11 yr old daughter change in attitude

Saradobe1 - posted on 08/22/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




I don't know how to handle my eleven year old, whom is going through puberty, and going to be new to middle school in a week. She is a different person; secretive, less affectionate, argumentative, distant. I am at a complete loss. I have tried talking to her about not giving into the gap that's trying to squeeze in between us. A year ago, she agreed to work on it with me...now she denies it's there. Is it too late? What do I do???? Help me! I'm so hurt about it! I miss her so much and try so hard to have a healthy relationship with her!


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Kristi - posted on 08/22/2013




My almost ten year old is hard to communicate with too. I think the most important thig is to keep some line Of communication open. Maybe share a journal time with her, or cook with her... A weekly lunch date? She is shy and reserved, and it's hard to get her to talk about her feelings. Let her know you are there to listen whenever she is ready to talk. Do also talk about your values, whatever those are, regardless of whether or not she responds. Tell her what things about her make you Proud, and when you know she could do better. Let her know you expect her to follow house rules and have a regular family meal that she must attend. I understand that these things all help a lOt.

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