4yr old princess attitude

Marci - posted on 09/25/2009 ( 5 moms have responded )




Ok so my four year old daughter thinks shes 14 Lol well shes not and she thinks she is. I am tired of fighting with her everyday because she does not get her way. Time outs dont help nothing helps I dont believe in hitting a child but I am close to smacking her and trying to set her straight and make her understand shes not the ruler in the house. does anyone know some advice they can give me on how to handle this thank you.


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Denikka - posted on 06/24/2013




I really don't think punishment is necessarily the answer here. You should absolutely not just accept the bad behavior, but this is a time when kids start asserting their independence and their control over their environment.
Try letting your child make some choices of her own. Give her a couple of options whenever you can (this shirt or that shirt, chicken nuggets or hot dogs, drawing or blocks). This will help her realize that while you're still in charge, she still has some say in what goes on in her life. I'm sure you wouldn't like someone dictating everything you did in your life, from when you wake up, to what you wear, to what you do, to what you eat. Neither do kids.
My children are 4 (boy) and 2 (girl) and I've had minimal issues with this. I'm not sure how much can be attributed to their personalities, but I firmly believe that a chunk of it is because I allow them as much freedom and independence as possible. Right from very little, I start allowing them to make some choices. Even things like *should we pick up the blocks first, or the stuffed animals*. It just makes them feel good that they can make those kinds of decisions for themselves, instead of being dictated to :)

The key is to limit the choices so that they're not overwhelmed. Allow them to pick between 2 or 3 preapproved things. If choosing something to wear, give 2 shirts and 2 pairs of pants instead of the whole wardrobe. That can be overwhelming and can lead to its own problems. Keep it simple :)

Amanda - posted on 06/23/2013




I am dealing with the exact same thing.. My 4 year old thinks she is the boss and is very disrespectful to me. She only does it when her daddy isn't home. I have Tried everything and like u I don't think spanking is appropriate. Not sure what to so next.

Kay - posted on 09/25/2009




Some times all you can do is take them to their bedroom set them on the bed walk out and close the door. She make kick scream and cry but after about 10 minutes and you haven't gone to her she will quite but not always. My daughter Shauna will lay spread out on the floor and sob to try and get her own way, its not so bad now that she is 8 but from 3to about 6 she was a huge DRAMA QUEEN. Boys are much easier trust me on this one.

Cortney - posted on 09/25/2009




I have the same probelm with my 10yr old thinking she runs the house. Well we just started taking the things she loves the most away. I would suggest taking her toys one at a time away from her until she changes her attitude. But do explain to her why you're taking away her toys and until she changes she will not get them back and stick to it.

Stephanie - posted on 09/25/2009




I just don't think this is your four yr old attitude! I think every four yr old in the world has a god complex. My son did when he was four! I took everything away from him!! I explained that he didn't have to have things or people. He had 2 hotwheel cars, one coloring book, 2 crayons, a bed, blanket, pillow, clothes(and not the ones he wanted), we didn't do bubble baths or watch tv. I took it all away until I saw a change in his attitude. When he acted ungreatful or winny I sent him to a corner and ignored him until the attutide changes. Physcitrists call it conditioning. They can't miss what they always have. Let her miss somethings. I just put my sons things in a closet in the middle of the nite so he didn't know where it went and we started a new day. It took about a month and i had to get everyone in his life to help but it worked. He's nine now and he is the most helpful, and generous child u have ever seen.

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