is amplified beyond the other children's.

Gdiva16 - posted on 08/13/2016

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This is very discouraging to even post to get help from other mothers. Im so turned off

Racheal - posted on 03/20/2015

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We have passwords protecting any channel that is above a G rating. She does not have access to movies or the internet. Nobody talks about inappropriate subjects in the presence of any children. It seems to be coming from other students at the school. School guidance counselor will not see her on a regular basis and insists we seek professional therapy. We don't make enough money to afford this but we make too much money for any state or government assistance. I'm at a loss and getting no help from the school. What part of WERE DON'T HAVE MONEY FOR THERAPY don't you people understand?? I'm not an idiot, counseling was my first go-to.

Jodi - posted on 03/20/2015

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Seriously, you've been dealing with this for 3 years, CPS is involved....and you have never had her in counselling?????

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Dylan - posted on 10/28/2017

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Racheal, you could have sent her to my house. I would have given her all the sexual therapy she could ever need. Your daughter sounds like a dream. I'm sure if she asked an older man instead of a little boy, she would have gotten what she was hungry to have. It is actually very common for 11 and 12yo girls to seek out sexual attention. 10 maybe a little young but not problematic.

Gdiva16 - posted on 08/13/2016

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Dove your disgusting. Your making quality points but disgusting. Pray to God the tables dont turn and any of ur kid dont get outside influenced and worst as never been told. And the way ur acting out here its cominf. Pray for forgivness.

Renski - posted on 06/30/2015

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My step daughter is 8 almost 9 years old. I have never heard of her trying to get boys to have sex with her yet anyways. But she is also this way. My family is scared to allow their boys over to my house.I also have two boys and i am scared i just watch everything she does. It is weird that she acts this way. I am also trying to figure out if anything ever happen to her she has been this way for about three years. We have custody of her and she goes to her mothers house in a different state about three times a year for some school brakes and thats when she started acting like this.

Chana - posted on 03/20/2015

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I think Dove is being realistic. You do whatever you have to do to help and protect your children. Insulting her for telling you what you need to do is not helping your daughter. You need to find a way to get her some counseling because if you don't a CPS are involved it is only a matter of time before she is taken away from you because her behavior that you are describing is inappropriate for any 10 year old. You say you are afraid of what she might do I would be just as afraid of her being taken away. I may be over stepping some lines here but it sounds to me like she has either been exposed to this behavior(media) or abuse, regardless of what you want to say and believe.

Racheal - posted on 03/20/2015

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Finally, something helpful. I appreciate you taking personal opinion out momentarily to give some helpful feedback as I continue my research of this issue and hw to rectify this for my daughter and our family.

Racheal - posted on 03/20/2015

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I wonder if you are this rude and condescending to your own children. Poor kids will never be able to confide in you because of how you react so negatively to others who try to reach out for help. At least my child has brought this to my attention and has owned up to her mistakes. I fear for the future of your helpless children. It takes a truely miserable person to kick someone while they are down. I'm sad for the people who are forced to be around you.

Racheal - posted on 03/20/2015

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You're fortunate enough to have valuable possessions to sell. As if the situation wasn't bad enough I don't need higher-than-thou-art parents being shitty and ride. Unless you have some useful information, keep your options to yourself. God have mercy on you if you ever find yourself in a similar situation because karma never forgets.

Racheal - posted on 03/19/2015

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I have never had the money for counseling. We are going to the school tomorrow to talk to guidance counselor.

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